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GP won’t see 4yo for 2 weeks [Title edit by MNHQ - Please read beyond the OP before responding]

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trombolese · 12/01/2024 12:03

Hi, just need to get an opinion on what people would do in my situation.

Some background on my 4yo - severe silent reflux from birth which meant awful awful sleep and feeding. This went undiagnosed for 7 months which then led mega tonsil problems, golf ball size which then caused severe obstructive sleep apnea. Tonsils out at 2.5. Grew back 5 months later to full size, if not bigger (didn’t think possible, consultant at Evelina said she’d never seen it happen that quickly) - constantly infected, had them out again at 3.5. Never weaned properly due to feeding issues, always bad with food. Quality of life crap due to tonsil problems. Since having them out it has only very mildly improved to be honest. He has also suffered with constipation the past year due to poor diet.

Since beginning of October he has had a fever at least once a week, sometimes explained, sometimes completely unexplained. The longest he has had fever for is 8 days with no other symptoms. GP not interested and said these things happen (we have 2 other kids…it doesn’t happen). So many lots of antibiotics, a couple of long lasting chest infections and since November an ear ache that hasn’t gone and he is still suffering with today. Yesterday he spiked another fever of 39, no other symptoms but sent home from nursery. He barely eats a thing, some days he will only eat 2 squares of toast. The rest of the day he drinks like a fish, just water other than 1 x cup of milk before bed and sometimes 1 x in the morning. He’s lost about 3kg so far. He’s so so unbelievably pale, puffy eyes and big bags under his eyes too. He’s recently taken to crying a lot. A lot, a lot. Over things very trivial to the average person but these crying episodes can last up to an hour. He’s extremely irritable and sad. He seemingly can’t walk longer than about 15 minutes without complaining his legs are hurting loads (to the point where he will just crawl along the floor instead if we let him!) and more recently he is waking in the night complaining of itching. His tiredness and lethargy some days is another level.

Seeing as this is his 10th fever in as many weeks (I am keeping a diary now) I contacted the GP with a massive list of his symptoms as I am now actually really concerned. They can’t see him for 2 weeks and have told me to “contact the HV” for advice in the meantime. What advice can they possibly give?! I am really concerned he is lacking something important in his diet or god forbid, something even worse.

AIBU to call 111? Do I take him to a&e?! This just seems crazy now. He has missed so much nursery and it just breaks my heart that his QOL is so shit.

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BreatheAndFocus · 13/01/2024 07:58

Sorry to hear that update. Sending you and your little boy my very best wishes @trombolese

ThisIsntThe80sPat · 13/01/2024 07:58

Thinking of your little boy, op.

bvaqtvm · 13/01/2024 07:59

trombolese · 13/01/2024 07:56

Hi everyone, thank you so much for all of your responses and thoughts, it really means a lot. Didn’t want anyone to think I’ve abandoned the thread but I have quite a poorly little boy. I will update when I have the full picture and processed it a bit but it’s been a really long day and night. Xx

Please don't feel pressured to update regularly, so glad you are in the right place and getting the help he needs. Hope he is feeling better soon.

Retsina24 · 13/01/2024 08:00

So pleased that you went to get seen but so sorry to read your latest update. Hope your little one is ok.

Seadreamers · 13/01/2024 08:01

Thinking of you op x

ChaosAndCrumbs · 13/01/2024 08:02

trombolese · 13/01/2024 07:56

Hi everyone, thank you so much for all of your responses and thoughts, it really means a lot. Didn’t want anyone to think I’ve abandoned the thread but I have quite a poorly little boy. I will update when I have the full picture and processed it a bit but it’s been a really long day and night. Xx

Thinking of you this morning, OP. Don’t feel you have to come back and reply, take your time processing and being with your lovely son.

Vinrouge4 · 13/01/2024 08:04

Sending you love and strength

2024BigWhoop · 13/01/2024 08:06

I’m sorry to hear your latest update and understandably you must feel physically drained and emotionally exhausted. I’m so glad you took him to A&E, it’s very rare that a mother’s instinct is wrong and although you’ve had some bad news at least now he can get the care and help that he needs x

mynameiscalypso · 13/01/2024 08:06

Thinking of you and your lovely boy Flowers

Lougle · 13/01/2024 08:10

@trombolese it sounds like you're in the right place. I hope they are looking after you as well as him.

NancyJoan · 13/01/2024 08:13

Thank goodness you went in, @trombolese. hope you can get some rest today.

Againlosinghope · 13/01/2024 08:15

I have been following your thread. So glad you went to hospital yesterday xx and you boy can get the medical care he needs. So angry that the doctors didn't see him

Look after yourself xx

Stackarack · 13/01/2024 08:16

I am sorry to read your update OP. Sending love.

TheBerry · 13/01/2024 08:19

I’m glad your boy is finally getting the help he needs.

It makes me feel so angry that the GP didn’t take it seriously.

You must be utterly drained.

Wetweatherandmud · 13/01/2024 08:19

I'm so glad you posted and had the backing of so many, especially those medically qualified, to take DS to hospital. We are all here holding your hand as best we can.

LizzieSiddal · 13/01/2024 08:20

Sorry to read your update, but pleased you got him to the right place and he’s being looked after x

Cudz · 13/01/2024 08:23

Sending you and your boy lots of love and strength OP. We are all here for you in whatever capacity we can be whenever you feel ready x

StampOnTheGround · 13/01/2024 08:26

Thinking of you and your boy, I'm so glad you went to be seen and so angry at your GP for being dismissive.

BoilingHotand50something · 13/01/2024 08:29

Sorry to hear your update but at least he has now been seen, you have been listened to and hopefully he is being treated or shortly will be. Been thinking of you and hope you are doing ok and have some support around you.

Nanaof1 · 13/01/2024 08:30

trombolese · 13/01/2024 07:56

Hi everyone, thank you so much for all of your responses and thoughts, it really means a lot. Didn’t want anyone to think I’ve abandoned the thread but I have quite a poorly little boy. I will update when I have the full picture and processed it a bit but it’s been a really long day and night. Xx

Thank you for the update. I hope they are figuring out what is going on with your little one and get a diagnosis quickly.

Update again when you can, and many MN {{HUGS}} to you both.

Seriously79 · 13/01/2024 08:36

Thinking of you OP. Hope your little one is ok x

OhIlovetosew · 13/01/2024 08:42

This is the annoying thing about being triaged about getting an appointment and them fobbing you off and missing what could’ve been seen if they’d seen your DC face to face.

im annoyed for you and everyone else experiencing this. Hope your little one is ok very soon OP 💐💐💐

Gcsunnyside23 · 13/01/2024 08:44

Thinking of you and your little boy ❤️ hope he's doing ok now. I'm so glad you took him, it's very hard when the GP makes you doubt your instincts as they are supposed to be the professional

lunarleap · 13/01/2024 08:46

trombolese · 13/01/2024 07:56

Hi everyone, thank you so much for all of your responses and thoughts, it really means a lot. Didn’t want anyone to think I’ve abandoned the thread but I have quite a poorly little boy. I will update when I have the full picture and processed it a bit but it’s been a really long day and night. Xx

Take care. Don't feel you owe anyone an update.

flea101 · 13/01/2024 08:50

So sorry to hear about your little boy. Hope he gets better soon and keep us updated if you can.

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