8 months of TTC since my m/c and still not pregnant......should I be worried?

[Bella23]

Getting desperate now ladies so would like to hear from anyone that took a while after their m/c to get pregnant again as am starting to worry that it will never happen.

I am temping and using OPKs so know I am definately ovulating, having acupuncture and bding at all the right times but still nothing!

How long did it take you? Need to put my mind at rest before I go a little nuts with fear of it not happening!!

Bump.......

gonna give u a big hugs if u don't mind honney? ((((((((hugs))))))))))

Munz thanks, you are always giving me support - much appreciated!!
I hope very soon that I can look back and laugh at my desperate behaviour over TTC!!

14 months with DS1.

I attribute stress and smoking to the additional time it took to conceive.

I would say that you are still within an average timescale to get pregnant -- something like 90% of people get pregnant within a year of trying and off the remaining 10% , a lot of them get pg within 18 months of trying (I was one of them - 18 months!!)

Would not worry too much yet unless you are over 35 in which case get to a docs for some blood tests... the rule I was told was to try for 12 months before seeking help if under 35 and 6 months if over 35...

don't worry bella - as I said b4 u've done it once, it's just u'r order's been delayed is all!

keep ur pecker up honney - where are you in ur cycle? - hopefully the accupuncher should help.

Munz - am on CD24 and AF is on her way again.

Hi Bella. So sorry to hear that it still hasn't happened for you yet.

It took me 7 months after my m/c to conceive again, so not far off where you are now. I know that we BD'ed at the perfect time for every one of those months, as I was also charting and using OPKs.

Have you tried cutting out processed food and alcohol and taking vitamin supplements (I used vit B6). Zita West recommends the processed food thing as one of her top 5 tips for getting pregnant. Also make sure that you are avoiding peas, soya and fresh pineapple, all of which are said to have some natural contraceptive effect.

I'd also go with the recommendation that you gave me, to BD in the morning, as that worked for us in the end. Also try and make sure you orgasm after DH, so that your cervix is dipping into the pool of sperm.

Probably nothing there you don't already know I'm afraid, but just wanted you to know that there are lots of us egging you on, and not just those on the 'beanie delivery' thread.

Tabs - thanks for that.
Yes, will take your advice on the cutting out of processed food as my diet has taken a bit of a downward spiral due to the comfort eating I am doing at the moment.

oh bella you will get there im here if you want to talk (( hugs))

Bella 23, How long have you been having acupuncture.?
I also went down the cutting out processed food and vitamin supplement route. I didnt know about the morning BD ing recommendation, but that has worked for us this time too.

give up fresh pineapple? I read on here to have more of it cos it helps CM!

Good luck Bella. it can drive you really mad

Jane - grapefruit juice is good for CM, so I'd stick with that rather than pineapple.

Thanks ladies, sorry to sound so desperate but just finding it difficult to believe that it is going to happen!!

Bella23,

Re your earlier comment:-
"I am temping and using OPKs so know I am definately ovulating, having acupuncture and bding at all the right times but still nothing!"

Actually you may not be ovulating even with these methods as both of them have inherent problems with reliability. Both can be misleading indicators; especially the opks. The surest way you are going to know whether ovulation has occured or not is to have a blood test done to measure your hormone levels properly. BD at "all the right times" is infact another bad idea as it can put yet more strain on the couple to perform. Making love when you both feel like it is a better option in this regard.

I would also ask what your periods are like - have they become more irregular over time and or painful?. If either scenario is the case then it is wise to seek medical advice now. Both of you should be tested further to see if there are any problems preventing conception.

Thanks Meer - my periods are fairly regular.
I think you are right though, if nothing has happened by November we are going to go for tests.
Thanks for the feedback

Bella hon just wanted to add my support for you, I can't imagine how frustrated and sad you must be feeling, I'm stamping my feet in a tantrum after only trying for 4 mths!!!

Don't forget the 'bottom on pillow as well', during as well as after , fingers crossed m'dear and chin up.

H x

How long have been having acupuncture for?

Bella

Just wanted to pop in and send you lots of hugs. I know exactly how you are feeling and I would not wish the feelings I have most of the time on anyone, but take comfort from your DH and the love and support he gives you. You will get there. I think about you often and all that we have been through together on the ttc threads.

Wendy - feeling is mutual honey, you are in my thoughts often and I really am keeping everything crossed that you and I get some great news very soon! This TTC is soooooo hard isn't it!!

My cousin had 5 miscarriages in total before she had her first little girl. They were very scared about trying for number 2 and it took them a year to fall but baby William was born 5 weeks ago and is beautiful and my cousin tells me worth all the heartache and waiting. Good luck honey. tonnes and tonnes of hugs coming your way.

My cousin had 5 miscarriages in total before she had her first little girl. They were very scared about trying for number 2 and it took them a year to fall but baby William was born 5 weeks ago and is beautiful and my cousin tells me worth all the heartache and waiting. Good luck honey. tonnes and tonnes of hugs coming your way.

Wills - thank you so much, an uplifting story like that always spurrs me on! xx

Bella23 -- we got pg again 9 months after my mc! I was starting to wonder if it would ever happen too.

LeahE - you have given me hope that I am completely normal and that I will be successful really soon, thanks!