Pregnant after MC due December 14

[Penguin13]

If you're pregnant after a previous MC and due in December 14 this is the thread for you.

If you're an obsessive knicker-checker or just want someone to chat to who knows where you're coming from you'll fit right in.

What a lovely way to remember the baby paranoid. I've marked what would've been the due date in my calendar with a note saying 'do something nice'. Thought I'd see how I felt at the time but definitely wanted to mark it someway.

Ladies I envy your hunger. I'm the opposite and just don't fancy anything. I'm eating because I know I need to but it all tastes meh food is usually my life!

Welcome regular and melody. You've come to the right place.

Stats list is a good idea. Well volunteered paranoid!

More new faces! Welcome Melody and Regular.

Annie, I was talking to my mother about my lack of morning sickness/nausea last night (my parents are the only people I've told as of yet) and she told me that she didn't get any morning sickness with three of her four children (2 girls, 2 boys). So that cheered me up a bit.

I must go have a look at the stats list in the regular thread. I haven't quite dared to go in there yet. BUt, yes, sounds like a good idea, Paranoid

Welcome melody, hope the next scan is more reassuring.
Welcome Regular!

Paranoid, that's a lovely way to remember your lost one. Yes to stats! I love a list

Scan is thursday, bricking it already.

Argh! Clearly I am wearing a deeply unflattering outfit as a colleague who doesn't know just pointed at my stomach and said 'oh is that good news?' I just mumbled something about a food baby. Seriously though! Who does that??! Ru-ude!

Paranoid, I like the idea of stats page! Have you managed to do some work? Because I haven't!

Penguin! That's soooo rude!! I would never say something like that to anyone??!! Some people!

Melody-I've done pretty much sweet fa today as well just concentrating on keeping my eyes open!

How fucking rude penguin !

I have had a very successful afternoon watched 3 episodes of Poirot

Also managed to do absolutely bugger all today, so very tired, and dreading the trek home. MrPres better be on cooking duty this evening, I really can't manage it.

Also, Penguin I am at your colleague, so presumptuous!

Oh Penguin what a cheeky mare!!! Looks like you don't need the BOB badge after all

That happened to me a few months ago I was at a work conference sitting at a big round table and a colleague grinned and said right across the table "how long have you got?".

It was a tunic! I will never wear a tunic again.

I was v hormonal on fertility treatment at the time so nearly cried.

melody I'm struggling today, one yet on mn on phone, one eye on PC trying to catch up with work before holidays.

penguin slap her for me, will you

Good luck for the return home tube ladies

Ha, a few years ago another woman on the tube demanded that I be allowed to sit down as she thought I was pregnant. In her defence I was wearing an empire line tunic, and am a bit of a chubster.

However, the reason I was swaying and looking a bit green was because I'd been out on the lash after work. I had to sit down and look maternal, rather than pissed, for the rest of the journey whilst she gave me encouraging smiles. Argh.

Thanks for making me smile ladies. Maybe she just noticed my recently fabulous rack and put two and two together I'm actually less concerned about the fact that I clearly look podgy and more outraged that someone would think it was ok to say that. I want to tell people at the time I choose and in the way I choose thanks very much.

President that is priceless poor well meaning woman. For me it's usually an empire line and terrible posture that gives me that quasi-preggo look but today the culprit is a relatively fitted T shortly to be consigned to the dust rag bucket and a big baguette food baby.

I had a pylori h infection for a few years and it made my stomach swell up. The amount of people that asked me if I was pregnant was unbelievable. In fairness, I did look pregnant, but don't ask, FFS!

However, I did a bad thing recently. My male neighbour recently told us that his partner was pregnant again. I was all "yay, I thought she looked a bit pregnant the last time I saw her". He then told us that they were waiting for the 12-week scan before celebrating/announcing it officially. So obviously she's too early to be showing yet and I just called his partner a blimp.

I went home early.
Here's a first stab at the stats doc, DecAfterMCStats and we can work on it further later.

thanks for setting up the stats Paranoid! This thread has moved so fast, it's hard to keep up with everyone's situations which are all so different.

So sorry for those who have had bad news in the last few days.

I am also with those struggling to concentrate on work - my first week back after hols and I'm soooo tired. I have absolutely no sickness though which is convincing me that something is wrong - it's exactly what happened with my last miscarriage and as I get very sick with my healthy pregnancies, it's a sure sign for me.

I especially identify with your sitaution Melody - I'm also in limbo land but when I scanned last week, it was apparently too early for a heart beat (so my dates are out or the baby isn't growing). I'm waiting for a scan to be confirmed at my EPU but nothing yet. I do have another private scan booked on Saturday when I will be 7 weeks but I'm hoping the EPU will get in there beforehand - all this expense adds up!! I feel quite let down by NHS to be honest and I had low expectations this time round because of my experiences last Dec.

Hey Dotty. I hope you hear from your EPU soon. Did they tell you when they would call and let you know about the scan? It's so frustrating that there is no set standard of what care you can expect when pg after mc, somehow it would make it easier than relying on the kindness/efficiency of individual staff.

Hello ladies,

Hope everybody got a good night's sleep.

