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Sudden death of my nephew

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Foxymoxy68 · 12/04/2022 23:27

My 26 year old nephew has just passed away following a charity boxing match last Saturday night which he took part in. He collapsed at the end and never regained consciousness. He was declared brain dead yesterday and donated his organs today.
As a family, we are so completely stunned by what has happened. We’ve never experienced anything so traumatic and dreadful.
His parents are absolutely beside themselves with grief and we just don’t know what to do. It’s awful 😢

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Sprucewillis · 13/04/2022 18:53

Sorry for your loss OP. Many years ago I lost a close family member (same age as me) in very similar circumstances. The pain doesn't ever go away but you do make your peace with it eventually. It helps to talk about them as much as you can with people who care Thanks

buttercrinkle · 13/04/2022 18:54

How awful, OP. So, so sorry for your loss.

Toasty280 · 13/04/2022 19:03

RIP Dominic.
So sorry for your loss.

VioletBlanche · 13/04/2022 19:03

I am so sorry you have lost your wonderful nephew. How cruel and unfair. I'm thinking of you, OP
Rest in Peace Dominic

JimmyShoo · 13/04/2022 19:07

I’m so sorry for your loss, how totally tragic. May he rest in peace.

FannylovesDick · 13/04/2022 19:07

I’m sorry for your loss.

I know its too early yet, but you can buy memorial bricks for your loved one(Baggies fan) at the football ground as they have a little memorial garden there..

Pet8 · 13/04/2022 23:02

RIP Dominic. I'm so sorry xxx

DowntonCrabby · 13/04/2022 23:06

I’m so sorry for your loss Flowers how utterly tragic.

What a beautiful legacy though to donate and help so many people. RIP Dominic Flowers

Foxymoxy68 · 14/04/2022 00:16

Thank you for all your lovely posts. I’ve been overwhelmed at how supportive everyone has been. This is our lovely Dominic x

Sudden death of my nephew
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Monty27 · 14/04/2022 05:04

Many condolences to you and your family OP.
Life is cruel at times. We'll never understand it.
RIP Dominic 😥 🙏

MarshaBradyo · 14/04/2022 05:06

That is heartbreaking

I’m so sorry for your loss

Haveatakeaway · 14/04/2022 07:31

So so sorry op, a local here and also read about the tragedy in the local news. Sending so much love and strength

Amdone123 · 14/04/2022 07:41

I am heartbroken for you, op. He was taken too soon. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
Rest in peace, Dominic.

SandysMam · 14/04/2022 07:48

I am so so sorry for your loss, life is so cruel. He sounds and looks like such a lovely young man.

I hope it’s not inappropriate to say but I am currently on dialysis waiting for a kidney transplant. His last heroic act will have transformed people’s lives beyond all measure and that legacy will live on for many many years. If I am able to get a kidney, it won’t just be my life that is saved and transformed, but the lives of my small children too who will get their mum back. Your nephew is a hero as are his family for making that amazing decision in such a dark time Flowers

WhenDovesFly · 14/04/2022 08:06

Life is cruel sometimes. I am very sorry for your loss OP.

If you're feeling overwhelmed, or want to talk to someone outside of family then do consider organisations such as the National Bereavement Service who offer practical and emotional support to families. Their freephone number is 0808 164 2239 or visit www.thenbs.org.

Your nephew's decision to donate his organs was an admirable one and through that he will live on in others.

Sleep peacefully Dominic Flowers

AbsoluteTruths · 14/04/2022 15:12

What a handsome young guy. I am so very sorry for your dreadful loss. Gone too soon.

gogohm · 14/04/2022 15:14

I'm so sorry. we are lighting candles tonight at church, I can light one for him if you like.

Foxymoxy68 · 14/04/2022 15:19

We’re still awaiting the post mortem. Thank you for the information xxx

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Foxymoxy68 · 14/04/2022 15:20

@gogohm

I'm so sorry. we are lighting candles tonight at church, I can light one for him if you like.
That would be so kind, yes please. And thank you xxxx
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Roselilly36 · 14/04/2022 15:20

So sorry, such painful grief, too lose someone so young. RIP Flowers

Foxymoxy68 · 14/04/2022 15:22

@SandysMam

I am so so sorry for your loss, life is so cruel. He sounds and looks like such a lovely young man.

I hope it’s not inappropriate to say but I am currently on dialysis waiting for a kidney transplant. His last heroic act will have transformed people’s lives beyond all measure and that legacy will live on for many many years. If I am able to get a kidney, it won’t just be my life that is saved and transformed, but the lives of my small children too who will get their mum back. Your nephew is a hero as are his family for making that amazing decision in such a dark time Flowers

Not inappropriate at all. In fact, it’s brought me great comfort. I hope you get your donor kidney really soon. You sound like a very deserving and caring person. Thank you xxx
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Foxymoxy68 · 14/04/2022 15:23

@Foxymoxy68

We’re still awaiting the post mortem. Thank you for the information xxx
We are a Catholic family and will be lighting candles for Dominic tonight at the Mass of the Last Supper. So thoughtful of you to be doing the same x
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Foxymoxy68 · 14/04/2022 15:25

@WhenDovesFly

Life is cruel sometimes. I am very sorry for your loss OP.

If you're feeling overwhelmed, or want to talk to someone outside of family then do consider organisations such as the National Bereavement Service who offer practical and emotional support to families. Their freephone number is 0808 164 2239 or visit www.thenbs.org.

Your nephew's decision to donate his organs was an admirable one and through that he will live on in others.

Sleep peacefully Dominic Flowers

Thank you so much for the information and your kind message xxx
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Workinghardeveryday · 14/04/2022 15:25

I am so sorry for your loss xxx

Foxymoxy68 · 14/04/2022 15:26

@AbsoluteTruths

What a handsome young guy. I am so very sorry for your dreadful loss. Gone too soon.
He was beautiful inside and out xxx
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