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howbadistheball · 15/10/2026 17:16

Currently staying at a “naice” hotel in Spain. My bored 15 year old went up to our room to chill for an hour. He’s can’t sit still ( possible ADD, undergoing assessment) and started gently dribbling a ball around the room apparently. It was 1.30 pm.

I was down by the pool ( so don’t actually know how annoying it must have been, but from previous experience it isn’t loud, just a thumping) and came up to check on him. I was accosted by a guest from the room next door, just as I arrived who was very confrontational and annoyed. Apparently it was disturbing his afternoon nap.

I told him I would deal with it, and opened the door to the room. Son and ball are standing there. The guest did not come in to the room but stood at the door and proceeded to tell off my son.

we left together to do an activity. When I returned an hour later there was a note from reception asking me to contact them immediately. Apparently the guest had made an official complaint about him.

for info. I’m on my own here with my son. No other adults. And he was a bit intimidating

OP posts:
Anarchy99 · 19/10/2026 12:16

howbadistheball · 18/10/2026 12:33

His accusations were correct. I did not know the story at the time, and was totally caught off guard.

I did make an effort to find out what was going on in the privacy of my own room without a stranger standing over us.
His accusations were delivered in a confrontational, aggressive and intimidating manner. The intrusion was to stand at the door of my room to aggressively confront my son

I did apologise via management. It was in no one’s best interest for me to approach him at a later date.

There wasn’t really a story though - you knew he had a ball and there was no reason for the stranger to make it up as how would they have known?

He didn’t intrude into your room (which unfortunately he could have done) and your issue with his manner is unreasonable as he was clearly pissed off at being woken up so he was hardly going to be gentle about it.

Next time you go away, perhaps you will have to give your DS a list of what is and isn’t acceptable

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