what really irritates me about bf, is when people who know NOTHING give unsolicated advice

[milkgoddess]

grrrrr

and yes i am talking about my mother again

Oh yes, and even worse when they are health professionals.
Honestly,the crap that has been reported on here over the years defies belief.

why do people feel the need to advise when it hasn't been asked for anyway....
my mother is like this too ... grr

i wouldn't mind so much if
a. the person had at least some idea of what they where talking about

or
b. if they where asked to give advice.

in my mothers case its neither

totally agree MD, im shocked and horrified by alot of the hcp advice sen on here and mainly saddend

My mil was an "expert" too, despite never having put her kids anywhere near her chest! Did not help. Still about it 2 years on...

What did she say Chicky?

I think the same applies to anything to do with fertility, childbirth, childrearing....

oooh exMIL used to do this.

According to her my boobs are too small to nourish a baby adequately. God only knows why she didn't manage to bf if big boobs are useful - hers are round her knees.

[bitchy]

I would be utterly outraged at the thought of my MIL commenting on the size of my tits.
Honestly-!!!!

"ooh, don't feed on demand - every four hours only"
"He's only using you as a comforter after 10 minutes."
"If he wakes in the night, give him water. Then he'll learn not to wake up" (this is a new born!)

and my favourite: "Just give him a bottle - it's better anyway." (how? why?)

Sadly, I only managed 2 wks bfing. Lack of support didn't help...

I know!

The cheek.

I was restrained though and didn't make any of the comments that were just there on the tip of my tongue.

I didn't know about mn then, btw!

chicky, i know how you feel, what is it with them saying, only feed evry four hours grrrr

I bet they don't go for four hours without even a drink.

my modest offerings have been feeding ds for 2 years and 5 months so size certainly does NOT matter in this case

lol Walnutshell - mine are massive and I had terrible trouble bf and only managed to mix feed in the end.

my mum and mil (and dad and fil) have been nothing but +ve about bf'ing but I've heard a few female peers 'advise' that "carry on if you want to but of course he doesn't need bf at his age" or "well, he is just comfort feeding" wtf is that about anyway? who doesn't comfort their child (not to mention the benefits) etc etc

my friend said today that with the size of my tits they were surprised my children didnt have stretch marks around there mouth!!!!!

No she didnt BF

sorry constance, I didn't mean to sound flippant - I realise women of all shapes and sizes have various experiences. It's just that it can be presumed that small boobs are less, erm, milkworthy!

sorry you had trouble

God no - I thought it was funny! You didn't offend me in the slightest.

Next time will be better - I know about Mumsnet now!

peanutbear - what did she say after you had whupped her round the head?

constancereader (always ponder your MN name) -

Walnut,did you ever track down 'Politics of Breastfeeding'?

it's because I was like constant reader - always reading and never posting. Only to begin with though...

moondog - yep, I finally (recently) did! Somehow I have acquired a pile of Books Worth Reading which I am ploughing through steadily (rather than speedily as pre-ds) but it is definitely there. I think there is a new edition out this year??? (

aha constanceposter, I see!

I may change my name.