Fantastic Forty Plus, part 9, this time is our time,bring on the bfp's!

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We've filled out thread - I do hope you all find your way here. I can't add a message on the old thread to let you know it is here...

This new thread, will no doubt have its own set of bfp's and babies. I am excited to see what it brings.

OMG, Deige, who would have thought a child of 7 would have a twisted ovary??? I am so glad she is out of surgery. You poor thing. I hope her recovery is easy.

Isabeller, it is a highly emotional roller-coaster that you are on. I hope you can take time to look after yourself and DH, perhaps you could get a massage/reflexology/acupuncture to help you relax during this time? I've got everything crossed for you.

Newpatches, where does your DSis live? The fires have been terrifying, I hope she's out of danger now.Sorry about your BFN, but it is early days and you are still having good symptoms (if you can call throwing up "good").

It is forecast to be hot again today, but right now it is pleasantly cool. I might take a walk on the beach and a swim before I head out to acupuncture later this morning. Looking forward to it.

Blimey Diege. Hope she recovers quickly. Big hugs.

Evening All, especially newbies. Nice to see lots of lovely new ladies on here.

Wylie with your DH away, is there any facility where you could have his sperm frozen and stored? Just a thought. And supplements needn't be scary or make things worse. I took a huge amoungs of vits and weird supps and who knows, they could have been responsible for DS snuggled up next to me?

Re supps and top tips etc, did anyone get round to setting up another thread to post top tips on so we have a place to chat here on this thread and then a resources list? Want to check first before doubling up on things. Could someone let me know please? If there isn't one then I will set up soon and post my top tips and it would be great if people like Gum, Lol (if you're still with us out there), to name but two, could do the same as there is a wealth of knowledge here. I know we have all tried different things - Lol I know felt DHEA was great, whereas I wasn't keen, but some of you might thing Royal Jelly is a waste of money.

DoctorwhoFan just have to say - am totally in awe of your bagging a partner 14 years your junior. I really hope you do get that golden egg soon.

twentythirteen please take it easy on yourself. You're on 40!! That is very young by many of our standards. Good luck with getting a good, strong, sticky bean soon, and keep posting. That's what we're here for. In my experience it's better to post on forums like this than have all your TTC trials and tribulations out there in RL - gets way tooooo oppressive.

Newpatches hope your ear infection clears up soon.

Irish thanks for the top tips. I'll see if I can get round to expressing.

greenlizard yes - have done IVF x 2 cycles. Both failed but wonder if it kick-started 'things' as I conceived the month after 2nd cycle failed. Happy to help with any questions you may have.

Amberini welcome also and good luck. Your story is quite similar to many others on here - those with children already but not with current DP. Glad you're enjoying trying!!!

jbrd big hug for you. Really impressed with how you're bouncing back.

I'm tired, time to get some sleep. Sweet dreams all. FF xx

Morning from a damp, gloomy London. Looks like the rain is coming back!

hopeful I used to live in HK and completely understand how oppressive the heat can be especially when it is humid too (I had terrible hair all the time because it was so humid!)...but when you tell us you are going for a stroll down the beach in the morning and a swim in the sea...well it's no wonder we are all a bit ! Grass is always greener of course. Hope you enjoyed your acupuncture - you inspired me to try it so I am off for my first appointment this evening. Not sure I planned the appointment well because I have an appointment for a bikini wax at the beauticians afterwards - which isn't entirely relaxing!

diege a twisted ovary - ouch! Do they even know how that happened? Glad they figured it out and got it sorted with no risk. Can't believe you poor DD is being bothered by her lady bits already! At 7 I bet she will bounce back in no time.

jbrd Good for you for taking some time to rest and feel a bit stronger. Work can be a bit rough if you are feeling a bit wobbly and it would take you longer to recover. Good luck with your bake off - I am sure you family and friends are appreciating the output I also love the film up but it has the saddest first fifteen minutes of a film i have ever seen. I especially love the daft dog - brilliant!

Thank you Tina99 and Firefiles for you advice on IVF - I am going to think about it (whilst trying everything else in my power!) - I hope you don't mind if I ask you questions if I have any?

Welcome to Amberini and welcome back twentythirteen I don't think we've met

Get well soon Patches - I burst an ear drum a few years ago - it really, really hurt but the infection before hand felt like my head was going to explode.

