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My newborn girl is going to die, not sure what to do now.

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cupofteaplease · 17/09/2011 12:09

I gave birth to our little girl yesterday at 1.15pm. They told almost straight away they thought she had Edward's Syndrome. Now they think her brain just didn't develop. Noone can tell us how long she will be with us, nobody knows.

My two dds are 6 and 4 and were so excited about their baby sister. They are coming to meet her later. How can I tell them she will die?

As she is breathing unaided and tube feeding, they are caring for her in SCBU, but I have said if they can't do anything, I want to bring her home to spend her last time. I wish we knew how long she had.

I think my heart is breaking.

OP posts:
lisad123 · 20/09/2011 08:07

she is stunning, her eyes are beutiful, and your girls look so proud of her, and so they should. Thinking of you all

Lotkinsgonecurly · 20/09/2011 08:12

Lovely name, beautiful little girl. thinking of you all at this difficult time.

thefirstMrsDeVere · 20/09/2011 08:13

I am so pleased that I logged on this morning. I have just looked at your pictures and seen your wonderful girls. Your baby is so very very lovely.

I hope that you are being looked after cupoftea.
Sending love.
MrsD x

Ingles2 · 20/09/2011 08:14

Beatrice is so beautiful... as are your older girls. Smile
Sending you love, strength and hoping you have a peaceful day.

MadameDefarge · 20/09/2011 08:18

oh cupoftea, how lovely is she!

Sadly my little brother didn't come home, but remember it was 40 years ago. Thank god practice has changed since then. So lovely you all get cuddles.

CMOTdibbler · 20/09/2011 08:20

Beatrice is such a beautiful little girl - what lovely eyes she has, and what lovely big sisters.

Thinking of you all

zebrafinch · 20/09/2011 08:34

Beatrice is so beautiful cupoftea, just like her big sisters. Keep her cosy and cover her in kisses. I hope you can get her home. Look after yourself.

nickschick · 20/09/2011 08:35

x every day that passes is another day filled with love for Baby Beatrice,she is so v beautiful as are your other girls.

Its the not knowing the uncertainty that drains you x.

God bless I am praying for you.

sybilfaulty · 20/09/2011 08:38

What beautiful girls! Beatrice has wonderful eyes and her sisters look so happy with her.

Sending love, prayers and strength for today and the future XXX

pixiestix · 20/09/2011 08:51

Oh Cupoftea your girls are so beautiful.

MustControlFistOfDeath · 20/09/2011 09:10

What absolutely gorgeous girls cupoftea

Hope you get some information today, thinking of you all xx

SoupDragon · 20/09/2011 09:24

Ahhhh... She is gorgeous!

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banana87 · 20/09/2011 09:30

She is GORGEOUS!!! Praying your tests bring better news today xxx

MonsterBookOfTysons · 20/09/2011 09:31

She is absolutely beautiful, what stunning eyes!
If you need absolutely anything pm me as I live in northampton.

ledkr · 20/09/2011 09:32

Sorry im so late but just wanted to wish you all much love xxxx

VenetiaLanyon · 20/09/2011 09:35

What a very gorgeous girl she is; take care of yourself x

SanctiMoanyArse · 20/09/2011 09:37

She truly is gorgeous as is your whole family.

If prayers are OK then I hope it is also OK to say God- any God - bless you all and give you strength.

LottieJenkins · 20/09/2011 09:37

cupoftea I was in a mariners church in Westport in Dorset yesterday, they dont have candles there but prayer pebbles so i put a pebble in the water for Beatrice. Sending you love and strength.

mumt1 · 20/09/2011 09:38

She has the most beautiful eyes that I think I have ever seen!!

UrsulaWoleffay · 20/09/2011 09:38

She's been here before I think, and she'll be here again I'm certain x

takeonboard · 20/09/2011 10:29

Beatrice is so beautiful, such huge soulful eyes. And your big girls are adorable. Thinking of you all. xxx

Thumbwitch · 20/09/2011 10:34

What a beautiful little girl she is! and her sisters too. Praying that there is hope for her and that the consultants have it wrong. Look after yourselves and cherish the time you have with her. xx

Stickwithit · 20/09/2011 11:01

Your three daughters are gorgeous, as another poster said they all have the same big beautiful eyes.

I hope that you get some answers today and your scar begins to feel better, and most importantly that you get lots of lovely warm cuddles with Beatrice.

I (and many many other mumsnetters) am thinking of you all often.

BettySwollocksandaCrustyRack · 20/09/2011 11:02

All your girls are beautiful and I agree, Beatrice has the most gorgeous eyes!

I too am praying for a wrong diagnosis!! Holding you all in my thoughts xx

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