Feisty Fabulous Forty somethings - part 2

[Curlylox]

woohoo over here

Hello everyone

am hungover :( amazing what a few months abstinence does, only had 3 or 4 glasses wine..

Had niggly few days with dp, but guess thats normal, us both dealing with mc in our own way.
But bleeding has stopped and we DTD last night

I will be watching football later and doing roast dinner too if I can can get my act together, not even dressed yet

Hope you all have nice Sunday

x

heartbreaking for Amanda Holden

Hi all, interesting about Dtd after ov. I am going to try that this month. We always stop on day of ov, in fact I think it is quite rare for me to do it on day. So who knows... Dh on side for smep anyway.

Oh yes jolls I know!

Well done on getting back in the saddle panashe I think me and dh had ishoos a long time after my mmc. He was just in such a different place to me.

So sorry to hear about Amanda Holder. Celebrity can't stop bad things happening. Hope the press leave her alone to grieve.

Holden not Holder

BB you may be missing ovulation if you only bd on the "O" day surely? Unless maybe you are 100 % correct on the day..I always swi ,according to the ems plan on that day then 2 more days then 1 day off then 1 last go1!!!

Morning all
DS finally on the mend. Was contemplating actually leaving the bloody house today as he has no temp, and is just snotty and a bit red eyed and has a bit of a cough. Was thinking a jaunt to the park, feed the geese and the squirrels, some nice fresh air...

There I am stripping his bed, and something pings in my back... .

So here we are at home again...have iced it and taken painkillers. Hopefully I will walk again.... ...

Hope everyone else having a better start to the week... x

Oh Jolls, that's awful. I feel for you, I have had a few back problems, and it makes everything so difficult. Poor you, after all this time look after you ill LO.

Loise, I suspect I also fall pregnant when we do the deed on the day I feel the O pain, but that doesn't always mean I will O that day, although, I usually get the temperature rise the day after.I find it really hard to fit in that last SWI the day after O.It feels just , too, hard!

It's such awful news about Amanda Holden, as it would be about anyone losing a baby at any stage. It must be extra hard when you are in the public eye. Did she have a late loss last year too?

Well, it's CD8 today, so if I were to do the SMEP like everyone else, I'll have to get into the sexy underwear...pity I haven't got any. Nudity will have to do!

Hope everyone is well. Deige, hope you're getting through the marking. That's one part of teaching that I really don't like! You are dedicated to take on extra.

I saw the TV show Gavin and Stacey for the first time last week. It's fab isn't it? I loved it, and will be watching from now on.I've only seen two episodes, and I look forward to more.

Better go.Time to get DS into bed.

Gum have you just got Gavin and Stacey? Yes its excellant.Cd 8 already .Enjoy XXXX

Jolls hope you re back feels better soon? Have you been to a choriopractitioner [sp] before?

Hope all are well.Not much to report here.Very windy , the weather not me!!!!! Awaiting my reflexology.Hopefully package will come from Amazon tomorrow .Been swimming this am so good deed for the day done now!!!!

gum I have a special empathy with G&S as I was born in Billericay, where Gav is from.

lou yeah I used to have chiro a lot with previous back problems, have twisted pelvis. It's easing a bit, will ice again soon.

haven't swum for ages - should start again, maybe that'd help...

jolls my dh was born in Billericay too! He lived there for about 10 years I think and then moved to Suffolk. (in laws live in Frinton now which is a very odd place).

Hope you feel better soon - I have a twisted pelvis apparently too - my back has given me problems ever since dd2 was born, and goes with no warning too. I keep meaning to take up pilates to try and strengthen my core muscles (which are non-existent) up a little.

Still no af here. Just getting impatient for it to show now. Have caved in and made appointment with scary clinic boss as am at a loss where to go from here . feeling very tired today (another trip to gymboree) and watching Mr Tumble now with ds2 (why is Mr Tumble hanging spotty bras up on a washing line?? Who does the Bra belong to- is there a Mrs Tumble?).
louise I dtd after ov sometimes, but only accidentally. I usually can't be bothered by that stage! But this month it will all be different...

Oh Billericay!!!! There's a lot of links!!! No, im not from Billericay but we re going to Billericay soon as that s where "Ashes to Glass" is where we are taking Georgie's ashes.

My dh LOVES Gavin and Stacey.!!!!!

lou had a quick look at www.ashes-to-glass.com as a good friend mentioned this is passing when her Dad passed away. What a lovely concept, there are some great testimonials made me weep as I read them.