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Thanks for your messages ladies! Off to Alder Hey now (will be eyeing up every 40 plus lady to see if they are Irish who I think is also there today?

Not that any of us look 40 of course so will widen stalking to 30

Crikey Diege hope your daughter feels better soon, thank goodness they worked out what it was.

Thank you for the suggestions hopeful. Car parts arrived and it's cold but sunny so here goes.

Nope she gets better soon diege who'd have thought you could get a twisted ovary at 7? X

Blimey Diege, what a nightmare! You must have been worried out of your skin. Glad they found out what it was though and got it sorted out.

To be fair FF, I didn't really do anything, although I may have been wearing a low cut dress of some description - I have good bras, giving the impression (only the impression, mind) of still having a cracking rack! Otherwise, I'm still pretty tomboyish, a bit overweight, and mad as a box of frogs, so I've no idea why he thought I was a good bet! Telling your young boyfriend, for whom you're his first serious girlfriend that you have bipolar is probably one of the scariest things I've done, but I didn't want him to get too involved before I told him. To his massive credit, he didn't bat an eyelid and has coped brilliantly through several periods of utterly black depression. And yet men I've dated of my own age over the years have run a mile when I've told them.

He's very special...and I'm quite long-suffering of him spending a good portion of the time we get together at weekends when he's actually conscious, shooting at a farm with his mate. I generally don't go because I'm a better shot than him - years of practice doing drive by shootings on Grand Theft Auto!! You know, I think I have a few too many y chromosomes

Morning lovelies

DoctorWhoFan..your post made me laugh. My DD1 also has far too many Y chromosomes...her xmas list included Thor, Dark Knight Rises, The Hulk...it makes her very popular with boy mates though, lol.

Diege Your poor DD, it's bad enough that we have to deal with all things reproductive when we're older, but for her to have to cope with that so young. How is she doing? Is she ok in herself? (What does that phrase even mean???)

GreenLizard That'sexactly how my ear has felt, like it was going to explode. Then last night the most violent stabbing pains were going through it. I figured it was either getting better or was about to burst. The swelling seems to have gone down though a bit but it's still horribly painful.

Hopeful She is in NSW, about 200 miles south of Sydney. When I spoke to her last the fires were about 15 mins away from her - she was hosing her house down and clearing the gutters etc. Fingers crossed it's passed her by. Just to make you feel even better, it's soooo cold today, I live in a thatched house and there are huge icicles hanging from the thatch. Very picturesque but deathly cold. The paths are like ice rinks.

Ok...so I did POAS this morning but it was a BFN again. I am 12dpo so should be getting a + around now but I will stick it out until AF is due and then check again. They are the internet cheapies...I have a clearblue digital but I have read they are not too sensitive so might keep that until if I get a bfp just for the thrill of seeing the words!!!

Stay warm and safe girls

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Haha Patches...I have those films. DP was so relieved when I said "anything with explosions and car chases" when he suggested the flicks the first time. He knows he's lucky to have a low-maintenance girlfriend who doesn't mind spending date night with a gun in her hand trying to get rabbits for the pot!

Oh, and Iron Man...she luuuurves him (but then again who wouldn't.....? lol)

Diege I didn't know that was possible. Hope your DD feels better soon. And for looking out for 40 ish year olds, what do you all think of yourselves? I feel I have a young mind and a reasonably healthy body but my hair is really going grey now and my knees won't last my lifetime!

I had another ovary twinge today so of course I'm hoping that sperm has met egg and is causing a kafuffle as it makes its way along. We were only able to dtd once though (damn busy schedules coinciding with positive opks!), our chances are therefore slim. Having said that though, two of my pregnancies were from one off dtd's so I'm not so conderened about that.

DoctorWho, I'm also quite low maintanace (although am not fond of the term!) and am into a lot of typically boy type films, sci fi, action. My OH gave me the Hunger Games trilogy for christmas and I could not put them down, very action oriented but a wonderful strong female lead character who isn't just super confident and all knowing but gets things done!

Greenlizzard I laughed at the order of your appts, acupuncture and then a wax, ouch! Or maybe you'll be more prepared to manage the discomfort?!

Thanks 1000FF, I do try to take it easy, we do get pregnant and that's really great, I know, but for whatever reason I haven't been able to sustain it and I did look at my 2013 diary and just think "how many mc's will I be fitting in this year?" Tannks for offering to do a list of tips, will read it with relish!

