I have struggled with this for ages now.
I don't recall a name for my vulva when growing up as a child, other than fanny, and I don;t recall referring to it myself in actual words
All the euphemisms make me cringe and I have panicked over what to get DD to call hers, cos I don't want her to be the odd one out in the playground, iyswim.
I find vulva so harsh a word I'd rather not use it but would prefer to use the correct terminology so am in a quandry.
Dd refers to both her vulva and bottom as bottom, or 'b'omb'. I tried to tell her that her vulva was not her bottom and she replied in no uncertain terms that it, in fact, WAS.
I will just have to bite the bullet and carry on with vulva, I suppose...
Ds, incidently, had a 'wee man' when not referring to it as a penis. Now that he's 14.7 I guess 'wee man' is out of the question