Thanks Paranoid for setting up the spreadsheet! CoventGarden, I have seen on the stats doc that you have your scan today. You must be so nervous. Best of luck!!

Dotty, really hope you get to hear soon from your EPU. I was also very disappointed in the past by the NHS and felt let down. Hope this time will be better, but with all the cuts they have been going through, I very much doubt it...

I have booked an appointment with my GP for Friday morning. I am not really sure why I have booked it and what I am expecting to get out of this appointment. Maybe I just want some reassurance, or some professional opinion, in order not to rely only on what I have read on Google about the enlarged yolk sac. The thing is anxiety is killing me, I feel great physically in this pregnancy (a bit too great not to worry, all my symptoms are gone), but emotionally I am a complete mess. I am not coping well at all with the stress of not knowing what is going to happen. I am also hoping that my GP will be able to get me a NHS scan. Does any of you know whether GPs have any influence in getting a scan at the EPU? I tried to self-refer but it didn't work (I was told they only do early scans for previous ectopic PG but not for previous MC).

Anyway, I will try to actually get some work done today (not like yesterday), hoping that this will keep my mind a bit occupied...

Melody this site may help you www.earlypregnancy.org.uk/FindUsMap.asp
It has a section where you can search for EPU by area and most of them say how you can be referred ie. Self/GP/midwife. I'??m not sure how up to date the info is but it's a good starting point and easy to find a contact number for your nearest unit. I think most places would take a GP referral . At the very least your appointment should be an opportunity to talk through your concerns and ask some questions but I hope you get a scan appointment out of it.

The very best of luck Covent for today's scan!

melody I have no advice I'm afraid as I'm not in the UK, but I'm sorry you're feeling so anxious. I found that forcing myself to concentrate on work is some help. I hope your GP visit on Friday is useful.

Thanks for the stats page, Paranoid!

And good luck for your scan tomorrow President. I won't be around for a while, but I'll keep everything crossed for you ladies.

My sister is coming over for a visit tomorrow so I'm going to have to tell her, although I would have preferred to wait until after my scan. She'll wonder why I'm not drinking vast amounts of wine as usual though.

Morning Peeps!

I'm back! Move went well and our internet was connected this morning.
I've now registered at docs and have been given the number for community midwives but despite leaving 2 messages no one has bothered to call me back yet
Still no idea of dates but my boobs have turned into massive bowling balls of pain and i'm suffering terrible nausea so i'm hoping these are good signs! I had to have a pregnancy test at the docs when i registered and the test line came up good and strong before the control line, considering it was 5:30pm and I had to force a wee out I'm taking comfort in the fact it came up so quick. (I know it probably means nothing though)

Good Luck at your scan today Covent

Hi Penguin,
Very useful link, thanks!! You are right, my nearest EPU should take a GP referral, so let's hope I can convince mine that I need a scan.

Good luck today Covent I'll be thinking of you. What time's the scan? Crossing everything for a good outcome.

melody I broke down in front of my GP and he contacted my local EPU on my behalf and got me an appointment for a scan, I saw him the Thursday before Easter and had to wait until the following Friday though.

Last time I just walked into the EPU at UCLH first thing in the morning and was scanned within the hour. I've been very fortunate and can't fault the care I've had from the NHS so far, I feel very grateful.

Good luck today with the scan Covent!

Morning everyone, sorry I went AWOL for a few days!

So sorry to hear of those with bad news, fingers crossed you'll be back here in no time. X

And Hi to all the new faces.. I'm no longer the newest!

Thanks for the stats Paranoid.. Good work! I love a good list!
Have added myself on.. Sorry I took up a bit of space..and I realised I'm the youngest and the furthest away from you all!

Good luck for the scan today Covent ,will be thinking of you.

melody your gp really should refer you because of previous mc but I know some are difficult! Luckily I knew mine so he referred me there and then. Explain how worried and anxious you are, it is so awful waiting for a next scan. (maybe force a tear out too for effectiveness ) Hope it goes well.

As for me, I had a second scan yesterday morning as I was still spotting brown and felt a bit achey which really freaked me out. Phoned epau on Monday afternoon and spoke to the same lady who told me to come in the next morning, she is so so lovely.. I'll buy her a box of chocs next time I think!

So scan went really well to our relief.. That wait while they are looking is torturous! I measured at 6+2 last Thursday and measured 7+3 yesterday! So an extra 3 days. The sonographer said the dates can be out until 12 weeks anyway. But baby definitely looked bigger and we could clearly see the heart beating away. She could also say where the brown spotting was coming from, there was a cm of implantation bleed that she could see, so not to worry about it. It has stopped for now so fingers crossed.

I do feel a bit relieved for now.. But the baby died at around 8.5 weeks at my mmc so once I get passed that I'll feel better. The lady said I can ring and book another one whenever I want..so I'm thinking around 9 weeks. Although that will only be about 5 days before our wedding, and what if it's bad news and I have to have another erpc?! Oh I don't know, I need to think more positively!

Anyway enough rambling on about me. How is everyone else today?

Hope you're feeling ok dotty and your scan date comes through soon.