TTC first child, anybody else in the same boat? Thread 2

[Bunnygirlie]

The old thread was getting chocca so lets start again lovely ladies -

Bunnygirlie - 32, married, TTC since June, AF due 5th Oct

[ella0]

Pipbin this is my first month of using OPKs (3rd month trying). I tested from CD6 (as per instructions) and was really worried when I had a negative result every day (up until yesterday). I think they made me more stressed than I was during the previous two months because I was constantly worrying that I wasn't going to get a positive result.

I think I'll be more relaxed in future months now I know they work for me. I think they're great; for the previous two months we dtd way more than we had to because I wasn't sure exactly when I ovulate (though I could estimate). Using OPKs, I feel like we can take it a bit easier and just concentrate on the few days around ovulation (though we did start before the smiley face, just in case I didn't get one).

Flippin heck, that Fertility Friend graph looks complicated!

cwtching can they do more tests to see if the varicocele will affect your DH's fertility or do you just have to keep trying?

I think it does help talking about it irl. We have told quite a few people now. I initially regretted it as it adds extra pressure (people constantly asking, and it's especially upsetting when you've just got af), but it is good being able to talk about it to certain friends sometimes - I think I would drive myself mad if I couldn't.

It is so nice to see so many others in their 30s ttc #1. That's exactly how I felt rache as most people I know irl had their first in their mid 20s.

Yay for your first smiley janey. I was so excited to get mine!

I thought I had an implantation bleed in month 1 as I had lots of twinges and spotted on around 7dpo - I had never spotted before - but it turns out it was probably due to the Pregnacare Conception I ws taking (a search on the net shows this has happened to lots of people who have taken it - I've stopped taking it now). Last month I had sore boobs which I had never had before, and a night sweat which I have only had when ill, but they disappeared and af turned up! So I give up with symptoms!

[Pipbin]

Hello to new people!

I stopped the pill on the last day of April last year, it took until the September for my cycle to get back to normal and to stop feeling odd.

Yes fertility friend is bbt temping, but I used it to record my cycles and DTDing before I started temping.

[Rache1S]

Ahhh ella0 that's interesting what you say about Pregnacare. I started taking it 3 weeks ago so that could very well explain the spotting. I'm going to finish the packet off and then stop it and just take folic acid as I already have a balanced diet. I suppose there's a small glimmer of hope that it could have been implantation but in the absence of any other symptoms I won't get too excited. If AF is late I will test at the weekend

[ZombiesAreClammyDodgers]

Am out of town for some days on work and have a feeling missed ovulation time. Frankly janey like you I'm mostly oblivious to my cycle (found out how many days it was just about ten days ago when started to TTC!) It's probably good in a way as had been making TBWTBs a bit obsessively because of not knowing when or even whether had ovulated.
The CBDT is waiting at home so when I get back will start with that.
Oh and I used conceive plus too these past few days and may I just say that I may never go back to non lube days again and this is probably the most non reactive lube I've ever used. Have been using those single applicators and (TMI alert) have to remember to keep tissue handy because it's no fun waking up terribly sticky with the amount that the applicators contain!
(TBWTBs= the beast with two backs)

[Mixology]

I'm already getting slightly obsessive... AF isn't due until 28 September but I went ahead and tested today with a BFN. Does this mean it's all over for this month?

I too have been taking Pregnacare Conception daily. quite creepy about the spotting, but good to know. I would have taken spotting as a definite sign!

[ZombiesAreClammyDodgers]

I saw some reviews on amazon which said pregnacare drove their cycles haywire?!

[HazleNutt]

mix, no, it's simply too early to test.

[ella0]

rache fingers crossed it is implantation for you.

I'm taking Sainsburys mum & bump tablets now as I can't take my usual multivitamins due to the vitamin A they contain. I haven't had spotting with these (they only contain 100% RDA of vitamins, unlike the Pregnacare conception ones). I did really get my hopes up when I had the spotting, especially as it was on exactly the right days you would normally get it.

zombies I've read that too - that it affects ovulation etc. There's a thread on one forum that goes on for pages, with people talking about the side effects they experienced. Wish I'd read that before I bought it on offer!

mixology I agree with hazel, surely it's way too early to test.

