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TTC #2 and turning into a nut job!

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gemmeg · 18/02/2013 07:13

Ladies, bring me back down to Earth before it's too late! I'm TTC #2 and its only the 2nd cycle and I'm already doing my own head in not to mention my OH.....we're not the kind of couple to have regular sex when not TTC (much to my disappointment Sad) so it's a real effort for DS to, erm, pull his finger out as it were and DTD every other day. With DS1 I had no idea about CM and OPKs and just used an ovulation calendar for timing but this time round I'm in danger of falling into the OPK trap! I'm aware of my constant whittling and DH even said that he hopes I get pregnant this month so he doesn't have to listen to me begging for him to do it just one more time! Anyone in the same boat?

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Tinyflutterby · 18/03/2013 20:15

Does anyone think we should have a Chocolate smiley? I'm not fussed about tea, coffee or wine, but I do like to indulge in some chocolate (especially if obsessing, which is often).

MortifiedAdams · 18/03/2013 21:36

Im ovulating NOW two whole days later than I thought , and am at bloody work til midnight. Will just have to wake dh up when I get in Wink

What I thought was conception was probably just gas and tiredness.

MortifiedAdams · 18/03/2013 21:37

Also have worked out that if we conceive this month, dc2 will arrive on or around dds birthday so we can have all the birthdays and christmas all together.

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gemmeg · 19/03/2013 08:04

Feeling pretty low today....as I said before, we didn't get round to DTD on Sunday as DS was ill and I was knackered by the time I went to bed so we said we'd do it Monday instead, well that never happened either. Got no idea when/if I'm going to ov this month as DS has been waking in the night to feed a lot. Just hope the OPKs haven't missed my LH surge and I get a smiley face so I can at least have the feeling we did something this month Sad. Started off so hopeful for this month.

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Tinyflutterby · 19/03/2013 13:34

Gemmeg, sorry to hear you're feeling low. It really is a rollercoaster isn't it? We spend half our time anticipating ov, then about a week worrying whether we've dtd at the right time, then 2 agonising weeks of waiting, trying not to obsess over symptoms, building up our hopes with countless bfn's, only to have our hopes dashed again by the arrival of af. I feel your pain. I'm so wound up I'm not even sleeping now.

2beornot · 19/03/2013 18:12

Don't despair gemmeg. You don't know if you've ov yet so it prob wont matter that you didn't dtd sun/mon. I hope you get your smiley face soon.

I need a slap!!! I planned to POAS tomorrow which is two days before AF due. But couldn't help myself and did it today. It wasn't even an early response test (accidentally got the wrong ones). So of course it was a BFN but if course I can't help but think that's it for another month (sigh). Partly because af came 4 days early last month. So should I buy an early one and do it tomorrow or thurs, or wait til Fri when AF is due?

ASmidgeofMidge · 19/03/2013 18:24

Hi nut jobs. Cracked yesterday and did test-still bfn. But still no af. Aaaargh! Sorry to hear you're feeling low gemmeg - it is a real roller coaster as tiny says and there's so much waiting in the whole process :-(

ASmidgeofMidge · 19/03/2013 18:30

Hi nut jobs. Cracked yesterday and did test-still bfn. But still no af. Aaaargh! Sorry to hear you're feeling low gemmeg - it is a real roller coaster as tiny says and there's so much waiting in the whole process :-(

coffeewineandchocolate · 19/03/2013 18:36

AF due on friday but also cracked and POAS. Bfn- not surprising really

Mummytothearkbuilder · 19/03/2013 19:03

Sorry you are feeling low gemmeg - you may not have missed ovulation yet and still in with a chance - fingers crossed lovely!
I agree with tiny - every part of the cycle brings its own set of worries and waiting!! Xx

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gemmeg · 19/03/2013 19:22

Thanks nutters Flowers. No smiley today but feeling twinges in my tum. Perhaps I've had it wrong the past months and get these twinges before ov....doesn't look as though we'll get down to it tonight either as DH feels sick. Oh we'll, I've accepted it's not to be this month.

