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My son aged 19 died in a stupid accident

269 replies

eldycha3 · 24/01/2022 07:58

My heart is just breaking...

OP posts:
feelinglowtodayinfertility · 24/01/2022 22:18

So sorry OP. Truly sorry to hear sending love ❤️

anxiouswaiting · 24/01/2022 22:30

My thoughts are with you, I cant begin to imagine your pain 💐

onemorerose · 24/01/2022 22:34

So sorry to read that you have lost your son xx

RevolvingPivot · 24/01/2022 22:48

That must be an awful shock. I'm so sorry.

lovescats3 · 24/01/2022 22:48

So sorry that is a tragic accident.are you with anyone you can talk to ? If not call the Samaritan s

Kleptronic · 24/01/2022 22:52

I'm so sorry your son has died.
Try to take it a blink at a time, a breath at a time, a minute at a time. Try to drink and eat something. I'm so sorry.

Talk to us on here, talk to people you have around you. Tell us about him if you want to. Breathe. Keep blinking. The seconds will pass. The time will come eventually when you can do minutes. It will come in time in waves. I can't imagine your anguish. I do know that the peaks will one day diminish, the agony will abate. Not soon, but it will.

I am so sorry for your loss.

Nongatron · 24/01/2022 22:55

I’m so so sorry there aren’t any words really. Wish I could help in real life Flowers

TheChemicalMother · 24/01/2022 22:57

Oh, I am so sorry.

There will be a million of us out here thinking 'we are the lucky ones'. So many could go like this.

Your poor boy.

PutYourBackIntoit · 24/01/2022 22:57

You poor love. I'm so sorry 😞

Starryskiesinthesky · 24/01/2022 22:57

How tragic and how unlucky he was that this happened. So many people do silly things but most of us get away with it. I can't imagine your pain but hope that somehow you can hold on to the fact that he was just a normal boy having fun and that he was just unlucky xx

Everly18 · 24/01/2022 22:59

I'm so sorry to hear this 💐

LondonQueen · 24/01/2022 23:00

That's awful, I'm so sorry for your loss. Do you have real life support, you really need someone in times like theseThanks

Sodiit · 24/01/2022 23:00

I'm so sorry for your loss ❤️

PattyPan · 24/01/2022 23:03

I am so sorry OP Flowers

insatiableme · 24/01/2022 23:07

Sorry for your loss op ❤️❤️

Gnomechomsky · 24/01/2022 23:16

Sorry for your loss OP Flowers

Mother87 · 24/01/2022 23:21

ThanksThanksThanksxxx

wizzler · 24/01/2022 23:28
Thanks
LetsGoParty · 25/01/2022 00:28

I'm so, so sorry for your loss.

eldycha3 · 25/01/2022 05:10

Thanks to each and every one of you for your kind words...I cannot imagine a lifetime without him in it all the things he would have done ...he was a self employed builder and proud of what he could do ...he was saving to buy a house so he could totally renovate it himself ...he had failed his driving test but was waiting for a cancellation...he just had so much to live for and this mistake he made has cost him his future...our future with him.

I feel like I can't cope with sorting his funeral I don't want to I shouldn't have to I'm his mum he should be burying me first !

OP posts:
QOD · 25/01/2022 05:30

So so sorry Such a tragic waste
Have you got family or friend with you?

eldycha3 · 25/01/2022 07:19

Yes I have my daughter and my partner and rest of family but everyone is devastated and in total shock! He lived with his girlfriend and her family and they are all in bits tooSad

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wheresthehope · 25/01/2022 07:21

I am so very sorry Flowers

HPLikecraft · 25/01/2022 08:29

I'm so sorry @eldycha3, I can't imagine your shock and pain. Wishing you strength in the days ahead.

goingpearshaped · 25/01/2022 08:33

I am so very sorry @eldycha3 to hear about your son. I know there are no words when your child dies, it makes no sense as as you say, as parents it should be us first. Sending much love to you and hoping you have good support around you. Take each hour at a time.