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DP Died peacefully yesterday

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MavisEnderby · 10/06/2010 04:37

I started a thread about him being in icu.Anyhow,after battling away (they decreased his sedation enough for him to smile at ds and to tell us stuff,a bit,from what we could understand through lipreading as he had a trachy in) he had a big bleed yesterday and sadly nothing could be done.I managed to get him to see the children before he died and he was aw2arev as he smiled at them,and I amgladn he was able to do this.he died very peacefully 3 hours later bafter they had taken him off the ventilator,thankfully free from pain.RIP SWEEHHEART.,,A,

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williewalshsballs · 10/06/2010 10:09

I'm so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and family. You sound so brave.

magso · 10/06/2010 10:13

I am so sorry.

DastardlyandSmugly · 10/06/2010 10:17

So sorry for your loss.

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MavisEnderby · 10/06/2010 10:44

Thank you all for support it means a lot.Poor dd went to nursery breakfastless as I eventually crashed out at about 5 am and woke at 8.45 eek!ds was at his cousins and went to school ina uniform 2 sizes too big bless him.

Squonky,yes you do know me,I remember the mile for maude picnic and walk

I may take up your offer at some point,thank you.Everything a bit of a blur currently.

Thank you all,it is times like this i realise why this website is so fab.Your messages mean a lot thanks.

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MavisEnderby · 10/06/2010 10:44

Thank you all for support it means a lot.Poor dd went to nursery breakfastless as I eventually crashed out at about 5 am and woke at 8.45 eek!ds was at his cousins and went to school ina uniform 2 sizes too big bless him.

Squonky,yes you do know me,I remember the mile for maude picnic and walk

I may take up your offer at some point,thank you.Everything a bit of a blur currently.

Thank you all,it is times like this i realise why this website is so fab.Your messages mean a lot thanks.

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NorkyButNice · 10/06/2010 10:46

So sorry Mavis - my thoughts are with you and your family.

Lizzylou · 10/06/2010 10:47

I am so sorry for your loss, Mavis.

Earthymama · 10/06/2010 10:50

Oh, Mavis, I am so sorry for your loss.
Blessings to you and your family.

bratnav · 10/06/2010 10:51

Oh Mavis I am so sorry

piratecat · 10/06/2010 10:52

very sorry for your loss mavis, hugs to you and your children. I hope you have people near you who can support you? xxx

OrmRenewed · 10/06/2010 10:52

My condolences mavis. Thinking of you and your children.

5inthebackofthenet · 10/06/2010 10:54

So very sorry for your loss
Thinking of you and your DC x

exexpat · 10/06/2010 10:57

Another one here who lost DH nearly four years ago, sending sympathies.

You're probably too dazed to think about anything at the moment, but there are some good sources of help and advice out there about how to get through this. I see retiredgoth has already recommended the Merry Widow website, and I'd definitely second that. Has anyone told you about Winston's Wish yet? They are a charity helping bereaved children, with a very good website which I found really helpful.

The main thing is not to be afraid to ask people directly for help - I'm normally a very self-sufficient person, and I found this really hard. Everyone will say 'if there is anything I can do to help....' but then they will mostly leave you alone unless you actually do ask. You certainly shouldn't worry about little things like school uniform....

ProfessorLaytonIsMyLoveSlave · 10/06/2010 10:58

I'm so sorry. It's desperately unfair.

Sidge · 10/06/2010 11:01

Mavis I'm so very sorry to hear of your loss of your DP.

Sending you and your children love and strength xxx

BrigitteBardot · 10/06/2010 11:01

Very sorry of your and your children's loss.

AliGrylls · 10/06/2010 11:08

I didn't see your thread about him being in ICU and I stumbled over this. I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. I hope you and your DC get all the support you need.

JulesJules · 10/06/2010 11:12

I am so sorry to see your news. xx

MissPopOff · 10/06/2010 12:39

ALL IS WELL:

Do not stand here and weep
I am not there, I do not sleep
I am the thousand winds that blow
I am diamond glints on the snow
I am the sunlight on ripened grain
I am a gentle autumnal rain

when you waken in the morning hush
I am the soft uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circled flight
I am the soft stars that shine at night

Do not stand at my grave and cry
I am not there....I did not die

sphil · 10/06/2010 16:31

So sorry to hear of your loss xx

PheasantPlucker · 10/06/2010 16:33

So sorry to read this Mavis.

FleurDelacour · 10/06/2010 16:36

I am so sorry to hear your news. Thinking of you and the children at this sad time xxxxx

SanctiMoanyArse · 10/06/2010 16:42

I am so sorry for your loss and wish you and your children strength and love X

Polgara2 · 10/06/2010 16:46

Oh Mavis I was only reading the start of your other thread yesterday. So, so sorry to hear of your loss. Our thoughts are with you and your children.

3BreastsInMyShirt · 10/06/2010 16:49

So Sorry.

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