Sorry wrong website in previous post, here is the correct onewww.ashesintoglass.co.uk

BB how funny! His initials aren't TN are they...? Frinton's great, are they still resisting the Golden Arches there? We have watched FAR too much CBeebies and Thomas DVDs in the last week. But still haven't solved the Mrs Tumble query ... Let me know how the A$£ra goes.

lou and curly that looks like a lovely concept. Really lovely.

have just seen that lunatic has a section scheduled for Weds... how exciting.

Am hoping DS is well enough for nursery tomorrow - I really need a break. It's been very full on for a week, constant cuddles and winges, and with DP fully occupied 24/7 on the house renovation (as he has been for the last x years ) it's been relentless. That sounds bad :( , but I need a bit of me time.

Yes Curly We re having Georgie's ashes made in to a paperweight.Going in March then we can place her on the fire place in our living room and keep her close to us.

Hope everyone s ok?

Pissed off here.Big row with Ant last night , well and the night before.He s always been selfish but seems to becoming more selfish.Last night i wanted swi leading upo to swi later in the week but i of course was left to the end!!!! After he went on his x box,laptop and i pod he came to bed "knackered" .Then declared he was too tired for sex.So as i told him i m always left to the end of the day after he s done whatever he wants as opposed to making/spending some quality time with me.

Why are men so selfish? So i ve told him he better be ready for tonight and the rest of swi but i m sick of being the only 1 to make an effort with this relationship.

He s now sent me a lovely email......declaring undying love which is all very sweet but lets see if words turn in to actions.

Hope you re all having a better day than me XXXXX

I totally get how you're feeling but he did send an email declaring his love for you (and why wouldn't he love you - we all do! ) Try to forgive him soon, you are a strong team and have already been through more than anyone should have to.

But ..... I agree men are a pain in the arse and can be very selfish . But lesbianism is not an option at this point lou!

You are funny hippy

Too true Hippy .....Yes Curly Hippy is our regular comedian!!!!!!

Email was lovely and we ve now made it up but as i ve told him i haven t got the energy to inject in to ur relationship at the moment.Day to day living is wearing enough at the moment.

You ll all be pleased to hear my bumper pack of opk are here1!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!Have started testing yes. i know its cd6. Who says i don t have a life????

Lou poor you, you should not be second choice after an iPod. Dance around in your best frilly undies and he will soon lose interest in his lap top in favour of a lap dance! Just don't mention sex with intent it seems to work faster than a cold shower on some men!

Love and hugs to all, AF seems to be leaving so it is my first nigt of sex with intent in a long while (since camping in fact!).

HUGS to all - sorry not to name check, got some sex to have!

Morning ladies!

A belated welcome to our two newbies and thanks for making your presence known. It's important for the world to know that it is possible to have babies when you're over forty. Hearing your stories will hopefully (well in my mind!) tip the balance in showing that it can happen more than we are led to believe.

Jollster How is your DS today? Well enough for nursery? Everyone needs some 'me' time, no matter what your situation. Hope your back is ok or at least on the mend.

Lou Big hugs to you. It's not nice to feel like you are last on the list. Sometimes I feel like men are happy for us to do all the thinking and the worrying, but we need them to be proactive FGS! Looks like your DH knows how to make up, so gotta credit him that!

You show incredible strength by just getting up in the morning in my opinion. You must be feeling a huge pressure to heal yourself. But you sound like you can both communicate with each other, which is so important when the chips are down.
I'm sure Georgies paper weight is going to be gorgeous. What a brilliant idea
Can I ask one more question about your CB smiley face thing? What are the basic rules with that actual one? I work shifts so my getting up times vary, or my ability to pee and test in privacy may vary. Not that my colleagues visit the loo with me or anything, but you know what i mean

Big wave to everyone I havn't name checked. Re Gavin and Stacey...I love it! Sad to hear Doris, or rather the lovely old lady who played Doris died the other week. I loved her one liners! My favourite episode is when Ness gives birth and Daves one liner of her being a fox, before snogging her face off whilst she is having contractions! I hope to do the tour sometime this summer. I bet it's hilarious and hear that you use the actual Daves coaches coach!