Chin up 2be it's certainly not over for you yet esp if you tested with a normal pg test. Try with the first response if you really can't wait. It ain't over til the old hag shows up Wink

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Mummytothearkbuilder · 19/03/2013 19:43

Gemmeg - not sure about everyone else but I get twinges before a positive OPK - about 2 days before - not sure if that helps x

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gemmeg · 19/03/2013 20:07

Thanks mummy. I usually have a week of unbelievable bloating and soreness but have always assumed this is after ov (dunno why) so I'm leaving it to the opk to tell me what's going on this time. I'm just hoping that my LP is going to be long enough to support pg....oh well, I should stop second guessing and just wait and see I suppose. I'M JUST SO IMPATIENT!!!Grin

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MortifiedAdams · 19/03/2013 21:24

The waiting is hard isnt it! I have 1st April in mind to POAS and a stick set aside for it, if AF doesnt appear. lord knos if ill manage to wait til then.

My boss is making mumurings about one of tye staff "I think shes pg" type chatter and I keep sayong sternly "its against the law for you to ask!!" Grin will feel deceitful if I get a bfp next month and end up being the one who is. Especially as Ive only been back at work six months from last mat leave.

ASmidgeofMidge · 20/03/2013 09:32

I don't understand I dont think I've got a proper grasp of 'cycles' at all. If no AF but bfn, can anyone help me with what that means? Did I not ovulate, or maybe ovulated later than expected? DH and I have struggled a bit with dtd this last month: dtd on cd14, 16 and another day I forgot to note but work shifts since then have made it difficult. Those days were marked on my app as ovulation days, and have noted my cycle length as being 28-32 days on months I've remembered to track..

nomoreminibreaks · 20/03/2013 09:49

Hi asmidge - how late are you? I completely understand how you feel. I was 5 days late last month after tracking for quite a few months. In the end when AF arrived I was actually just relieved to know one way or the other and then drank a load of gin

ASmidgeofMidge · 20/03/2013 10:16

Am now 8 days late...

ASmidgeofMidge · 20/03/2013 10:18

The other thing I'm not sure about is if AF just doesn't appear at all this month, for some non-preganancy random reason, will I still ovulate at predicted time? (Currently end of March) Sorry about all my questions!

Mummytothearkbuilder · 20/03/2013 10:25

Smidge - it's such a horrible waiting game isn't it Hmm even if you didn't ovulate then you would still have a period as your body will need to get rid of the thickened womb lining that's happened in preparation for the egg release (sorry if that tmi). My cycles are rubbish and I can often have a period without ovulation (which is rubbish!!).

Do you use OPK? X

ASmidgeofMidge · 20/03/2013 13:07

Hi mummy-it's ridiculous as this is the first cycle TTC and I'm so impatient. Think the thing is for me that have spent last 9m coming off some meds o I could start TTC so in my head have been trying longer iykwim ? No, daren't use opk's as think I would get ultra obsessive! Am planning to just track using app and cm...

ASmidgeofMidge · 20/03/2013 13:08

*so

Mummytothearkbuilder · 20/03/2013 13:29

I completely understand what you mean - me and DH spoke about trying for number 2 for few months before I came off cerezette so in my mind those few months of talking about it are added to the time we have been ttc.

We have been trying since May 2012 and I had a BFP on 13th jan but miscarried on 15th feb so this is my first cycle and I am already putting so much pressure on myself - I wish I was a go with the flow type of gal but I am most definitely not!!

Have you always had regular cycles? X

ASmidgeofMidge · 20/03/2013 13:42

Pretty regular, give or take 2-3 days...

Mummytothearkbuilder · 20/03/2013 14:03

You may have ovulated later which would mean your BFP would show up later (fingers crossed). Have you spoken to your drs?

This is my first cycle tracking ovulation and using OPK - does anyone one know how I count my DPO - I got a positive OPK on Friday so do I count from there making me 5dpo.

Sorry if that's a really obviously question! Smile

pettyprudence · 20/03/2013 14:36

smidge sorry to hear you are still waiting, hope something happens either way... maybe visit Dr if no af or bfp by day 10?
re opks - i think they show that you will ovulate in the next 24-48 hours? so maybe count the dpo 24hrs after lh surge?