Had operation and adult kids never wished me luck or checked how I was afterwards

[dogsaremybusiness]

Disappointed

I would be disappointed too. What is your relationship like otherwise?

I hope you are recovering well OP.
YANBU, assuming no back story of relationship difficulties now, or neglect in their childhood.
Are they male or female? Shouldn't matter of course...
Be kind and pamper yourself a little, if able. 💐

No back story. One son aged 29, one daughter aged 28.

That’s pretty rubbish of them OP. Sorry that you have been let down.

Sorry that they let you down I hope you are on the mend

What kind of operation was it?

Depends entirely on your relationship

and of course there’s a blooming backstory. Every family has a back story

Totally understand where you are coming from OP. Hope you make a speedy recovery.

😕. Hope you’re feeling better.

That sucks. Did they know you were going in (as in had you messaged on your way or spoken yesterday?) Just wondering if they just sort of forgot the date or similar.

I can understand you are disappointed. A bit of basic care and consideration is always welcome. Sorry they didn't do this, OP.

How recently had you spoken? Did they definitely know the date of the surgery?

That's horrible. Are they usually thoughtful? I have three adult DC. Whenever I've had operations they've been there.
At times I know it must have been awful for them, especially the times I was on life support with tubes everywhere in ICU, but they were always by my bedside.
I'd think there was something wrong if they didn't even bother to check up on me. They should be offering support, even if that's just emotional. I'm sorry they behaved this way and hope you're recovering well.

What sort of opération ?

Sorry OP thats rubbish of them
Hopefully they are just a bit immature and still dont think of you needing looking after.
How are you doing?

Depends on the surgery. I had a cyst taken out under local anaesthetics, I didn't expect my kids to wish me good luck.

If it was heart surgery, I'd be very upset.

Some people are just like this. An old friend died and I sent a text to my kids to tell them; one replied immediately with condolences, the other didn't even acknowledge it until I next saw her. She would have seen her sibling's response so you would have thought that might have prompted her to reply.
I'm not hurt through, because I would have predicted this exact outcome. She's always been like it.

I’m sorry to hear that. It does sound like they have not at all been thoughtful there. Hope you’re doing well 🌺.

I'm doing good thanks. It was eye surgery. They both definitely knew but I guess they forgot.

I would definitely want to know that everything went well and that you weren’t in too much discomfort. Look after yourself.

Ugh, I can see this coming with my DD20. I could remind her in the morning and she would have forgotten by the end of the day. She's just completely wrapped up in her own world atm and lives about 100 miles away.

Hope you're feeling okay op x💐

Was it a small day procedure or a bigger general anaesthetic, overnight operation.

In think that’s relevant. I would expect care around the second , but not really the first

As in you had your eyes lasered which is pretty minor? Or perhaps a cosmetic procedure?

Or was it something serious that required surgery?

The former, no, I wouldn't be disappointed that my children hadn't immediately thought to check I was ok.

The second I would be upset as in this scenario I am ill and require hospital treatment.

Do you think it was genuinely malicious treatment or accidental forgetting?

Proceed accordingly. But don't be a martyr about it either.

.. ignore. Sorry