Pregnant after MC due December 14

[Penguin13]

If you're pregnant after a previous MC and due in December 14 this is the thread for you.

If you're an obsessive knicker-checker or just want someone to chat to who knows where you're coming from you'll fit right in.

Thanks for the spreadsheet, have updated my details. Congrats on the scan Strawbs!

Feeling nauseous but not thrown up yet. Sure i did by this time in previous pregnancies. Feeling paranod at the moment. Going to see the consultant on Tuesday after a battle with the battleaxe secretary who had chosen to ignore the referral letter from my GP because she thought I should book in with the midwife at 12 weeks before being allowed to see the consultant. Despite my history and despite express instructions from the GP and consultant that said otherwise. Grrrrr.

Anyway, fingers crossed I also get a scan by the consultant at that appt. If I don't, I am going to beg for an EPAU referral.

Great news on the scan strawbs. I know it's not easy to switch off the anxiety but thats a huge step in the right direction.

I hope you get your scan regular. And at the stupid secretary!

I've added my stats too. Looks like I have a couple of due date buddies penguin and melody!

I'm still spotting a little bit but trying not to worry as the nurse and sonographer at the epu weren't concerned at all. And considering I had actual proper bleeds before, I'd say the situation has improved! Oh how I wish I could bring back even a touch of the naïveté I felt the first time I was pregnant!

Strawbs fantastic news on the scan - it's looking really, really positive for you and your little strawberry pip Really great that you have had such a positive experience with your EPU as it's not always the case.

Thanks for all the lovely messages, I'm very touched. Well you're stuck with me for a bit longer, we saw a HB , still in shock. I'm starving, having lunch with DP, he says hi. Will catch up better with you later xxx

Lovely news!

Excellent news Strawbs and Covent

Great news Straws and CoventGarden!!
I hope we can all share good news like you!
Penguin and DrFunke, I believe you are next with your scans tomorrow! Best of luck to both of you, fx!!

Excellent news Covent, so happy for you! Hopefully the great news has started to sink in for you.

Yup. My scan's not till 7pm as it's a private one and didn't want to take more time off than necessary. I forsee a long day ahead. What time is yours Funkes?

Great news Strawbs & Covent!!

Ooh, god that's a long wait penguin, mine is 10.30, not feeling very positive (my pubis/general region is really soft, which usually means a mc for me) so tonight will drag.
Had a massive craving for chicken Casear salad last night, could taste it and everything!

Thanks for the luck melody x

Cakes, that's the worst part! Losing the innocence of pg without mc's, so glad so many on the 'normal' Dec thread are so positive they're looking at prams etc but that will never be me. and that sucks!

Does anyone else have that little voice, that whenever you rant about how crap you feel says

Brilliant news Strawbs and CoventG!

Thanks everyone, I know I've said it before but it's so nice to be able to talk to you all in the same boat!

.. And Covent!! Yay!!! Brilliant news! so pleased for you.

Good luck for tomorrow penguin.. Definitely a long day ahead tomorrow but hopefully (or not) you'll be busy and it will fly past!

Good luck for tomorrow as well DrFunkes positive thinking! Feeling crap is a good sign though, I do exactly the same.. I've felt quite sick today but not actually been sick yet, which is a good sign hopefully as I didn't feel sick at all with my first pregnancy. I'm finding myself thinking 'woohoo I feel sick!' Don't we all turn into a lovely bunch of psychos?!

Has anyone else felt very emotional? the other day I was sitting in the car outside Sainsbury's, people watching while the other half was inside, an old man pulled up and jumped out of his car..ran quickly in to the shop, came out a few minutes later running with a pack of mince in his hand and I just thought that is so lovely, he must be getting those really quickly for his wife who's cooking at home and needs them right now..I got really teary and had to choke back the tears.. Oh dear!!

Great news Strawbs

Good luck for tomorrow drFunke and penguin i'll be thinking of you while travelling to France. sollers where are you?

Sorry to hear some of you having trouble with GPs and getting scan, it sucks when you already have gone through enough as it is.

I went and shared the HB news with a nurse who's always been so helpful and she offered to try and get us another scan in a couple of weeks, for reassurance, she is so lovely, I have to say the entire team have been amazing. I'm very grateful. It still feels unreal though, as I have no obvious symptom.

Hi all. Great news Strawbs and Covent, good luck tomorrow drFunke.

