With angel babies in the sky, some of us expecting rainbow babies, others still ttc and definitely swi!!

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started new thread! we do talk a lot, don't we?

Morning all
cheese so pleased things have improved with your DH. Hope all goes well at your appointment, did you say you are having a scan as well?
green well done for a good first full day back at work. How awful for your friend to be told that news.
mel and blue heres hoping self control can be yours until Sunday
Do you no what jane I do think its good to take a ttc break every now and again just to destress.

My two dc are back at school today, I think I am more excited than them . Sadly I am looking forward to getting on with project clean, my house really needs some TLC.............
Hope you all have good days.

Dachs I hope you are doing ok this morning, thinking of you.

cheese Glad the situation with DH is not as bad as feared - I hope things continue to improve.

green Sorry for your friend :(

Am freaking out slightly as my GP called me at home late last night and said they were really worried about the possible ectopic so could I go in again this morning for another check up. However, on the plus side I rang my boss afterwards to tell her that I wouldn't be in today, that I was pg and that I also had a suspected ectopic and she was actually sympathetic - I nearly keeled over and died of shock!

Dachs they're going to give you the best of care and do everything they can for you. Hopefully they'll be able to make things move faster so that you're not spending all this time stressing. Thinking about you x

Cheese, so glad your DH is doing better! Good luck today - let us know how you get on.

Dachs, that's really good that your GP is keeping such a close eye on you - it's what needs to be happening in this situation. Also good that your boss is managing to be human! Wishing you all the best.

Green, your poor friend. What a horrible thing to have to deal with.

Today I am going to a sushi restaurant for lunch with DH and then we are going headstone shopping. I am really not looking forward to item 2 on the agenda but it's got to be done and I'd rather do it when I'm not at work. I have to find the certificate of laity we got sent - don't know if it's called that in England - the certificate saying that we own the grave plot. How long did it take you guys to get around to headstones? It's been almost exactly 5 months since the funeral and DH didn't want to do it earlier. I don't like to go into the cemetery and see dying flowers and nothing else marking the grave, though.

Oh too, be kind to yourself today, if it all becomes too much then leave and try again another day. Our situation was a little different as after much deliberation we decided to bury Thomas with my Grandad, in his plot. After many wobbles about it we felt that there would always be plenty of people visiting the grave and the childrens section was really quite neglected which made me so sad . I cracked on really quickly with the headstone as it was important for me that it was aknowleged that Thomas was there also. It finally went up at the beginning of last month so a little more than 3 months after his delivery. It gave me peace straight away.
I really hope that when you have chosen your special headstone for Thea it brings you and your Dh the same comfort that it brought me.
I will say that my best friend lost her father to cancer 15 months ago and she along with her mum and brother has been unable to select one yet. They just cant face it.
Sending you lots of special thoughts.

Well, that was kind of a wasted trip. It turned out that the memorial shop didn't know what the restrictions were on the baby section at our cemetery, and nor did we, and a phone call to the local council got us nowhere as they were closed for lunch! So we picked up a brochure and price list but we still don't know what size we're allowed to have. I suppose the one helpful thing is that we've decided against white marble because it doesn't stand up to the Scottish weather very well, so that basically leaves us with some sort of granite. It was less upsetting than I thought it would be because it was so short and inconclusive.

Afternoon all,

Just wanted to say hello. I am still reading and rooting for you all, just struggle to get a chance to post at the moment!

dachs nightmare about the ectopic, I am so sorry. I hope they can safely treat you without losing your other little baby.

cheese thank goodness your DH is home with you all. Has your spotting gone away now?

too we're just starting the headstone thing now, it's taken us ages to face it. I'm a bit annoyed with myself now though as it's unlikely that it'll be up by the 9th Oct (Bobbie's birthday) and I would have liked it to be. We'll be going for a dark granite flat tablet I think.

angel when are you finishing work? Surely it can't be long now. Take care of yourself, the end of pregnancy is knackering.

green that's just tragic about your friend

Everyone else, hello!

Doing pretty well here, just being kept rather busy! Thank god feeding is going so much better and my poor macerated nipples are healing so it's getting less painful. I'm on my first day going solo, and DH is doing his first day back at work, poor love was really quite upset to have to leave us. I now realise just how many nappies he's been doing

We took DD to visit her big sister on Saturday for the first time. It was really special to all be sat there together, but somehow more upsetting than usual to be sat at our baby's grave with our baby. I suppose it was just very poignant. Of course DD then started screaming for a feed. I was far from appropriately dressed so ended up horribly exposed trying to feed her. Goodness knows what the etiquette is around breastfeeding in a cemetery, I felt pretty uncomfortable, but decided that letting her scream wasn't exacty considerate either.

dachs I think what you said about rainbow babies has been true for me. The ache and emptiness are dulled a bit. It's not that I don't miss Bobbie anymore, or that DD is a replacement for her, just that there is a lot of comfort in having a baby of mine in my arms, and she gives us a lot of joy where before there was so much fear and worry.

