"Casually" TTC

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TTC number 2, we've agreed to go ahead in a "let's just see whAt happens, no pressure" kind of way. so I'm casually charting my cycles with a fertility app, breezily checking my cervical mucous, nonchalantly scouring the conception board and definitely not compiling a list of names for dc2 .
What is so frustrating is that because I'm "casually" charting all of this I know exactly when my fertile window is and keep bloody missing it because I don't want to give the game away and look like baby crazed monster! Last month my carefully timed advances were thwarted by a five-aside groin strain. I think today was the day and was planning a seduction after dd's bedtime but he announced he was off to his brothers for a bank holiday drink.
This is lighthearted and is not a problem with communication in my marriage. I think he felt the pressure last time and I'm really trying to keep this as relaxed as possible (for him) but that's just not my style.

lexb14 you need to have a frank discussion with your dh, lay your cards on the table. You could tell him that you really want another baby and want to make an appointment to have your coil removed. I sure his older step son will be delighted with a new sibling.
You could also try telling him contraception will be his responsibility after you get the coil out if he really wants to prevent it he will use a condom, if not then see what happens.

Sorry to hear that pallas.

Welcome to all the newbies X

Hi ladies can I join??

I have a DS who turns 1 next week, where did that time go?? Husband has been pestering for another baby for last 3 months and I've given in, now or never!! Had a horrible pregnancy last time and a horrific birth 4th degree tear; I've been crap at taking the pill for the last few months in the hope we would just have a "whoops" but now i completely stopped taking it a couple of weeks ago; should get my period this weekend but who knows last time I came off the pill it was all over the place and I took agnus cactus to help!! And I used ovulation sticks and temperature charting; ended up falling pregnant after getting blind drunk and not remembering we had Done it! How romantic- this time I'm going with the flow (however I know I will be a sex crazed ovulation symptom spotter maniac by the end of the month) x

Well my period finished complete yesterday afternoon.. That must be the shortest ever Sunday morning - Tuesday afternoon very light. So I still don't think my body is over the pill yet however I've got ovulation tests and ovia seems to think I should be fertile from next Friday so we shall see what happens.

Welcome curly, my youngest is 4 this year it flys by

still no period but another bfn this morning... i wanna know what my body is playing at! if iv not fallen pregnant this month just give me my period so i can get it over with and make a start on next month!

Hi Curly. I'm in a similar position to you. DD is 14 months but it was a traumatic birth - 60 hr labour with forceps, episiotomy and 3rd degree tear. Not sure how I'm even contemplating another one tbh but hormones are a strange thing! Have you thought what you'll do this time? Id like to talk to an obstetrician to discuss my options. Might try and insist on a planned c section but the crazy part of me wants to 'do better' next time. Ridiculous I know...

OMG definitely I so understand that!!! My head tells me I have to have an should have a planned c-section as if I had a 3rd or 4th degree tear again the chance of poop incontinence is about 70% and I don't want to be the mum that smells of poop! But my heart says babies come out of the VJayJay and maybe next time if I tried a little harder i would do better; I feel almost like saying oh well I'll just have a c-section is like doing all the hard work and cheating at the very end; I really didn't get the birth I wanted so not sure if I feel like I'm cheating myself or the baby?! Even though c-section isn't cheating and I'm totally not saying it is! I just want someone to make the decision for me! And to be honest the shall I shan't I has been why I've taken 3 months to convince to have another baby when OH is well up for it, but then it's not his bum that's at risk here!!!

Yup, my bum was also far more damaged than my fanny. Weird, isn't it. Honestly, the thought of incontinence is so impossible to bear I could sign on the dotted line of a c section agreement right here and now! What to do, what to do? Either way, I'm sure I'll spend half of my next pregnancy blooming terrified

Yup 9lb 4oz was ripped out of my ass!!! Don't think DS got the memo about the hypnobirth id planned!!! I'm terrified and I'm not pregnant yet!!!

9lb 14 here

OUCH!!!! ???? so do you like me worry the next ones going to be bigger???

Well that shocked face didn't work! I'll try that again

I certainly do. Mind you, my mum and grandmother both had big babies, but they got smaller each time, thank gawd. I was 9lb 10 myself so should have seen this coming...

Lordy ladies, I think you're amazing to be contemplating that again! For me, pregnancy and birth were fairly easy (apart from six weeks of vom) but it's the first three six fifteen thirty months of no sleep that scares me...

I had a difficult delivery with ds1, he was 9lbs 12ozs. Ds2 on the other hand was a really positive experience, he was born with 2 pushes and was 10 lbs 4ozs. A totally different experience from first time around.

ladies youre scaring the shit out of me here!! although from the sounds of it that may be a good thing!!

labour is the one bit im terrified about!!

sorry kitkat it can't be that bad, why would we go through it more than once if it wasn't totally worth it!

10dpo getting very faint lines is it bfp or Evap help please one is even on a clear blue advanced fertility stick but says bnf on the monitor......... Any ideas would be really helpful as I'm am so confused the faint lines came up with in the time but has got darker after time limit please help I am going out of my mind here ????????

I used those little blue sticks with DS and got a neg but by the next morning I had a faint line I splashed out on a digi and got a pregnant 1-2 weeks, so maybe your a little bit pregnant but not enough to pick up as a big flashing all bells positive? Fingers crossed for you xx

Yeah I will definitely be getting diff tests Tomorrow even if I have to buy one of each brand there is I will do baby dust n sticky bean ???????? thanks curly86 xxx

I'm excited for you!! Can you save your first morning wee to do them? Hormone is supposed to be strongest then! And even if it's not all bells and whistles don't write it off there might not be enough yet for the test to pick up!

All this talk of tearing and incontinence is making me want to start taking my pill again!

Yes can save it I will do a ic again in morn and post it see what you think and then I will save the fmu for the other tests I couldn't help myself I did one last one just there and same thing again xx

Sorry, I haven't been on this thread for a while....still been casually using my Ovia and noseying....on my TWW. Well, something really odd happened today. Maybe nothing to do with PG but wanted some advice please. I got woken up by the WORST headache ever, it actually woke me up! (Ive never had that before) then I was casually checking my boobs and this milky stuff came out (like watery milk, I only have had this once before with my last PG which ended in MC) so totally now panicking I did a PG Test (IC one) and it said Negative (a definite negative, no dodgy lines or evap or dodgy eyes)...Ovia says I can take PG test in 9 days time...is this at all normal?

They are looking good Shock