Tip: don't drink a cup of tea while you have a baby strapped to your chest. Cue profuse sweating!
Does anyone else's baby do a massive poo as soon as you've changed them into a fresh nappy? Anyone else on this thread using real nappies?
Aloha DS1 has been alright so far. Quite caring actually. What we've done is be really casual about the baby. So we're not 'selling' the concept to him (not saying "come to look at your brother" or "do you like your little brother" or stuff like that), but rather letting him adjust to it at his own pace, and let him approach the baby at his own pace.
We've kept his routines (nursery, DH and I alternate bedtimes, his weekly bath with DH, dinner as a family) and are not compensating for the baby's arrival in the way of letting him get away with more stuff or anything like that. We're trying to be really consistent and maintain the same boundaries as before.
What we ARE doing consciously is giving him more one-on-one attention. Sometimes I'll specifically put the baby down in his car seat or something so I can get on the floor and play with DS1 or give him a cuddle. Also something he loves is when I cradle him in my arms, shower him with kisses and tell him he's my baby. When he approaches DS2 and acts gently (stroking him or something like that) I'll praise him and tell him he's being really gentle. Also when I've had a good night (unlike last night, awake between 3.30-6am!) then when DS1 wakes up DH will get him and put him in our bed and we'll have a family cuddle. When I'm feeding DS2 I can't do much in the way of playing with DS1 but I encourage him to bring me books and I can read them to him (I can feed hands free due to awesome nursing chair and good placement of nursing pillow).
Hope some of the above helps! I'm still waiting for the other shoe to drop and DS1 to turn into a defiant nightmare...