Ohhhhh Dachs - my thoughts and prayers are with you and yours - praying that all will be well! glad that your boss is ermm supportive!!!!
Green - oh that is such awful news about your friend, i hope she gets full support from all around her!having hope is one thing but to be told it will never happen must be soul crushing!
Cheese - i hope your trying not to stress, positive news about your DH thats really good, lets hope it continues and you can relax and enjoy being pregnant!
Too - i hope you find something that you like, and im glad it wasnt as hard as you thought, - sending you strength vibes xx
ohhhh Split - sorry for the painful nipples, it will settle soon! that was nice visiting Bobbies grave,glad you was able to do that as a family, there are some covers( feeding covers) you can get for public breastfeeding really handy, not sure if shops sell them but def can order online!if i find the link will post it here later!
day2 at work not being pregnant and everyone being sooo nice and kind! I went off being pregnant to return to find a work mate very pregnant ( and i couldnt stop thinking my belly would of been bigger then hers right now! i would of known what i was having and everything!
hope everyone else is well?

Hi everyone,
dachs so sorry that you are having this added worry, I am sure everything will work out right for your little one x
cheese glad your hubby is a bit better, good luck for your appointment x
too I hope you find the headstone that is right for you. We picked ours quite quickly as we were desperate to get something in place. It went up about 3 months after we lost him. we chose a kind of grey/blue colour as it was less harsh than a black one for a baby (we were advised on this and if you go to a good memorial place they should help you too).
Lots of luck to all those ttc x

I had another scan today.

The person today doesn't think it's an ectopic. They think it's a burst cyst from the ovary, the shadows which were visible are the remnants of the follicles stimulated for the IVF and that the fluid which is visible in the pelvis isn't blood but perfectly normal. So all that stress for a day and a half was just a waste of energy!

Am now:
very wet as got soaked in the rain
feeling silly for all the stressing since yesterday.

Also, I feel like a complete idiot as I had to leave the house v quickly after I found out about the scan so that I could get there in time, and I was in the middle of preparing dinner and forgot to turn the gas hob off. It occurred to me after I got to the station that I may have left it on as I didn't remember turning it off, so I called the PIL as they have a spare key and asked them to check (they live about half an hour away) and it was on so I'm glad I asked! Dinner was, of course, completely burned by the time they got there!

yehDiffed sounds good. You still got a scan on Thursday?
Hi Spilt so glad alls going well..Bobbie's birthday is a day before Georgie's (10th October) it's coming round so quick Isn t it?
I m finishing work 7 th October. Didn t want lots of time at home before section date(17th October) as had all that last year pre-Georgie. I ve got 2.5 weeks to work, 1 week AL then 1 last week at work. Busy the week before the section also; it's Georgie's birthday, got a scan, consultant appointment, 2 hospital visits for steroid injections so , hopefully time will go quickly.
I like my work andy colleagues are fab so apart from being totally shattered and having canckles I m quite happy to be there. They have been a tremendous support throughout the last 3 years. I m knackered now as Tuesday is our long day don t finish to 8pm!!!
Hi all hope you re all well?? Xc

great news diffed, sorry you had all that extra stress though, glad you didn't burn the house down too!
angel and Spilt looks like we all have 1st birthdays around the same time, Ciaran's birthday is on the 12th October, can't believe it's been a year already and part of me doesn't want the year to be over, It feels a bit like Ciaran's year and I don't know how I feel about that coming to an end. I also want to do something special but I don't know what, nothing seems special enough if you know what I mean x

Certainly do Ciwi . we ve got a scan early on Georgie's birthday then we ve got a special place we go to where we ll lay dome flowers for her, then out for lunch. It's incredibly hard to know what to do. I think 'll be another very sad day; another first. Xx

Dachs, that's great news! Phew! Don't feel silly for worrying - how were you meant to know what it was? You aren't a doctor! Hooray - now you can concentrate on your little healthy bean.

Spilt, hello! So pleased to hear you're getting on well and the feeding is getting easier. I like what you say about the comfort Freya is to you - it sounds just right. Not a replacement, but a comfort. It's so sweet!

Angel, Ciwi and Spilt, hope your first anniversaries go as well as possible. I'll be in a very similar position to you, Angel, when March comes around - Thea was born on 13 March and this baby will probably be delivered around the 22nd, so not a very long gap between one birthday and the next. I'm quite glad that we'll have Thea's birthday first, before we have the new baby - it feels like she'll get that much more attention.

