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With angel babies in the sky, some of us expecting rainbow babies, others still ttc and definitely swi!!

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Bluetinkerbell · 22/08/2011 21:56

started new thread! we do talk a lot, don't we? Wink

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TooImmature2BDumbledore · 05/09/2011 10:46

Good luck at your scan, Dachs!

Cheese, how are things this morning? Did you get through the night ok?

Green, some people are ridiculous - upset them?! Honestly. It reminds me of DH's colleague, who was clearly upset about something and being really short with him. She had a long private discussion with their boss and afterwards, the boss told DH that S was upset with him. DH asked her to come into the meeting room and asked her straight out what he'd done to upset her. She burst into tears and said he hadn't done anything, it was just that ppl kept asking her how he was doing and it was really hard for her, and the whole thing with Thea had been so hard because it brought back all her memories of ttc herself and failing (think she had had failed IVF attempts). You have to know this woman to understand, but it was as if she couldn't stand the attention to be directed away from her for one minute longer and she had to make DH's crisis all about her. I was appalled when DH told me. He said he wound up comforting her because his personal trauma had upset her! Grr. Anyway, hope today goes well for you!

Dachs, it really cheered me up to read that subsequent babies are supposed to help with the healing process and don't feel like a replacement! I'm glad you told us that.

greenzebra · 05/09/2011 12:27

too that is terrible! Some people are so hungary for attention is ridiculous.

dachs hope the scan goes well and the little one (does it have a bump name?) is wriggiling around and waving at you.

cheese been thinking of you all morning I hope it is going ok.

janedoe25 · 05/09/2011 12:41

green hope your first day at work goes well.

dachs How was your scan, hope everything is well?

DiffedAgainDachs · 05/09/2011 13:16

One healthy heartbeat. One potential ectopic twin. Having scan from specialist on Thursday before I see my obstetrician. Am completely mentalling and madly worried.

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Bluetinkerbell · 05/09/2011 13:40

oh no Diffed I hope you can get more certainty soon! thinking of you!

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TooImmature2BDumbledore · 05/09/2011 13:41

What does that mean, Dachs? Yay for the little heartbeat, anyway, but the ectopic twin sounds very worrying. Were they sure? What will they do about it?

DiffedAgainDachs · 05/09/2011 13:47

The sonographer seemed fairly sure about the ectopic as there was lots of free fluid in the pelvis and a v swollen left ovary, which she said were significant indicators. My obstetrician has arranged for me to have a scan with a specialist early pregnancy chap on Thursday, so we'll find out more then. If it is confirmed then they will need to operate ASAP - obviously with risks to the healthy one.

janedoe25 · 05/09/2011 13:48

dachs I have everything crossed for you, im with too in the hand holding.xx

TooImmature2BDumbledore · 05/09/2011 13:56

Dachs, I am so, so sorry. Sad I hope it turns out to be a false alarm, or else that they manage to operate without affecting the healthy twin. How do you feel physically? Any pain or bleeding? Can't they get you scanned any sooner than Thursday? Sending you and DH much love.

DiffedAgainDachs · 05/09/2011 14:04

Physically I'm fine. I've had no bleeding and I've had some pain, but I put that down to the IVF as last time I had sore ovaries for a while after the procedure as well. My obstetrician has arranged for me to see a chap privately on Thursday who's a massive specialist in early pregnancy scans so although I'm really worried I guess I have to trust the doctor that Thursday will be ok. My obstetrician is a specialist in laparascopic surgery for ectopics, amongst other things, so I think I'm in good hands. I'm just desperately worried about the risks to the healthy baby.

I could really have done without this rollercoaster though!