I've been trying to give up cut down on caffeine this week. We've got one of those expresso makers, so no doubt it's pokey stuff when it comes to grammes of caffeine per cup, but I only have one a day at home first thing. When I'm at work I grab a couple of mouthfulls of another two or three, before they go cold and have to be chucked.

Flippin 'eck, is this my longest post? I feel like I'm rambling now. It's time to get ready for the day and go to the gym.

Big love

Oh FFS just lost a MASSIVE post!!!!!!

Nicole Itry to use opk at same time every day.Can be very difficult i ve taken my opk to work before hand!!!! What job do you do? My cb says to not wee for 4 hours before and restrict oral fluids for 2 hours.I never not wee for 4 hours!!!! Cb says test between 11-5 not to test with first urine!!! Yes its all very confusing!!!

Shame men aren t more like us!!! We had swoi last night and big cuddles so back on track.We both agree life at the moment is the worst it can be and not how we want/deserve it but we have to get through it to get to our better times.

Italian Unfortunately Ant doesn t respond to frilly undies mid you, there is plenty he does respond to!!!!! Sometimes when he gets like this i just leave him to it but at the moment i need for him not to be selfish.Hope you enjoyed your swi!!!!

Just spoke to a reporter on our trust magazine told him all about Georgie and her collection.The article will go in to April's magazine.Arh.....Bless Georgie XXX

Hi all XXXX

jolls about a page ago you asked me SFF? what's that all about? What does that mean - i am ????

Hope little jolly is feeling better now.

lou yes that's a good way of looking at it, you're not where you want to be but you have to keep going to get there - and get there you will, my lovely.

I heard about 5 minutes of deal or no deal the other day and they were saying:- The Pessamist may be proven right eventually but the optimist has the better journey!

Feel a lot of pressure on me to be awfully funny now - but alas can't think of anything and have used up my 1 in 5 is chinese joke already

nicole as Louise says, you are supposed to do the OPK's in the afternoon and you are not supposed to wee for 4 hours before using them . I've had 2 babies with big old heads on 'em - I don't EVER go more than 2 hours between wees! Basically, I just try to test at roughly the same time and always use a nice strong wee sample - if it smells like an old ladies chair then you're ok to use it.

italian look at you SWIing Back in the game, girlie.

I am defo gonna try to have a lot more sex around the right time this month - last few attempts coming up I feel.

lou praise the lord that you have begun testing on the OPK's early - NO-ONE can cope with you wondering if you've missed the again .

Bye for now.

ps. I don't know if I mentioned that I was working back at the place that I used to work at just for xmas and new year. Well they let me go again a couple of weeks ago and I have a job interview for a new job on Friday. this will be my first job interview since my DS1 was 5 months old and he is nearly 11 years now. (I've always just returned to the same place every time) Arrggh - nervous? Moi? You bloody bet I am.

hippy sex for fun... :) Good luck with interview. What does that mean for IOW timing?

nicole hope the gym was good. Very impressed!

DS much better, he went to nursery yesterday, though complained before we left the house, in the car and when we arrived that he wanted to stay at home! He settled quickly though and had a good day though quieter than normal. My back's much better, though am feeling on the cusp of lurgy; constricted throat, a bit achy and shivery. And then I had to take DP to A&E yesterday when he injured his hand on the house renovations... Is it March yet?

Ha ha ahahhahah! CD21 here, not a whiff of feeling pg at all.

Is anyone testing or contemplating it? BB did AF show or are you still in the game?

Oh I see - SFF - Hippy finally catches on - only a page late

This is just a job to keep us from being thrown out on the streets - it does not effect the move - we are still going!

Glad your little one is a bit better - it's horrid when they ask to stay home and you have to say "Go in and see how you get on, sweetie!"

Sorry to hear about hubbies hand - blimey, they will do anything to get out of DIY won't they! Hope your premonition is wrong jolls and that you are in-fact well and truelly up-the-duff.

Hello everyone. I'm just going to drop a quick note to day goodbye. I shall miss you all terribly and hopefully, when I stop feeling so shit, I'll be able to come back on and see how you are all going (hopefully all with bfp's and babies).

It seems that my DH wasn't really as clear as he should have been with me - just weak when it came to sex. He has now made it very clear that he will not ttc.

I'm heart broken and feeling the loss of my bean so much more profoundly. I think it will take some time to heal this grief, but I imagine it will heal eventually.

Now I need to look for something else to consume me, because I've been so focused on ttc.

Good Luck everyone - I do hope your dreams come true.

Angela