Martians 2014, thread 11. KEGELS!

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Shiny new thread, ladies :)

Ice I bet that's weird to see it all again! Will you be giving birth there again?

Mummy good on you! Hope you feel better tomorrow x

Madwife I think your job is amazing. Most of the midwives I work with retrained from previous careers. Just focus on all the good you get out of it :)

Fox loved the banana commentary. You sound much brighter than you did earlier.

Welcome back Block.

On healthy eating front I am not doing well. Far too many refined sugars but the exercise bike is def boosting my energy levels.

Feeling baby every day now and occasionally I get a really big kick that makes me gasp - I seem to be well past butterflies. The good thing about being so busy is that the time is flying by to my 20 week scan, so not long until we find out.

Gawjus are you ok? Think you felt very I'll before and haven't been on in a while. Or was it Kara? Have been catching up on too many pages at once.

Right heading over to f/b to find out what's really going on.

Cool it's really interesting to hear about your career choices after you've had kids as I worry that I won't get the balance right and be able to stop being such a workaholic! Did your feelings change as soon as you'd had ds or was it when you went back after mat leave?

Oh and congrats Edam on team blue!

Ah, Coolhand, the irony. I learned early on (by being a nosy bitch) that you are head of sixth form at your school and I marvelled at how wonderful that must feel in terms of status and personal achievement. I hope you feel massively fulfilled and content when you make changes to your career with this baby. Thanks for sharing.

On the no presents front, we both think Valentine's day is a bit silly and annoying pressure to be romantic, so we have a £5 limit for presents. (Not that we're normally extravagant). It means we get things we might not normally get each other and have to be a bit creative.

In terms of things to remind of/connect to the UK, how about children's books? The original Railway Collection books (origin of Thomas the Tank) are definitely very British but not really politically incorrect like some older books. Or Beatrix Potter?

Oh bollock fuck.

OH is away this weekend. From right after work tomorrow. He has the car. I didn't do the food shop today because my back is fucking murdering me. The dog is almost out of dry food...we have wet food but he gets too hungry if we only feed him that.

No family within 30miles. No friends within 10, and they don't have a car.

I'm going to have to walk a mile to Tesco on Saturday, then back again with arms of shopping, despite my back feeling as though a baseball bat has been taken to it, aren't I??

Fuck nuts.

jolleigh, do an online shop. You should be able to get it delivered tomorrow.

Do Tesco deliver in your area Jolls? I have not been to the supermarket in months, I cannot be arsed to carry shopping up four flights of stairs.

Jolls, I think it would be acceptable to take a taxi.

You know what, I didn't even think about online. OH hates online (he thinks people are given the shit stuff) so I stopped when he moved in.

But it genuinly makes sense this time

Thank you ladies for pointing this out!

I swallow on Valentine's Day

Imeg, when I want th'usband to get creative I point out the spunk stains on my plastered walls and say, 'Get that off, you moron, and don't bring the paint with it'.

pram it's clearly animal cruelty that got you kicked of!!! You can't flick bogies at the cat!!! It's mean!!

Congrats on a boy Edamame

Congrats Joll! Fx for you.

fox it will be OK. You will bond soon, much nicer when you can feel it move all the time.

Feeling pretty grotty today, think I'm coming down with a cold, keep coughing and throat hurts a bit. I'm worrying about the baby, don't feel like anything's happening, haven't really felt anything like movement. Nips are still really painful tho! I know is normal not to feel much yet (17+4) but wish I could to have that reassurance.

Won't be long I suppose, only a couple more weeks till the scan.

Hi can I ask the ladies who are feeling movements or kicks, where are you feeling it?

Im guessing it's different fir everyone but curious to know where its located.

I know, Pram, I can hardly believe it's a possibility. It's a bit scary but exciting too. The place really is tiny though. Seats 40 max over two floors.

On the careers discussion, I've been a journalist for most of my working life but I kind of lost interest once DS1 came along. I was lucky enough to cut down to two days a week and then to stop altogether for a few years. I've very much valued the time I've been able to spend with my gorgeous boys while they're so young. I'm hoping going self employed will mean I'll be able to be flexible with when and how much I work.

Lib, the kicks are in a different place every time. Babies don't stay in one position for long at this stage. Once they get close to birth there's less moving around so you may feel kicks in the same few places.

I've just felt my first kicks from the outside DP will be able to have a feel soon (he's current asleep, naked, on the sofa next to me )

Hi ladies, my goodness can you lot chat Haven't posted cos I've been busy, nothing exciting going to work then passing out and occasionally trying pathetically to run.

Think I've missed 2 whole threads now! So exciting that some of you have had gender scans, does it make it all seem more real?? Tho since I spent yesterday sitting at my desk with the button of my jeans open you'd think that'd be real enough...maternity jeans from now on I think.

10 more pages by tomorrow

Re careers, I never wanted one. I wanted to get married and have babies. Unfortunately my master plan was thwarted by my ability to only meet absolute twats who didn't have 2 brain cells to rub together!

I left college with 2 E's at A-level, mainly cos I couldn't be arsed to study once I decided I wasn't going to uni. Then I went into insurance (corporate - so for companies rather than individuals), discovered (a) that insurance is full of very mediocre people so if you have half a brain and a personality you are already in the high talent pool and. (b) that I am really competitive. Cutting a 20 yr career short (god that makes me feel old) I now work for a very large company running the insurance dept and earning more money than I ever thought possible. BUT, whilst I love all the things the money buys, I would have traded it all in to have got pregnant 2 yrs ago and not to have developed diabetes. Plus now that I am married to a man with an ex-wife and 3 children who he pays a generous amount of maintenance to (which I don't begrudge but just wish his troll of an ex would at least acknowledge that he has more than done the right thing by her) I have bollocks all spare cash! Pesky kids

Hmm. That turned into a mini rant. Soz!

On a more current note I am just desperate for a good nights sleep. I am still waking up 4 times a night to go to the loo and have got suitcases under my eyes instead of the normal bags. Please will someone tells me this gets better? Am 14 +3. It must must must get better...

Woke up at half 5.

In work by half 6.

This is a hell reserved only for people who've done very very naughty things.

Did you wet the bed Joll?