MARTIANS 2014 - Thread 9: Heartbeats, hormones and more Gregg's pasties than you can shake a stick at!

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Oh good I was a bit worried I was falling apart or had some kind of infection. It's so sharp it really takes my breath away. I need to learn to get up slowly rather than just jump up.

karam my next scan is 2nd nov, so quite a few weeks yet. We aren't finding out the sex, this is our 3rd and last baby so we would like one last surprise.

We're back for second scan on 1st Nov. I really want to find out but OH doesn't. I'm worried that I might need to prepare myself if it's a boy :S a girl would be so much easier but I feel horrid for wanting one over the other, but I know it will be loved whatever it's just the way I'm feeling at the moment. :(

We're not going to ask, but if we spot an appendage we will probably ask for confirmation, as I would hate to be suspecting. Does that make sense?

Next scan is 18th October! So quite soon. Can't believe that is the last time I will see the baby until it arrives!!

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Wow becca that's really soon!!! I'm glad I have a few more weeks to get used to all this, hopefully I'll appreciate it more by the time the next scan comes round! Does anyone else have to do the fasting glucose test? I'm not looking forward to mine because I've found that when I've not eaten and my blood sugar drops I get sickness again:(

I didn't want to find out the gender, but since the whole testing and risk thing has happened, I really want to know. I had a whole week after the dating scan when I didn't even think about being PG, couldn't look at the scan picture. Im a lot calmer and less panicky now, and Id like to know as I feel that it will help me re connect with the baby.

My scan is 17th I can't wait to see my baby again! I kinda wanted to have a surprise but OH wants to know if its a boy so he can be excited, he doesn't want a girl but I'm sure he will love our baby regardless of the sex.

MummyP I like that your having a surprise

MummyBee I'm not sure you have to prepare your self, you'll love your baby as soon as its in your arms wether is a boy or a girl but I totally understand that I would be nice to get used to the idea before hand.

beccadugs I assume then this is not baby #1?

Do you not get a growth scan or summat, Becca? I will have one at 34 weeks but maybe that's just my hospital or cos it's a first baby or cos I'm absolutely ancient...?

I have had 3 scans so far, and have another 3 to go? There's no problems been detected with bump so far not that I've been told about anyway, but now I'm worried that there sending me for so many scans!

Growth scans aren't standard so you only get them if there's a particular reason and they should have told you why. I had them first time for low BMI, last time because previous pregnancy was a later loss (so were for reassurance really) and this time because of low BMI. I've also heard of people getting them due to high BMI because that can make measuring the bump more inaccurate and I'm sure there are lots of other possible reasons.

No Kara it is first baby, what made you think otherwise.

As far as I know "usually" you get two scans, at 12 weeks and 20weeks.

As I am consultant lead with underactive thyroid they might send for additional growth scans, but am assuming not until told otherwise.

We found out gender the first time as we saw no reason not to but last time didn't as we'd previously lost a girl and I felt that if I knew beforehand it was a boy then I might feel negative about it while it wasn't "real" whereas I knew that once it was born and was real and in my arms I wouldn't care. When she was born I actually forgot for about five minutes to even check which she was! This time I was thinking of finding out (because it would be handy to know whether we need to get boy things) but now I've realised people will be assuming we want/or trying for a boy I want to not find out to make a point. Poor DH has been on the receiving end of long rants about other people's assumptions this week!

Sorry becca just because you said 2 scans and I've been booked in for a lot more

Oh dear BWP, don't let them get you down! I've had people comment that we must be trying for a girl this time but, meh, I think it's just something people say in a lame attempt to make conversation. Doesn't bother me TBH. Smile and nod!

We have 20 week scan on Oct 14th. We probably will find out the gender. I genuinely don't have a preference. I think DH would like a girl this time ideally but I know he'll be overjoyed at a boy too.

Not to worry Kara! Where are you from? (I think I spotted Scotland so maybe they do things differently there) lucky you having more scans!!

Becca, we're scan buddies

I don't think I'll be scheduled for another scan after 20 weeks but they may give me one because I'm also ancient

Ignore them BWP people have to have an opinion! I have one of each all read, so now we get "You have one of each, why do you want another?" "You wont get anything different you know!"

I will be able to find out in a couple of weeks when the full results are back from the CVS. If Im honest, Im convinced Im having a girl, DD and I have secretly christened her Eve. Not sure what we will do if its a boy!

Loving the huge variation in advice! Our grandmothers were bloody tough lumpy that book is a gem! I'm not sure about scrubbing my nips though....my advice would be lansolin all the way!!

I'm totes bunged up constipated got a sore upper back but assume tis round ligament pain . hot cross glad u were reassured by nhs 24. I used them aherm a few times post birth last time not that I'm hypichondriacal (fancy crossy outy thing here) can be v reassuring when ur new to it all. I've had some abdomen pains too btw but milder than yours.

Kara I'm nr Dundee. I've just been offered standard scans and not even seeing the mw again till 24hours (unlike those soft southerners !) . Where r y? .

Gender ...can't wait to find out 18th Oct becca we shall be scan buddies if u got that right (on phone, relying on preg-impaired memory) ..

Ive had 4 scans already. There will be another to check the heart in a couple of weeks, then the anomaly scan. Its a good job ultrasound isn't radioactive! I'd glow in the dark!

Hi Kara. 2 scans is the norm in most areas - it may just be your trust - I imagine they would have explained any concerns/reasons for providing you with extra concerns though so I wouldn't worry. I'd just be pleased at getting to see more views of baby!

We have one DS but no gender preference here either. On the one hand a girl might be nice as we only intend to have two, on the other, I have all the clothes etc for a boy and I think it would be lovely for DS - a great buddy, which I would love. Didn't find out first time round - more inclined to find out this time but will decide on day.

Can't remember who mentioned the dangling appendages but I have it from a sonographer that that's not what to look for at a 20 week scan. Don't want to say what you do look for in case some people don't want to know. That said, even armed with that knowledge last time I had no clue - baby spent so much time moving around.

On that note, some friends of ours had a 3D scan last time. They didn't want to know sex - were told to fast forward through minute 4-5 of video as it was 'very obvious'. They did as told - watched it back after the birth and would have had no clue!

I guess these things take a trained eye most of the time!

• 24 weeks not hours!!!

• 24 weeks not hours!!!