Ciwi, I think we're going to get a greyish blueish granite stone too. As you say - black seemed too dark and neither of us particularly liked the whitish/greyish speckled granite.

Mama, hope work is going ok - at least everyone is being nice! It sounds really hard to deal with other people being pregnant around you. I've missed that, thank God, as my work is mainly men and I think of all the women in the office, there are only about 6 of childbearing age including me!

I've been napping for most of the evening - completely wiped out. Unfortunately, that means I'm now awake at half past 10 and not really sleepy. Boo!

Ahhhhhhh deep sigh that really good news Diffeddach! now relax xxx
im sure burnt food was not so bad after the good news, a good time for a takeaway!
Angel - ahhh not too long now wow, its a year it does fly!will you do anything to mark the 1st year?
ahhhhhh -ciwi & split - 1st birthdays will you be doing something to mark it!

dachs such a relief for you, I have been thinking about you.

I'm dreading Zoe's birthday comming up on 28th Feb, I find her monthly birthdays hard enough to deal with.

dachs Im glad that it was good news, must be a load off your minds, and your not silly of course you are going to worry.

spilt good to hear from you.

too that must be hard trying to pick a headstone. I work in graveyards to do with my job and theres a special section for childs graves. Theres one grave there that I keep thinking about, its for a little girl it was ordered from China, its got Sully on it from montsers inc and bo on the back, it also has a packet of Quavers crisps inscribed on it, as that was her favourite snack. She must have died quite young. Its the best kept grave in the graveyard. I dont think I will ever be able to look at that grave again.

Im struggling a little bit at the moment, this was the time last year that I found out I was pg with Ophelia, this was when her story began. I suppose this year is going to be full of mile stones like this. I hate work, but got to keep at it for a while at least. The only thing I want to be in pg again.

Ive just been effectivly blanked by a good friend at work, we used tot alk alot and Ive helped him out with his relationship problems and now all he says is hi and then walks off! Im gutted now. Not sure I can take today. Im going to try till lunch then if I cant Im going home.

Oh green, some people are just crap! One things for sure you find out who your true friends are. I'm sure your boss will understand if things get too much for you today, I hope you are ok x

You won't believe this but we had a crash yesterday on the way to school, first day back...Some man pulled out literally in front of me and I went straight into him, I had no chance of stopping but did slam the brakes on.

Called an ambulance and the took dd1, dh and I in to the hospital, luckily ds1 and ds2 were ok and my mum lives right near where we crashed so she had them while we went in. We were there for hours, dh needed an x-ray but he was fine, just badly sprained his shoulder and in pain. Dd1 had pain and bruising from the seat belt around her stomach but she's ok too and I had some pain but all ok. They scanned me yesterday too as an emergency and the baby is fine thankfully.

I feel like I've been in a fight now though. Aching and my head and neck are killing me. Cancelling scan today as the car is wrecked and we're in no state to drive either. Right, will get the laptop out after and settle on the sofa but sitting here hurts too much so I'm off. Will catch up later, hopefully nothing else happens :(

cheese I read on FB, glad you are all ok, was wondering whether they had scanned you again! glad they did and all is ok!

when I was pregnant of DD1 and still living abroad, I sprained my ankle quite badly and fell on my stomach, the hospital didn't even bother to scan me!

take it easy today and tomorrow, it will hurt even more tomorrow unfortunately!

green so sorry your friend has been unkind to you!

dachs are you having another scan to confirm the good news?

hi everyone else!

cheese I too read about it on FB, Im so glad you are all ok! It must have been such a worry about the baby, I am so relieved for you all. Take it easy and look after yourself. x

cheese thats awful, I hope you feel better. I couldnt even imagine what was going through your mind yesterday must have been awful. Take it easy, and get on the doctors to see what you can have to make you feel better.

cheese that's awful. I hope you feel better soon xxxxxxxxxxxx

green Sorry about your work mate. Some people just don't know how to react and what to say, but it's no excuse. :(

I don't have any other scans officially booked yet, but my obstetrician has a scan machine in his office and I'm seeing him on Thursday, so he'll probably scan me again.

Is anyone else completely freezing cold? I just can't get warm and I'm not sure whether I'm just getting a cold or something, or whether i need to turn the heating back on!

sorry for crap catch up - am completely knackered and think i need a nap!

cheese hope you are taking things easy and hope you all feel better soon.

dachs yay for the non ectopic and hope tom goes well. i am also very cold today and thinking maybe put the heating on. i hate rain and miserable days brrrrrrr.

i have my consultant appt tom so hopefully will find out when my next scan will be and also hope to hear the babs heartbeat. also my birthday tommorow and going for lunch with my mum.

hi to everyone else and hope every ones day goes well.