[cwtching]

No AF today but I think it's on it's way! I'm definitely definitely going to try using OPKs this month as it sounds like they do reduce the stress of it a bit! ella I've just booked an appointment with the GP for H and I (we have to wait 3 weeks for one on a sat). We wanted to give it a decent try before we saw anyone as I think normally they say to try for a year and I didn't want to seem neurotic! !

Blimey that's awful re the pregnacare conception! I've been taking pregnacare so i'm defo going to be doing some googling. ella that's terrible with the spotting I would have taken it as a sign too.

mixology it is a tad early to test ... I think there's still hope this cycle!

X

[Lolcbcblemonlime]

Hello ladies
I've been away for a week and all my threads have disappeared!!
So I'm now rejoining if I may
Have I missed any exciting bfps?
I'm 11 dpo here with not much to report.
I also had spotting with pregnacare so decided not to take it anymore. I'm currently taking the wilkinson ones which were on special offer and when I checked content it was pretty similar to pgcare!

[Rache1S]

I cracked and did a test this morning and it was unsurprisingly BFN AF due in 2 days so I cheered myself up by ordering an OPK and a BBT thermometer for next month. I'm not too disheartened as it was our first ever month TTC and I quite frankly enjoyed the "practicing." I am also looking forward to a nice at the weekend. Every cloud....

[cwtching]

Hello Zombies, Caboodles, Quadlibet, HappyLass and Rache! I've added you to the list:

Cwtching- 32, Cycle 8, AF due 18th September
LilyJosh - 35, Cycle 2, AF due 21st Sept
Rache1S - 34, Cycle 1, AF due 21st September
Quodlibet - 32, cycle 7ish, due 27 Sept.
Mixology - 32, married, first month TTC, AF due 28 September
Ella0 - 32, married, TTC since July (on cycle 3), AF due 1st Oct
Janey - 37, TTC since Aug, AF due 2nd Oct
Zombies- 32, cycle 1 dodgy cycle, AF possibly due Oct 3.
Bunnygirlie - 32, married, TTC since June, AF due 5th Oct
Caboodles - 30, Cycle 1, AF due?
Frantastic1 - 34, Cycle?, AF due?
Happylass, 34, Cycle 1, AF due?
HazelNutt - 33, trying for a couple of months, AF due?
Pipbin - 37, TTC since May 2011, AF due?
Pipersouth - 36, TTC for a few months, AF due?
WhiskeryWoman - 31, Cycle 10, AF due?

Sorry about the BFN Rache but for the and the "practicing".

Hazel I just did a google image search for Koh Lipe, it looks absolutely beautiful - do you have any tips for places to stay on the island?

[Lolcbcblemonlime]

Meeee please! Can I go back on the list?
Lolcbcb 38, married, had mc in July. Ttc ever since. Was just "seeing what happened" until then!

[Pipbin]

I'm liking this thread, we are all over 30. Brilliant.
Not sure when AF is due as I seem to have ov'd a week early!

[HazleNutt]

cwtching well we were there a couple of years ago, so maybe they have built something new, but we stayed here: www.idyllicresort.com/
Lovely resort and it was at the end of the Sunrise beach, so it was nice and quiet. If you want more life on your doostep, stay on Sunset beach. But the island is small, so it's just a few minutes walk from one side of the island to the other anyway.

rache1 if the AF is not even due yet, it might be too early to test, go easy on the wine!

My cycle is probably messed up after the chemical so it's time for us get busy, just in case. Persona monitor claims it's already a "red" day, but they say the monitor might not be accurate after a m/c and it will give you red if in doubt.

Is it just me or is time going by reaallllyyy slowly since you started TTC? Especially those days after OV and before AF?

[Quodlibet]

Oh god REEAAAAAALLLLLY SLOOOOWWWWWWLY.
Have just been sitting here wasting time thinking about the possibility of a free-floating little fertilised egg drifting around waiting to implant - or not. DP seems to have even less patience than me and keeps texting to see if I'm up the duff yet.

[HazleNutt]

that's why I got DH the book about pregnancy. Last time I mentioned that it's around OV time and he wakes up next morning "So, are we..??"

[MaxDaisy]

Hey ladies, Im back. Didn't log on for a few days then lost you! Arghhh you were my sanity! Anyway glad i found the new thread!

Well to fill you in, got my AF with a vengence! Just finished so i get to try again this cycle, however really really really wanted that BFP for my birthday this saturday but guess i'll have to settle for lots of lovely wine. (on the brightside though, hubby says he feels bad so has spoilt me a bit more this year, yay!!!)