TooImmature2BDumbledore · 05/09/2011 15:17

It sounds like you're in good hands, as you say. And yes, this was the last thing you needed!

shakeyjake · 05/09/2011 16:06

dachs that must be very worrying for you, but you sound like your in good hands. I had an ectopic pg with my second pg however was only discovered late when it had burst the tube, so hopefully they have caught it early for you and fx for the healthy twin.

greenzebra · 05/09/2011 16:56

Dachs what news to hear, I hope everything turns out ok for you and your healthy baby. I hope its a false alarm. Hugs.

razzdazz · 05/09/2011 17:22

Dachs how awful for youSad, what a shock you have had. Praying that they manage to sort things out quickly for you.
green hope your day at work went well
cheese really hope things are improving with your dh and that he has managed to avoid a transfusion
Also hope you are feeling a little better ciwi

Hello to everyone else Smile

AngelGeorgie · 05/09/2011 17:51

Dachs sorry you ve had a crap day. Hope Thursday comes round very quickly for you. I m keeping everything crossed for you xxx thanks for nice sentiment about " rainbow" baby xx
Hi all. Hope everyone's well?
Cheese hope DH is ok?
I ve been so busy at work,,, where did all these patients come from??? Not good for the old cancakles!!!! Xxx

MelMal · 05/09/2011 19:49

Thinking about you Dachs and hope that Thursday comes around quickly for you.
Hope all is week with your DH Cheese and that they're resolving some of the problems.
I got a bfn on pg and ov tests again but still have symptoms. So either too early for testing or it's all in my head!
Hi to everyone else and hope that you've all had a good day x

TooImmature2BDumbledore · 05/09/2011 20:34

Mel, FX for a BFP soon! When is AF due? Good luck!

CheeseandGherkins · 05/09/2011 20:37

dachs so sorry to hear that, I'll be thinking of you and praying for the best xx

I'll catch up tomorrow after my hospital appt, I'm having blood sugars monitored as they questioned GD with Scarlett :(

Good news re dh, platelets went up to 16 and he had a leg and spleen scan which was clear so he was allowed home with more meds and to go back Friday for more bloods and next Tuesday clinic. Just has to go back if he bleeds again. So relieved! Been there all day though and knackered again.

MelMal · 05/09/2011 20:53

Try and relax and destress Cheese if you're able to! That's good news though.
Haven't got a clue when AF is due as we decided to just crack on with it after the op. I know that this month will be whatever it is, I just hope it's a bfp!

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Bluetinkerbell · 05/09/2011 21:32

Mel we're in exactly the same position! when do you want to/are you going to test again?
Shall we do it on the same day? :)

cheese glad your DH is getting better!

Dachs thinking of you!

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MelMal · 05/09/2011 22:01

Blue I was thinking of waiting until Sunday! Do you think we can hold off?

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Bluetinkerbell · 05/09/2011 22:19

Mel I will try Wink but sounds reasonable!
so how wants to hide my tests somewhere?

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Bluetinkerbell · 05/09/2011 22:21

I meant who? typing with left hand as our cat has just made himself comfy on my right arm Grin

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greenzebra · 05/09/2011 22:33

cheese so glad your DH is better, must be a load off your mind. I hope you can sleep easier tonight.

Mel and Blue fx crossed for a BFP for the both of you, Im sure you can both hold out!

First full day back was ok, only had a little blip but managed to control myself, so quite proud of myself really.

Dachs Im sending you so many good thoughts and karma and anything else I can think of, if anyone deserves it you do.

to all the pg girlies, I hope you have a gentle night and day tomorrow.

And to us still ttc, Im sending out positive waves! We will get pg.

Just found out a friend of mine cant have anymore children, shes had 4 miscarriages in 2 years, due to badly formed placenta. So I felt like We all needed some positive waves sent out to people. I feel so sorry for her.

Night all, sleep tight

janedoe25 · 06/09/2011 07:36

Oh green Sad for your friend. Im glad you day went well.

I have my fingers crossed for mel and blue! I should be on the 2ww now cd 18 for me, but I know for a fact I'm not pg this month. We only dtd twice well before I ovulated - Damn DF and his stag doo! Grin It does feel quite good not to be stressing about symptom spotting or the wondering.

dachs How are you? I hope you are ok and Thursday comes around quickly for you. Hugs to you.