Hopeful, wow, a swim in the warmth !

Isabeller, I don't understand about the injection but hope you're feeling better soon.

Well, my body's buggered, twenty. And I've been going grey since I was 21, runs in the family. And as for the knees, i used to run, but ended up with crappy cartilage and double knee surgery 6 years ago which didn't work. Oh, and I suspect that my ancient ovaries are going to rob me of a DC. On the plus side...erm...there is one, right? Oh yeah, there's my DP, without whom my life would utterly suck. And at 6'4", he's a sizeable plus side!

Please all feel free to vomit copiously, apart from Patches who has been doing so for days in any case!

Hey ladies....hand holding needed.
I have been around and smiling at your stories, but not posted as it didnt seem right to jump in and winge about my situation.
However...this morning I woke up to brownish discharge which seemed to stop but I'm now feeling a sore period-type pain and noticed red blood when I went to toilet. Its not looking good is it??
I rang EPAU this morning but they didnt really want to know and just said come on Monday as arranged for the scan. So I booked a private scan for tomorrow afternoon. However if this progresses it seems pointless paying £75 for bad news .
DP is away on adventure training this week so the message I sent him has only just got to him and when he called he had to hang up after 5 mins.
I'm bracing myself for the worst tonight. Just me and DS (15) in the house.
I'm so scared......

Oh Calibee honey...I'm so sorry. Awful to be having to cope with that on your own. Virtual hand holding xx

Oh calibee I'm so sorry you're facing this, and without dp too . What a rollarcoaster you've been on (and are still on). At least the scan tomorrow will give you some answers and, if it is bad news (and it may not be of course) you will slowly be able to mentally take it in before Monday where you can discuss options. I really feel for you - I have been in the same situaiton twice and it is really, really cruel .
ON a happier note dd3 is home and recovering VERY fast indeed; dare I say milking it a little . I'm not complaining though!

Thankyou ladies...very much appreciated. Feeling very tearful and super sorry for myself.
So glad your little girl is home Diege....the worst part of parenting for me is when they are ill x

Another hand available for holding calibee by the fire with a big mug of hot chocolate x

CaliBee, I'm so sorry! Will be thinking of you tomorrow x

Glad your brave little daughter is making a fast recovery Diege.

You feel as sorry for yourself as you like calibee...I hope things settle down for you though. Does DS know what's going on? My DS is also 15 and is my rock, he is a great support in so many things. Shocking that you have to go private for a scan - it's such a horrendous thing to wait out. I've been there Calibee so I empathise so much. Please post as much as you need, won't you?

Diege That's great news that DD is home and recovering, and milking it! You know they're getting better when they do that. I have a sick house at the moment...both DDs have horrendous coughs, and DS is complaining of a sore ear (hope this isn't catching), and I have just been sick again. We're an attractive lot, lol.

On a happy note may I take the time to boast that DD1 passed her driving test today? ...it was her first time too, so am very very proud of her .

newpatches aww well done to your DD. Both of my eldest now drive DD1 nearly got banned in her 1st year for speeding twice and dd2 passed this time last year and wrote off her little KA in August...raa. She has now got a clio but is struggling to meet insurance costs.
My DS does know and I have (with a brave face) told him whats going on today. I'm just worried that if things get worse it may scare him...only one bathroom here. So wish DP was here.....sniff sniff...more tears. I so wanted his baby. I know it seems like I'm thinking the worst but this rollercoaster has been going on for over 3 weeks now. It doesnt feel like anything good can come from it.

Another hand here, CaliBee - I know how it feels, and I've got everything crossed for you. I can't believe you've got to get a private scan either. Things work differently here in Belgium - when I started spotting I called my gyne at home in the evening (because that's what you do here) and she said, 'Come in whenever you can tomorrow and I'll squeeze you in for a scan between patients'.

Glad your DD is recovering, Diege - and congratulations to yours, patches!

Thankyou morien....i guess I could call EPAU in the morning and explain that the bleeding has progressed and see what they say.
Just spoke to DP again and he told me he told his brother about the pregnancy....why oh why did he feel the need to tell him that now??? He didnt understand why I dissolved into tears again.
Bleeding is still only just when I go to the toilet...not making its way to pad yet. Is this typical pf how it all starts?

thankyou pink x