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Trinityrhinos Unspeakably Shit Stuff part two

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TrinityRhino · 14/05/2013 20:39

Hi everyone
Thank you for so much help and such kind words x

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ILoveWoollyStuff · 14/05/2013 23:07

Thinking of you. Just over the border from you so if there's anything I can do I will.
Take care.

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daisydalrymple · 14/05/2013 23:12

Lit a candle and thought of you all tonight.
Much love to you all.
Hoping you're fast asleep by now.
DS is same age as Gecko. I can't believe, like so many others, this has happened again.
You know you can get through this, but this isn't something you should have to have done ever again.
Your family photos are full of warmth and love, i hope all of that helps you through the dark times
xxx
xxx
xxx

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MaryMotherOfCheeses · 14/05/2013 23:15

Trinity, I don't post on MN that much any more but I'm just so sorry to hear this bad news. You have had so much to deal with and you are in my thoughts xxx

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KurriKurri · 14/05/2013 23:32

Oh Trinity - I have been away for a few days and have just read this thread. -I am so, so sorry my dear. I can't think of the right words - unspeakably shit says it all Sad You and your girls are very much in my thoughts. xx

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BewitchedBotheredandBewildered · 14/05/2013 23:56

I have to confess to giggling a bit when I read your post about not knowing how to purl stitch or cast off. Just had this vision of god knows how many of us grabbing our screens and trying to dive through to you to tell you how to do it Grin my fingers are actually twitching to show you!

Sounds like a tough day tomorrow, we'll all be there with you in our thoughts.

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PurplePillow · 15/05/2013 00:09

Trinity, I will try and get through all the stuff I have to do so I can spend a few hours with you before I go for mum, you are coping really well, Cliff will be proud of how strong you're being, I am too

Lots of love PP and girls xxxxx

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Goldmandra · 15/05/2013 00:10

Adding my sorrow to hear your unspeakably shit news Trinity.

I bet there are videos on YouTube showing you how to pearl and cast off. I'd tell you but I don't think it's possible to find a way to do that on MN.

Sending ((((HUGS)))) instead.

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PurplePillow · 15/05/2013 00:11

Oh as for crocheting that's easy, we'll have you doing it your sleep soon xxx

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rubyrubyruby · 15/05/2013 03:25

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DoubleLifeIsALifeHalved · 15/05/2013 04:08

I'm so sorry Trinity, just awful xxx

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Madamecastafiore · 15/05/2013 04:16

Hi lovely. I know it sounds silly but someone at work was talking about grief today and said the pain you feel is the flip side to love and you have to remember the love as you feel it.

I'm not one for platitudes and the like but she seemed so peaceful and resigned when she said it. Sort of accepting if it makes sense. I thought of you when she said it.

I've become an avid watcher of shit TV on the iPad as have awful pregnancy insomnia. Greggs is great, well anything that can make you chuckle at 3am is doing something right.

Sending you and those precious kiddies lots of love.

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Thumbwitch · 15/05/2013 04:44

Adding my continuing support Trin - that was a fantastic post by mouseface on the last thread.

I'm sure DD1 wasn't really upset by the minecraft thing - but it allowed her space to vent her grief. I remember hearing about someone who lost several family members, was very stoical about it all and then fell apart when the family hamster died - the little things allow the floodgates to open sometimes.
xx

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TobyLerone · 15/05/2013 06:19

Trin, there are loads of knitting and crochet tutorials on youtube. They're brilliant! It's such a great distraction, I find.

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YellowDinosaur · 15/05/2013 07:40

Morning trinity.

I'd agree with what a fantastic post mouseface wrote at the end of the other thread. Please save that thread in your watch list and go back and read it often.

There is always someone here for you even if you don't have anyone physically with you. Some nest of vipers eh?

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YellowDinosaur · 15/05/2013 07:46

I'm fact here you go - cut and posted from the other thread...

Trin - physically, you have no 'adult' there, but you have your girls, and YOU HAVE US.

There is at least one of us there with you single every minute, of every single hour, of single every day.

You are not alone. You are not, I promise you.

I know this thread is coming to the end which may feel wrong, so put it on you watch list so you can back to it when you want to if you think it will help.

Gather up the words you want to take with you, the strength that Cliff gave you is staying with you, it will come to the next thread too, in your heart so that's sorted...

Take what you need and turn the page. That's all you have to do tonight, we'll all move over with you darling lady, we'll all follow your lead.

YOU didn't upset DD, the situation did, her emotions did, her grief did, the fact that she'd been with you and worked hard to get those damn diamonds did.

NOT YOU.

I'll see you on the other thread lovely. One Post At A Time.

I wish that I had one of those Star Trek transporter type thingymebobs and could whizz up there to be with you tonight, just to sit, hold you if you wanted me to, feed you with cake, chocolate, cake, cheese, well, maybe that would be for me

Listen to stories of Cliff, the daft things he did, farting and blaming it on Lolly to make the girls giggle? The way he'd chase them until they got hiccups?

One of his 'tricks'? Stories of his hat, The Hat. Stories of days out, nights in, stories of you sat up all night talking about life, love and laundry.

I'm saying goodnight to you all now lovely, you and your beautiful girls.

See you on the new thread in the morning.

Love to you all. That and cake

Mouse xx

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TrinityRhino · 15/05/2013 08:07

thanks yellow Smile

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saffronwblue · 15/05/2013 08:16

I don't know what to say (and you don't know me) but just wanted to say that here is one more person sending love and sympathy to you and your girls. Gorgeous photos of your gorgeous man.

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BewitchedBotheredandBewildered · 15/05/2013 08:17

Morning Trinity, will be thinking of you today.

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AgathaF · 15/05/2013 08:38

Thinking of you and wishing you strength. Your DC sound lovely - that's down to you and the good influences they have, and have had, in their lives.

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HorsesDogsNails · 15/05/2013 08:46

Trinity I am teaching myself to crochet and it's going well! I bought myself a book called The Happy Hooker(!) and it has really clear instructions and loads of patterns..... I started 2 weeks ago having never knitted or crocheted and I'm just about to finish my first scarf.

I read your other thread but didn't know what to write to you, but you have been in my thoughts a lot and I'm so sorry for what you are going through. I hope the crochet helps, it will give you a distraction at least x

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TrinityRhino · 15/05/2013 09:01

the happy hooker....that did make me laugh Smile

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TrinityRhino · 15/05/2013 09:47

making lots of phonecalls
sort of getting somewhere

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50ShadesofXmas · 15/05/2013 09:54

Your photos are lovely, cliff seems like a very cheeky chappy, a loveable sort! You are being very brave, keep eating cake and (as my nan would've said) "walk tall" x

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NC78 · 15/05/2013 10:17

I've just seen this. So sorry to hear this. xxx

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