40+ and TTC? Join the club...

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To continue the support for everyone 40 and over who is or wants ttc. Lots of hand-holding and understanding, we're all together in the uphill struggle.

Ha ha Grizzer. If we need to get a quickie in before my sons bedtime we put him in his room, stairgate closed, with the iPad and that gives us around 30 mins silence

Looks like we will be cycle buddies. OV for me should be either Sat or Sun.

Seems my break from ttc is over in this sense that I OV first time after mc. Husband is in Spain though, so no stress this cycle yet:-) I need to get my mind around this bend and start to retry or give up totally. Or maybe half-hearted thing is the best, so I may be kind of ttcing, not really putting the effort in:-)

I have used the iPad method at times too newera god only knows what she watches but she wants to be a big sister so she has to play her part!! I'm going out for birthday drinks tonight though so might ruin all my hard work with booze. I need it after the crazy week at work I've had. Or maybe I'll come home & be in the mood for a drunken shag - twice in one night! Job done x

This is my last month of really trying Jass. I'm going to go for it for longer than normal after ov too. Think we normally stop too early. It's a hard decision though & you are still in the very early days after mc so maybe a more relaxed approach for a few months is what you need rather than stopping completely. I don't think I can do the relaxed approach though - it's all I ever think about!

So cd11 and no sign of OV. Opks have a slight line but wasn't showing a positive yesterday. Fertility monitor hasn't put me in my fertile window either so right now I'm hoping it's not going to be anovolatory.

Though saying that it's a good month if it is as I'm having my day 3/21 test done and I'll probably get referred. Fingers crossed I'll get my temp rise tomorrow or Monday.

Any news on ov newera? I think I ovulated day 13 which is slightly earlier than normal. I'm not sure if that's bad or not.... Managed to dtd quite regularly though so I'm pleased. Would have liked to try again today but dh has asked for a rest! These men pretend they're up for it all the time but really have no stamina!! Lol.
I'm having acupuncture on Tuesday which is probably a bit late as ov has passed but will try anything. Going to book an extra session around implantation time which I've never done before. Really throwing everything I can at it this month.

Hey Grizz, well got my first pos opk last night so I think I ovulated today. Hopefully my temps will confirm that tomorrow.

We have shagged like rabbits the last four days, twice today! So OH now has a couple of weeks off whilst I symptom spot madly . First acupuncture treatment on Wednesday and blood test on Friday. God I hope I get a BFP, I feel like we deserve it but I know it doesn't work that way.

Fingers crossed for us both xxx

I'm crossing everything for you too

I don't have a single opk in the house, and yesterday, in the supermarket I stopped for a second at the First Response conception kit, then I kept walking...It's like an alcoholic walking past a bottle of gin when there's none in the house. So perhaps I am on the way to beating my addiction! Or least coming to a point where it will not be my biggest concern.

This month I am taking a cruisey approach.If the mood takes us, then so be it, but no special timing etc.

I am very busy trying to fit in 4 -6 hours of exercise per week (which will be interesting given I have a sore shoulder). I've joined a program to improve fitness and health, so we shall see. Perhaps it will keep my mind occupied, and I'll think less about the Precious Last Baby I wanted so much.

I hope everyone else is doing well.

Good to hear from you Jass. I am glad you are back to ovulating.

Need support ladies just been to loo and small amount blood, 14 weeks exactly how my mc started

kiwi..... just saw your post and I hope it is just some bleeding and nothing serious???? And unmumsnet hugs xxxx

Oh god kiwi, have you contacted EPU?

kiwi Deep breaths. Is it brown or red blood? Please try not to panic. Can you speak to your midwife and/or the EPU? There is still a big chance that everything is fine!

Everything crossed for you Kiwi. I had bleeding during my pregnancy and it was fine. Can you get into the EPU?

Hi called the said just observe, it's pink colour not a lot but exactly how my mc started, stressed out SCARED to move, SCARED to go to the loo, due amino next week so would have been worse if this started after that. Was just starting to think maybe i was going to be blessed with a pregnancy at this age, even if all ok how can I get through six months, I am such a worried, I know need to take one day at a time.

Could you book to have a private scan?

Kiwi I'm sending all positive thoughts & prayers to you. Hope you're ok x

Kiwi keeping everything crossed for you. More unMumsnetty hugs.

In my TWW and 3 days off my expected period. I've been feeling nauseous on and off but did a 'First Response' test a couple of days ago and it was negative.
Really don't know what to think. I know i only have to wait a few days now but i'm soooo impatient!!!

Kiwi - I am sorry to hear you are having this worry. Can you have an ultrasound? I can understand your worry, but many,many women have bleeding in pregnancy which turns out to be nothing. I hope you'll have answers soon.

kiwi how are you??? Did things settle??? I know it is not mumsnet talk but I thought of you all night and do hope everything is ok...

How are things today, Kiwi?

LastMinute, can you hold off to test until your actual due date? It would case me more stress to be testing early, I think.

Hi well today very small amount of brown thread discharge, sorry for details. No cramping and still doing my daily vomiting for last 7 weeks, called midwife just told to observe and call if worse, don't know what they can do I suppose but you are just left in limbo, nipping to check every ten minutes what's happening.amino next week will they do that if bleeding. It's all so stressful.

Hand holding here Kiwi. I found I had two or three batches of brown discharge that seemed to occur when my periods would have been due. I don't know if there's any science to support that, but that was the timing.

Brown is good.

Kiwi
Sorry you have to go through this.
Would you not consider a private scan. The worry and stress cannot be good for you at this time.

Oh Kiwi. Hand holding here too xx