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GP won’t see 4yo for 2 weeks [Title edit by MNHQ - Please read beyond the OP before responding]

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trombolese · 12/01/2024 12:03

Hi, just need to get an opinion on what people would do in my situation.

Some background on my 4yo - severe silent reflux from birth which meant awful awful sleep and feeding. This went undiagnosed for 7 months which then led mega tonsil problems, golf ball size which then caused severe obstructive sleep apnea. Tonsils out at 2.5. Grew back 5 months later to full size, if not bigger (didn’t think possible, consultant at Evelina said she’d never seen it happen that quickly) - constantly infected, had them out again at 3.5. Never weaned properly due to feeding issues, always bad with food. Quality of life crap due to tonsil problems. Since having them out it has only very mildly improved to be honest. He has also suffered with constipation the past year due to poor diet.

Since beginning of October he has had a fever at least once a week, sometimes explained, sometimes completely unexplained. The longest he has had fever for is 8 days with no other symptoms. GP not interested and said these things happen (we have 2 other kids…it doesn’t happen). So many lots of antibiotics, a couple of long lasting chest infections and since November an ear ache that hasn’t gone and he is still suffering with today. Yesterday he spiked another fever of 39, no other symptoms but sent home from nursery. He barely eats a thing, some days he will only eat 2 squares of toast. The rest of the day he drinks like a fish, just water other than 1 x cup of milk before bed and sometimes 1 x in the morning. He’s lost about 3kg so far. He’s so so unbelievably pale, puffy eyes and big bags under his eyes too. He’s recently taken to crying a lot. A lot, a lot. Over things very trivial to the average person but these crying episodes can last up to an hour. He’s extremely irritable and sad. He seemingly can’t walk longer than about 15 minutes without complaining his legs are hurting loads (to the point where he will just crawl along the floor instead if we let him!) and more recently he is waking in the night complaining of itching. His tiredness and lethargy some days is another level.

Seeing as this is his 10th fever in as many weeks (I am keeping a diary now) I contacted the GP with a massive list of his symptoms as I am now actually really concerned. They can’t see him for 2 weeks and have told me to “contact the HV” for advice in the meantime. What advice can they possibly give?! I am really concerned he is lacking something important in his diet or god forbid, something even worse.

AIBU to call 111? Do I take him to a&e?! This just seems crazy now. He has missed so much nursery and it just breaks my heart that his QOL is so shit.

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Thecatmaster · 13/01/2024 09:59

Sorry to hear your update, but so glad that you took him in! Drs may be experts in bodies, but you are the expert of your son. Therefore you should never be fobbed off.

DewHopper · 13/01/2024 10:01

Thankfully you took him to hospital OP - you did the right thing. You are a great mum and advocate for your son.

LakieLady · 13/01/2024 10:02

So sorry to read your update, @trombolese. Thank goodness you're now in the right place for him to get the treatment he needs.

Sending you a big handhold and a shedload of positive thought for your little lad.

HeWhoMustNotBeNamed · 13/01/2024 10:03

So sorry to hear he's so unwell OP, but glad he's being seen by the right people now Flowers

IKnowHowToSayMyName · 13/01/2024 10:04

Love and hugs OP

Scrambledchickens · 13/01/2024 10:04

Well done on taking him OP hope you have some real life support too xx

DoAsYouWouldBeMumBy · 13/01/2024 10:09

Thinking of you and your family 💓💓

Goatymum · 13/01/2024 10:10

I hope he’s getting the treatment he needs now and will be ok, so glad you took him in to be seen.

Kickstartplease · 13/01/2024 10:17

I hope everything starts to improve soon

idontlikealdi · 13/01/2024 10:17

I hope he and you are doing ok op. Sorry to read your update.

LetMeOut2021 · 13/01/2024 10:24

Checking back in for your updates OP. Sending virtual well wishes ❤️

Stressedafff · 13/01/2024 10:25

Sending lots of love and hugs to you and your little star OP ❤️

Balloonhearts · 13/01/2024 10:29

Ring 111 tell them GP is refusing to see you for 2 weeks. You'll get an appointment sharpish and the surgery will have to explain themselves.

Stackarack · 13/01/2024 10:30

Balloonhearts · 13/01/2024 10:29

Ring 111 tell them GP is refusing to see you for 2 weeks. You'll get an appointment sharpish and the surgery will have to explain themselves.

Not read the thread have you?

Wetweatherandmud · 13/01/2024 10:31

Balloonhearts · 13/01/2024 10:29

Ring 111 tell them GP is refusing to see you for 2 weeks. You'll get an appointment sharpish and the surgery will have to explain themselves.

Perhaps it would be a good idea to read the whole thread before you comment.

TempyBrennan · 13/01/2024 10:32

Oh OP I hope they’re getting you some answers. 💐

bobomomo · 13/01/2024 10:36

@trombolese

Thinking of you all. Make sure you get plenty of support and try to sleep yourself too, hard when you have a poorly little one. I hope it's not what my gut feeling is telling me, it's so similar to my friend's son. Take care

AliTheMinx · 13/01/2024 10:39

Thinking of you and your darling boy and sending so much love xxx

Mulhollandmagoo · 13/01/2024 10:39

Oh no, so sorry to hear this @trombolese ❤️ sending you and your boy lots of love x

Toastcrumbsinsofa · 13/01/2024 10:40

@trombolese sending best wishes to you and your son.

FFF3 · 13/01/2024 10:41

Thinking of you OP x

Needanewnamebeingwatched · 13/01/2024 10:43

@trombolese thank god you listened to your mum institution, hope your both ok x

vdbfamily · 13/01/2024 10:49

Only read this thread today but glad you went to A&E and really hope he gets the help he needs now going forward.

Electra786 · 13/01/2024 10:50

Wishing you and your son all the best.

Boatshoes · 13/01/2024 10:51

You poor thing, OP. Your LO is in the best place. Look after yourself xx

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