My son aged 19 died in a stupid accident

[eldycha3]

My heart is just breaking...

That is so sad. As you said a silly mistake, which has had the worst outcome. Try and offload some of the arrangements to family/ friends. You're right as his mum this should have been the other way around

Oh that is awful, I am so sorry to read that. :(

Oh op, the shock must be so overwhelming. Please look after yourself, take it one day at a time and delegate to others if there are jobs or tasks you can't or don't feel up to doing.
Sending you so much love and strength to get through this tragic time.

I'm so sorry. My thoughts are with you. RIP to your beautiful son. Xx

Sending you so much love xxx

Just devastating , I've got an 18 year old DS, always worried about what he gets up to with his friends when out drinking etc

So sorry for your loss xx

I am so very sorry for your loss 💕

@sofakingcool

Just devastating , I've got an 18 year old DS, always worried about what he gets up to with his friends when out drinking etc

So sorry for your loss xx

Yeah I worried every time he went out too wasn't aware he was out this time until 3am

@eldycha3, I have a friend who lost her son at the same age as yours.
This was some months ago, and she's now only feeling able to start to engage more with the outside world.
It will never go away, but it will slowly start to get easier to bear.
Don't expect too much of yourself. Your very soul is in pain, and you need to let it heal a little.

That's just beyond comprehension so sorry for your loss xx

[quote Sideswiped]@eldycha3, I have a friend who lost her son at the same age as yours.
This was some months ago, and she's now only feeling able to start to engage more with the outside world.
It will never go away, but it will slowly start to get easier to bear.
Don't expect too much of yourself. Your very soul is in pain, and you need to let it heal a little. [/quote]
Thank you he occupies my mind every minute of the day, I don't want to eat but I'm making myself ...my tablets help me sleep which is good . I just want to go see him at the chapel of rest but we haven't been allowed yet...I just need to kiss his head tell him how much he was loved by so many people

I am 5 years on eldycha3. It is a long, hard road. My greatest support has been from this board and from friends I have made who have experienced the loss of their own children. There are several support groups around and IME they are a safe place when the world is too difficult to cope with.

Your update is just so heartbreaking,he would have known how much you all loved him and still love him. I am glad you’re managing to eat something and sleep too ♥️

Oh love, I am so sorry. My situation isn’t closely comparable but I found when something devastating happened that it brought out the best in some people. And all sorts of people rallied around, just like we are on this thread. My advice is to take the support on offer where you can. Don’t struggle on. You may find that this dark time results in some stronger friendships with those who came alongside you.

Thanks for all your kind replies...my sister and I hadn't spoken for 3 years but as soon as she heard she messaged me and now we are back speaking and I'm so glad...at least some good has come from this

I'm glad your sister got in touch, OP. Hope you are surrounded by love and support.

I'm so sorry, @eldycha3, I hadn't seen your reply until just now. Of course you are thinking about your DS.
Whether or not you get to kiss his head,the love is there in your heart for him. And it will always be.

Well done for finding something positive, I hope she can be a source of support for you.

OP I’m just so sorry. My heart goes out to you. So glad your sister got back in touch with you, you need family support right now. Lots of love

That's terrible - I'm so sorry OP

Hard day today making his funeral arrangements and also been told his post mortem was inconclusive so further tests are needed which will result in his brain being removed was really hard to accept but they need to find a cause of death

It is so, so hard.

What an awful time for you OP, I’m so sorry. I wish I could say something more comforting, you sound like a wonderful mother and I’m sure he knows how much you love him.

It's just comforting coming on here and hearing kind words ..they mean a lot

Oh love, such difficult times. Want to give you a big hug.