Sudden death of my nephew

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My 26 year old nephew has just passed away following a charity boxing match last Saturday night which he took part in. He collapsed at the end and never regained consciousness. He was declared brain dead yesterday and donated his organs today.
As a family, we are so completely stunned by what has happened. We’ve never experienced anything so traumatic and dreadful.
His parents are absolutely beside themselves with grief and we just don’t know what to do. It’s awful 😢

I saw that we're a little bit down the line, but I just wanted to send my condolences and love. He donated his organs and that's amazing, just think of his legacy, not only the people who received his precious gift, but their family, their friends, the people who know them, who may be inspired to sign the donor register because of that. A wonderful, legacy that will carry on for years. RIP Dominic.

Oh OP I've just seen this thread. I lost a nephew at a similar age and am in tears here.

I'm so very sorry for your loss. I can't say you get over it, I still miss him terribly in particular what he was never able to achieve but I remain desperately proud of him and that won't change. Both of our nephews sound like very special people.

Sending love.

btw I still light candles for my nephew whenever I happen to be in a church. It still gives me comfort.

Thank you so much. It’s good to hear from someone who can empathise. I worry that people will think it’s silly that I’m so upset because he was ‘only my nephew’, not my own child or brother. But he was so lovely and such an integral part of our family that his loss feels so huge, especially given the tragic circumstances in which we lost him. So sudden!
It’s reassuring to know that time might ease the acuteness of the pain but I can’t imagine a time when we won’t miss him and feel so sad at what he couldn’t experience in life. Proud and bereft in equal measure!
Thank you for your lovely words. 💙

Thank you so much. Yes, a wonderful legacy indeed xxx

It has given us some comfort. Thank you so much xx

I worried about that too. But you're absolutely right, it's someone that was an integral part of your family. It's perfectly understandable that you're feeling bereft.

Unfortunately my nephew couldn't donate his organs for medical reasons, but he left a legacy in other ways: some of his friends have said that his words of encouragement have spurred them on in their careers; others have met through him, there are at least two couples that met at the memorial and subsequent gatherings held to remember him; and lots of money was raised through charity events in his name.

This saying helped me: life is not measured by the number of breaths you take but the moments that take your breath away. I think by those standards our nephews measured very highly ❤️.

Please be kind to yourself, your grief is very valid xxx