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GP won’t see 4yo for 2 weeks [Title edit by MNHQ - Please read beyond the OP before responding]

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trombolese · 12/01/2024 12:03

Hi, just need to get an opinion on what people would do in my situation.

Some background on my 4yo - severe silent reflux from birth which meant awful awful sleep and feeding. This went undiagnosed for 7 months which then led mega tonsil problems, golf ball size which then caused severe obstructive sleep apnea. Tonsils out at 2.5. Grew back 5 months later to full size, if not bigger (didn’t think possible, consultant at Evelina said she’d never seen it happen that quickly) - constantly infected, had them out again at 3.5. Never weaned properly due to feeding issues, always bad with food. Quality of life crap due to tonsil problems. Since having them out it has only very mildly improved to be honest. He has also suffered with constipation the past year due to poor diet.

Since beginning of October he has had a fever at least once a week, sometimes explained, sometimes completely unexplained. The longest he has had fever for is 8 days with no other symptoms. GP not interested and said these things happen (we have 2 other kids…it doesn’t happen). So many lots of antibiotics, a couple of long lasting chest infections and since November an ear ache that hasn’t gone and he is still suffering with today. Yesterday he spiked another fever of 39, no other symptoms but sent home from nursery. He barely eats a thing, some days he will only eat 2 squares of toast. The rest of the day he drinks like a fish, just water other than 1 x cup of milk before bed and sometimes 1 x in the morning. He’s lost about 3kg so far. He’s so so unbelievably pale, puffy eyes and big bags under his eyes too. He’s recently taken to crying a lot. A lot, a lot. Over things very trivial to the average person but these crying episodes can last up to an hour. He’s extremely irritable and sad. He seemingly can’t walk longer than about 15 minutes without complaining his legs are hurting loads (to the point where he will just crawl along the floor instead if we let him!) and more recently he is waking in the night complaining of itching. His tiredness and lethargy some days is another level.

Seeing as this is his 10th fever in as many weeks (I am keeping a diary now) I contacted the GP with a massive list of his symptoms as I am now actually really concerned. They can’t see him for 2 weeks and have told me to “contact the HV” for advice in the meantime. What advice can they possibly give?! I am really concerned he is lacking something important in his diet or god forbid, something even worse.

AIBU to call 111? Do I take him to a&e?! This just seems crazy now. He has missed so much nursery and it just breaks my heart that his QOL is so shit.

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Are your children’s vaccines up to date?
Wheeeeee · 13/01/2024 08:54

Well done for getting him seen, sorry to hear he's so poorly. I hope he's now getting the medical care he needs and will be improving soon Flowers

whitebreadjamsandwich · 13/01/2024 08:54

Sending lots of love - I'm sorry it had to take a mumsnet thread and a&e to get him seen, but you did the right thing and he can get the care he needs now

Namechangedforthis2022 · 13/01/2024 08:56

Thinking of you & sending you strength, your little boy has a great mum 💙

Teenangels · 13/01/2024 08:57

OP, please don’t feel that you need to update.

Take care and look after yourself and little boy.

Sending you positive vibes and thoughts.

Vallmo47 · 13/01/2024 08:58

Please keep us posted OP, so glad you are being seen now.

winewolfhowls · 13/01/2024 08:58

Thinking of you and your little boy, hoping you got a smidgen of sleep. Fingers crossed that you are getting the answers you need. Your doctors surgery is a disgrace.

Creatureofhabit87 · 13/01/2024 08:59

Oh my word your poor boy. I’d have taken him to A&E a long time ago as your GP sounds incompetent. I hope it isn’t anything serious.

DrunkenElephant · 13/01/2024 08:59

Thinking of you OP, I’m so glad you went to A&E and I hope your little one is better soon x

HolidayHomer · 13/01/2024 09:09

Have been thinking about you and your little boy, OP. Sending you love and good wishes ❤️

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I really hope your little girl is okay now 💐

Okaaaay · 13/01/2024 09:22

Sending you love and so sorry to hear this. Would love to hear your update but don’t feel any pressure to give one - focus on you and your family.

Canthinkofanythingsensible · 13/01/2024 09:24

Oh yes sorry I should probably have said she is currently well. Picking her nose on the sofa watching Duggee.

TwilightSkies · 13/01/2024 09:25

Oh gosh OP. Thinking of you both x

Igglepiggleandhisboat · 13/01/2024 09:32

Well done for fighting for him to be seen. Sending you lots of love xx

3luckystars · 13/01/2024 09:35

Thinking of you both and glad you are in the right place x

DeedIDo · 13/01/2024 09:38

Well done OP for listening to that little voice we mums have and getting your DC seen.

I send my best wishes to you and your family.

NeptunaOfTheMermaidBattleSquadron · 13/01/2024 09:44

Sending un-mumsnetty hugs.

LatteLady · 13/01/2024 09:46

Just to say well done for listening to your gut. Hope that you are being supported at the hospital and will keep you all in my thoughts today.

GotMooMilk · 13/01/2024 09:49

trombolese · 13/01/2024 07:56

Hi everyone, thank you so much for all of your responses and thoughts, it really means a lot. Didn’t want anyone to think I’ve abandoned the thread but I have quite a poorly little boy. I will update when I have the full picture and processed it a bit but it’s been a really long day and night. Xx

So sorry OP sending love and well wishes.

LakieLady · 13/01/2024 09:49

newrubylane · 12/01/2024 20:43

This is madness. What happens if you get ill on a Saturday?

Or if you have something that starts mildly and then gets much worse?

When I had food poisoning, it was just like a bit of an upset stomach and slight temperature for 24 hours, and got dramatically worse 36-48 hours after it started. I also had what I thought was cystitis for a day or two before I got a temp and became very unwell, it was pyelonephritis.

I wouldn't have taken myself to A&E with either of those, I didn't dare venture more than a 10 second dash from a lavatory!

namechangedforthis21 · 13/01/2024 09:49

So Glad you went to the hospital. Sending wishes for you and your son.

DreamingofManderley · 13/01/2024 09:53

Thinking of you and your little one. Hope you can get the help that he needs and he feels better soon

JuicyDrop · 13/01/2024 09:56

Been following the thread. Just wanted to say I hope both you and your little boy are okay. My son is the same age and had experience of doctors fobbing me off a couple of times. Hope you get the help he needs now.

Iamnotalemming · 13/01/2024 09:59

💐Unmumsnetty hugs OP