Cwtching- 32, Cycle 8, AF due 18th September
LilyJosh - 35, Cycle 2, AF due 21st Sept
Rache1S - 34, Cycle 1, AF due 21st September
Quodlibet - 32, cycle 7ish, due 27 Sept.
Mixology - 32, married, first month TTC, AF due 28 September
Ella0 - 32, married, TTC since July (on cycle 3), AF due 1st Oct
Janey - 37, TTC since Aug, AF due 2nd Oct
Zombies- 32, cycle 1 dodgy cycle, AF possibly due Oct 3.
Bunnygirlie - 32, married, TTC since June, AF due 5th Oct
Caboodles - 30, Cycle 1, AF due?
Frantastic1 - 34, Cycle?, AF due?
Happylass, 34, Cycle 1, AF due?
HazelNutt - 33, trying for a couple of months, AF due?
Pipbin - 37, TTC since May 2011, AF due?
Pipersouth - 36, TTC for a few months, AF due?
WhiskeryWoman - 31, Cycle 10, AF due?
MaxDaisy- 32, married, TTC since June, AF due 15th Oct

[janey1234]

I know - sooooooo slowly. RIDICULOUS. Feels like I've been trying for about a year and a half, whereas I only came off the pill six weeks ago. How does that happen?

Sorry to say this everyone, but in my (massively limited) experience, it gets worse: when I was (accidentally, ironically) pg last year the 12 weeks before the miscarriage were the longest of my life. I couldn't really do anything but think about the pregnancy, and time virtually stood still. Surprised I didn't get the sack... Then or now....!

Think I'm ovulating now-ish (due to smiley face yesterday morning, and this morning actually - can that be right?!) and dreading the 2ww already...

Fingers crossed for us all.

x

[janey1234]

Oh and hi max and lol - glad you found us! x

[Rache1S]

HazleNutt I will make sure AF has arrived before I pop the cork! I tested with a Sainsburys cheapie which reckons it is 87% accurate when used 2 days before AF. I read somewhere that for every attempt to conceive you stand a 20% chance of success so my current chances this month are 13% of 20% =

[ella0]

Lolcbcblemonlime It's a relief to know I'm not the only one on here it has affected. I wonder if anyone has let them know.

Rache it's not over until af arrives; some people don't get a BFP until a few days after it's due to arrive.

I find the whole month goes slowly - waiting for ov and then waiting for af. I'm wishing my life away more than ever.

Quodlibet I'm 1DPO now and I'm imagining what could be happening in there!

When we started ttc I bought a fab book that shows what's happening on every day of a pregnancy (from day 1 - 1st day of af). Month 1, I was so excited, reading what was happening every day (especially when I got the spotting). And then af came. So it's now gathering dust until I get my BFP!

[Quodlibet]

Haha. I did explain the process between ovulation and implantation to DP the other day and he was genuinely amazed - though clearly he's forgotten it all as has been asking me if I'm pg at 6DPO. Have tried getting him to read 'Taking Care of Your Fertility' with approximately zero success.

Rache1S that 20% thing is a bugger isn't it? It's like every month, even if you do all the sex at the right time, you're basically just getting to the starting line where you get to roll a dice and hope for a 6.

[Lolcbcblemonlime]

I am with you all on the frustration thing. Up until my mc I wanted a baby but wasn't desperate if you know what I mean. Then fell pg in June and since then it feels like my life has changed. The worst bit is that DH does not want the 'timetable sex' as he calls it so it's even harder! Pretending to be in the mood after a long day at work is well hard

[HazleNutt]

Quod try with some "pregnancy for men" books - my DH was highly amused as the one he is reading compared what happens to sperm after orgasm to first 15 minutes of Saving Private Ryan. A carnage!

Lol I feel the same, mindset has definitely changed after my last month's chemical pregnancy.

The failure has such an effect on me personally probably partly due to the fact that I am one of those horrible women you read about in Daily Fail, who postponed having children because they wanted to concentrate on their career (nothing to do with the fact that I only met DH 4 years ago ).

But I have indeed been concentrating on the career while I was looking for him and am used to generally getting what I want - just have to work hard enough. So it is really frustrating that I have little to no control over what happens with this egg floating around..Kind of "What do you mean I could not have a baby? Everybody else can! Of course I can!!"