Man urinating in park

[Caramac045]

Maybe IABU because I feel quite unwell.
Dog still needed a walk. Thought there is a
bench around this hedge line, I’ll sit down for a bit. Not happy to see a man urinating up the hedge between the park and tennis club.
I didn’t feel comfortable to sit on the bench right by a man with his penis out.

I’m a mature woman who manages to not wee in the park.
This was a man probably in his 30’s, not an older chap with prostate issues. AIBU to think he should not have been doing this?

@FourGreenElephants do you not see any difference between an adult man and an animal? A dog is more akin to a fox than a human.
Modern incontinence products have gel crystals to absorb moisture and a one way liner. This keeps the wearer comfortable. They obviously can be changed once the wearer gets home/ to a toilet. There is no need for someone to wear a wet pad all day.
Some men think they can pee anywhere even if they could hang on for a bit - like most women do.
Medical issue? Deal with it. We keep babies in nappies until they are continent.

There are 2 separate issues here:
Firstly the smell of the urine and I don’t differentiate between animal or human. Neither is nice.
The more important issue is showing private parts. Most people don’t intend to and sometimes it is just unfortunate. Anyone not making an effort is quite frankly disgraceful.

Incontinence products are for people who are incontinent ( do not necessarily know they are going) not for people who get caught short. I do 13 hour walks. Do you think I should wear a pad? No, at least there is not usually anyone around and unlike most people and dog owners, I know where I am supposed to wee ( not near anywhere that leads to a water course etc).
Many years ago, I got caught very short after my bus took an extra 2 hours due to a traffic jam. I was caught short. I just hope nobody saw me. It happens!

The foxes comparison is boring. Foxes are fending for themselves and their numbers are regulated by the environment - food, risks, illnesses.
There is nothing natural or socially reasonable about having pets at home, but intentionally toileting them outside at public spaces. Private benefits, public loses.
So, if you are comfortable with letting your dog pee somewhere, I don't see why you are so outraged when human does the same.

Surely, it depends on the intensity of the condition - in some cases active management is the way, in some cases accepting the risk that I'll have to find a spot is fair enough.
It isn't proportionate to expect me to spend many months of my pregnancy in incontinence pads just to avoid the three cases where I had to wee in a park.

@FourGreenElephants I don’t think I suggested I was outraged but your interpretation I guess.
Why not wear a Tena pad? What if you couldn’t pee in the park? Pee in the street? Lots of people do use incontinent products, it’s a huge business and no shame in being prepared.
Im not convinced you walk 13 hours a day AND there are no facilities.
It’s clear you don’t like dogs. That’s your prerogative but I hope you never rely on a service dog.
Most dogs pee and poo in the same places/times routinely. Maybe we need more public toilets with dog peeing posts and a sandy area too.
Or maybe get real and address your issues.

Wtf? Where does the 13 hours came from?

If I remained on the main streets, I'd be able to use some facilities there. However, I fancied a walk in a large long park - and needed to take a wee, so I did.
I just don't see any real issue to deal with, all is fine.

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My relationship to dogs is irrelevant here. However, as you can see, I really don't like entitled dog owners. It is just ridiculous to take a dog to pee in a park and be offended (or whatever you are) when human pees in the same park.

Your post stated 13 hours. Read it back.

That was a different poster.

I've never seen a woman peeing in public (apart from myself once in a car park behind a bus when I was a student on a coach trip and exceptionally drunk 40 years ago). I see men all the time. I find it hard to believe that they all have prostrate issues/diabetes/are undergoing chemo etc . They just feel entitled to piss in public. Or they love exposing themselves. So I don't think you are unreasonable.

And before someone challenges me on the "all the time" point- I live and work in zone 1/2 London.

@FourGreenElephants my apologies, it has been pointed out that it was another poster who walks 13 hours and I was wrong to say it was you.

Please quote me with the timestamp of my post.
I've just checked and I really can't see any place in this thread where I would have mention 13 or thirteen hours.

Edited to add:
Cross post, apology accepted for confusing me with another poster with the 13 hours issue.
I'm just curious now how much of the rest of the reaction was confused as well.

@Caramac045 Yes I am to person who sometimes walks 13 hours. You are amazed that I don’t come across facilities!! 🤣🤣
I walk these distances in the Scottish Highlands. Miles from any road and sometimes miles from another person.

That is really nasty. Tell me exactly what matters to you if someone has a discrete wee. Nobody, who does not need one, walks around in a pad.

Can't get excited about a wild wee. It was just a wee! .If you need to go then you need to go. Much easier for men to do than women. On the rare occasions I have had to do this, I end.up weeing on my shoes. The state of some public loos make a wild wee the better option.

I've noticed human shit everywhere in the last couple of years. My dog managed to grab 3 in one day, resulting in a trip to the vet.

@Yetone , the wilds of anywhere are not quite the same as a park flanked by houses, a tennis club, a cemetery and a community centre.
It is not nasty to suggest someone with a current incontinence issue wears a pad fgs.
It is not uncommon for pregnant women to wear a pad and even for a short while postnatally.
However, if so many think it’s fine for people to pee publicly then I’ll have to agree to disagree.
I can say that I’ve seen far more men publicly peeing than I have women and technically it is an offence. Most police officers would exercise discretion over a discreet wee, it’s the exhibitionists they would charge/fine or not whatever.

@FourGreenElephants I think I have perhaps been confusing posts/ers.
This Covid is a bugger 🥹
On reflection, I probably have BU as it was a wee and not Willy Waving.
Aploogies if I’ve upset anyone.

Love your hypocrisy. It's bad when someone else gets caught short but not when you do

Have you tried to find a public toilet lately. I live in a town of 30,000 people, with 2 separate touristy/visitors areas. Neither has a public loo. In fact there isn't one in the town at all I have no discovered after a quick Google

How is it hypocritical. The op was complaining about weeing near civilsation not in the middle of nowhere

If they were being relatively discreet, back turned, in a spot away from the path, I would be very unbothered to be honest.

Well yeah I guess? Unless it’s on someone’s property that’s grim.

But the person i was replying to had taken the moral high ground then admitted to pissing in public!