Name regret...

[Lyndsey8880]

Hi all,
I had my baby in a whirlwind at 30+3 back in July.
Completely unexpected spontaneous labour and spent 6 long weeks in the NICU.
We had a few names, but for about a week he was 'boy'

Then it came to me being discharged...
I said to my partner that I'm not leaving him alone and nameless - but none of the names we picked seemed to work, so we randomly chose Isaac and that was that.

Fast forward to now, 16 weeks + 5 days actual age. Out of the NICU for 10 weeks.
I suddenly noticed i wasnt saying his name or calling him by his name, and then realised that actually... i dont think I like the name at all, i dont think I like the sound of the name, and it really doesnt suit him.

So now im in the dilemma of thinking up other names (he reminds of a rough and tumble type of kid!) Or whether im being silly and his name will grow to be him

But I feel this real disconnect with the name. I love my son with all my heart, he's a character, and a fighter, but the name just doesnt feel right.

Anyone ever had this and eventually loved the name and thought yes its the one?

Or anyone ever changed their child's name?

(I know its easy to do within the first year.. just keen to hear thoughts!)

I have some names i think suit him much more...
Remy
Frankie
Bobby

A bit old school bruiser type names.
But then a name is just a name!

To be honest.....if people are going to bully over a name it really doesn't matter what the name is.
They will find a way.
Also Rem and Rim don't sound anymore similar than Ben or Bin and there's plenty of boys called Ben out there.

Isaacs is a lovely name, the three names on your list are not and are all chavvy.

Ok chill. I was just giving info in case it was helpful to the OP

It just felt you were finding an issue with a name when there really isn't an issue at all.
🙂

Er no, as I said I was giving information from my own experience.
You're coming off weirdly defensive

Ok 🤷

Isaac is a really lovely name, much nice that the others you have mentioned.

Seeing he had a rough start I think that taking the meaning of the name is lovely.
Root Word: Derived from the Hebrew verb tzachaq, meaning "to laugh" or "to rejoice."

FWIW I love both Isaac and Remy. To me, they are much much nicer names than Frankie and Bobby. And Bobby to me is not a 'rough and tumble' name at all if that's what you're going for - although maybe I'm influenced by the Bobby I went to school with, who was the complete opposite of that. But ultimately pick a name you and your husband are happy with, no one else's opinion matters.

Oh @Lyndsey8880 I remember you from the September Due Date Group - I was a lurker.. my September baby became a July baby also being born at 33+1 when I had a placenta abruption... Still wrapping my head around everything that happened.

Just wanted to say, the Consultant who was like a guardian angel the night my DD was born was called Isaac. I felt so blessed to have been looked after by him ❤

I think Isaac is a nice name! I don’t like Remy (I think of the rat) and Frankie and Bobby are very popular names. Isaac is the best out of the four names.

Change it if you want. He’s still really young. What about Charlie?

I had a traumatic birth with one of my kids and had this with their name for ages. I ended up changing it late at 10 months because I just wasn't happy with it - but to a very similar name with the same nickname we used for baby - I do wonder if my birth trauma got a bit "attached" to the name, because it's quite an ordinary name, and I genuinely hated it.

I felt such relief when I changed it and haven't regretted it for a second.

Do it OP!

(FYI You can change it up until they turn 1 year old, then it's not so simple.)

Remy... The rat in ratatouille. Like the rat.

Frankie. Goes to Hollywood. Although, relax don't do it and a lot of sexualised balcony stuff in bondage gear may be an issue. Or dettori. Bankrupt but generally good guy.

Bobby. Brown. Largely responsible for Whitney's death and a bit of a saddo. Or davro. Always strikes me that Gemma Collins would have a child called Bobby....

Not really 'brit old bruiser names'... More hello sailor. I'd keep your options open...

I agree with the NICU trauma playing a part. Stick with it, you will get to a part where this is just a minor chapter in your very long journey together. I think if you change it you might look back and wonder why you did it. Think hard about whether the reason you want to name him again is to kind of have a fresh start or second chance at the beginning? You don’t need a new name to mark the beginning of a better stage in some way

What about sticking with it as a middle name? Or nicknaming to Zak? It’s quite “bruiser” name?

I had name regret after my son was born and made up my mind I wanted to call him something else I thought would have suited him better but my husband didn’t like it and was adamant we had named him and that was his name.

I’m so glad he did though because he really grew into his name and it really does suit him now and he has shortened it so it’s one syllable which is so who he is and he really doesn’t look anything thing like the name I thought he would have suited which can’t be shortened.

Also he loves his name and when I told him what I nearly changed it to he looked horrified and thanked his dad for not letting me.

Jax.
Jazz.
Barr.
I like odd names.

@Lyndsey8880 I am a teacher and have come to realise Isaac is a great name. The Isaacs I teach are cheeky chappys, nice and hardworking but quick witted and cheerful - everything I would want in a son to be honest. I think you are subconsciously linking his name to a difficult time. It was a tough time but it was part of his story, as was the way you picked his name. I personally wouldnt change it but would work on how to change my perspective of the name if you can x

Isaac is a great name but obviously not his name. Have you tried Ike as a nickname?

It’s ok to want to change it, you chose a name while under pressure and his name wasn’t ready.

I love Frank.

I have a 'hospital' name, arrived early, mum was unprepared. I don't like it and I don't think my mum does either but it would never have occured to her to change it. So I would say if you want to change it, go for it. Why be tied to something that was associated with a traumatic time when you don't need to be?

You could call him Zac as a nickname? or Ike? That’s a commonly used nickname for Isaac in the US.

I like Frank ( and you can still then use Frankie as a nickname)

Hi OP, sorry to hear you had such a tough start with him. I have a little boy who was nameless for a while because we just couldn’t settle on a boy name we liked! The boy name we had was scrapped after the midwife commented on how popular it had been at the time. I felt such immense pressure to choose a name and when we decided, I also struggled and found it hard to say aloud. He’s a cheeky 5 year old now and his name is perfect and suits him. It’s Isaac. Looking back I think it maybe didn’t feel “cute” enough for a tiny baby and that was a struggle for a while. There are two Rémi/Remys in his class, one boy and one girl. Whatever you decide, it will be perfect because it will become him!

maybe you should think in another way, and I might struggle explaining.
so pretend you’ve changed his name and now he is called one of your other names. No-one is going to call him Isaac again. How would you feel? I think it’s a lovely name and it has a precious meaning! Especially after his tricky start! Only you know xxx