Trin here is a collection of the things you've posted about Cliff over the past couple of days (with a bit of re-ordering so that it makes sense). It is nearly all of your own words, but I've added in a couple of mn comments in places (in italics)....
About Cliff
He was a big strong man. He had a red hat he wore all the time. He used to call his crocs 'melly mels' ?cause we once saw a picture of Mel Gibson in crocs and he was trying to convince me that crocs were cool ?cause Mel Gibson wore them and I fancied Mel Gibson when he was younger!
He loved curry, he used to spend hours in the kitchen making curries from scratch - really hot and tasty. I used to taste them, they were really tasty but waaay too hot for me. He used to love to sweat whilst eating a curry.
He loved fishing, the sea, nature. We used to go and collect the flatfish from the salmon nets in the sea outside my house.
He was so loving and kind but in private He was a big strong man?s man but with a soft squishy heart. I used to call him my teddy bear in a crocodile suit.
Oh they (the crocs) will never be cool but they worked really well for paddling in the sea and walking the dog on the sand. He loved them because they were practical. I agreed they were practical but ugh!!
^(many posters on the thread described him as your ?Gentle Giant?)^
We choose an engagement ring at the end of last year. He wanted to do it properly and he was waiting for the right time. Silly sod, he was just joking a couple of days ago that he?s panicking about doing it right and he should get on with it. He knew I wanted a proper proposal but all I meant was heartfelt words and maybe down on one knee.
I found the ring. He didn't have many places to 'hide' it . Its a little big now, I've lost some weight since I gave up drinking, I'm hoping I can get it resized. I want to wear it now. I'm wearing his chain too. I?m wearing his ring because purplepillow is amazing and went and bought one of those weird things that make your ring fit temporarily till you can get it resized.
Cliff had a serious heart attack in September of last year, he had a stent put in and had damaged his heart quite a lot. He was on lots of medication but we really thought things were looking up. He was stable as it were. For a good few months after the heart attack he was in and out of hospital but then we got his meds sorted and he had finished his cardiac training sessions and was going to the local gym twice a week, his fatal heart nurse(what a name!) was happy with his stats.
He has five adult children that I am close to, but they all live far away.
He was very proud of me for giving up the booze, and the fags. I?m not going back to drink or fags, no chance. My girls and me deserve better.
Cliff was the complete opposite of a gamer, managing to work out how to record and playback things on the sky plus box was about as techie as he got.
I think I've added a photo on my profile of Cliff - I thought maybe you might want to see who I'm talking about. I?ve added another picture of him in his silly red hat. He had a problem ear that he had to keep the wind out of so his hat was always on his head outside. I always thought it was a silly looking thing but it was him.
Ugh double beds are not made for sharing with 2 wriggly kids. I was trying to convince Cliff that we needed a super king size bed for the morning cuddles when all three girls and the dog wanted to climb into bed and have a snuggle.....
He really was an amazing bloke. He made me a stronger me. God I miss him so much.
^He made you shine again, he made you laugh again, he made you YOU again. That will never leave you sweetheart, it might be hidden just now whilst you are getting through the pain, the grief, the twisted torment that haunts you. Your gentle giant has given you his strength. Xxx^
He has, he really has. Its making me cry right now but its so true and will make me smile in time.