I'm 7 weeks today and now totally symptom free, the same as when I had my MMC. (When I had DS I suffered hyperemisis from day one). I saw GP yesterday and he said there is no need for an early scan, and I have booking in appt with midwife next week. I feel really deflated and like I'm just going through the motions waiting for the inevitable to happen. I have to go and spend an hour with the midwife again, get bloods taken, have a GTT at 10 weeks. I wish I could just have a scan to see if things are progressing first. Last time I thought I was pregnant until bleeding at 13 weeks and found out the baby had stopped growing at 8.5 weeks. Does anyone know if the midwife has the power to refer for an early scan and if it is likely she would do this for me? Feel a bit in limbo right now.x

basgetti sorry you feel so down
i don't have much experience but some epu just have a walk in service, where if you are prepare to wait, they will scan you, maybe check if there is one available in your area. Big hug

Basgetti I'm sorry you're feeling stuck in limbo. Your midwife would almost certainly be able to refer you for an early scan and I hope she does. There may be criteria for which she can and can't refer though. Commonly they would be able to refer for bleeding or pain but depending on your area anxiety on your part following an mc would also be a reason though it's less usually accepted. Is there any way you could stretch to a private scan if she doesn't? I know the feeling that you are just waiting to confirm things have gone wrong and it's awful, I really feel for you. I really hope it's just that every pregnancy is different.

Thanks Covent, I didn't know it was possible to walk in. I'll give them a ring tomorrow to find out, if its not possible I will call the midwives and find out if they can refer. I just want putting out of my misery!

Thanks Penguin, I was considering a private scan but our oven broke 2 days ago so things are a bit tight due to that unexpected cost! It might be worth the stretch though just for my peace of mind. Yes my GP said every pregnancy is different and I'm hoping thats the case. But when I saw a different GP for my last pregnancy I was joking that I'm relieved not to be sick this time, and he said it might be a sign that things aren't progressing well. He's always a bit miserable and I always avoid seeing him if I can, but it turns out he was right and his words have stayed with me.

Congratulations to Strawbs and Covent, fab news. Hope that you can relax a tiny bit now! And very good luck to DrFunke and Penguin for tomorrow. I hope that you'll be updating us with good news soon!

Well after some chasing this morning, I've got a scan booked on Friday morning at last. I'll be 7w 6days by my dates but 6w 6days by my early scan dates last week. I'm not very hopeful at all as like basgetti I don't have any sickness despite having hyperemisis with both previous healthy pregnancies - to be honest, I'm preparing myself for the worst, already planning how I can arrange for things to be sorted out next week and what I'm going to tell work. I am quite tearful at the thought of confirming what I think I know.

basgetti, one thing I've found is that the more fuss you make, the more you are likely to be taken seriously for a scan. I had a private one last week and when I went to my GP with the scan report, she was all for saying that it was best to wait to 12 weeks when more can be seen. After my experiences with my first miscarriage, there was no way I was going to accept that - can you imagine waiting 7 weeks of not knowing?? torture! So she compromised that she would make the referral and the EPU would make the decision. After that, it seems to have been a case of just agreeing an appointment time. The standards seem to vary dramatically from one GP to another - it seems that your GP has made the decision based on the physical evidence of miscarriage but what about your emotional wellbeing? I know that midwives can also refer. Fx for you xx

Dotty I'm really glad you have a date sorted for your scan. I hope so much that it is not the bad news you are expecting.

I hate that healthcare in this country seems to depend so much on luck the individual care provider and on the patient being able to push for what they need. Typically it's those who are least able to do the pushing that are the most vulnerable and consequently the least likely to get good care. Sorry I digress slightly I've just been thinking about how it would be easier if we knew what to expect when it came to ante-natal care following a previous miscarriage and I slightly wandered off the path!

Oh god. I just went to loo and had some yellow discharge with pink tinge. And then just pinky yellow watery stuff. Please don't let this be the start of mc. Exactly the time I had last one 8wks 4 days. Trying not to get too upset.

Annie, might it just be vaginal discharge? I've read that tjat can increase in pregnancy. How are things this morning love?

Covent, i'm inthe languedoc. Where are you heading too?

Oh Annie, sorry to hear, I hope you manage to get some sleep. Are you going to the doc today?

sollers I'm off to Montpellier , ready to jump on Eurostar.

wish me luck guys when I was 5w3d my hcg was 1250 and when I was 6w2d it was 5832 so it's doubling every 65 hours do you think those numbers are ok I know it's in range I'm just so nervous I have an ultra sound tomorrow 6w4d I'm just so worried I'm gonna have bad news

Annie that must be scary. I would call your nearest EPU for some advice asap. Hope you get some reassurance.

Have fun in Montpellier Paranoid. Hopefully you will have a lovely relaxed time. How tragic to have to avoid all the delicious soft french cheeses though!

Hope you're managing to stay calm DrFunke good luck today, we'll be thinking of you.

XKat I'm afraid I don't know much about HCG levels but being within normal range is a positive sign. Good luck for your scan tomorrow.

Annie how are you today? Have you contacted epu? As someone mentioned earlier is it possibly just discharge?
I hope you managed to get some sleep last night.

xkat I don't know much about hcg levels either but if they are doubling and in range then I should imagine that's a good sign.

Good luck to those who have scans today.

I've finally heard from the midwives and have a booking appointment next Tuesday. Lovely lady on the phone said they will get me the earliest scan available when I go Tuesday, this should make me feel happier however it made me panic as I don't want bad news. I've tried to stay positive this whole time but I'm starting to struggle now