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Orgasm headache - A&E?!

147 replies

Lilyloolock · 19/09/2026 11:04

Sorry for the TMI but I'll get it over with quickly.

90 mins or so ago my Saturday morning lie in ended in the way it often does, with a masturbation induced orgasm.

TMI over 😀

immediately afterwards,.for the first time in my life, a thunderclap headache.

I have read about these before (including on here). I now feel fine, and have since got up, had some toast, had a shower etc. exactly as normal. But I have googled it and it said that if it's the first time I should go to A&E immediately! This seems to go against the advice on here, and I feel absolutely fine now as if nothing happened.

I really don't want to spend the day in a&e but I also really don't want to die! AIBU to ignore Dr Google (who also told me I had skin cancer when I was actually just wearing the wrong clothes in hot weather) or do I really need to have the world's most embarrassing trip to a&e?

OP posts:
Musicaltheatremum · 19/09/2026 11:53

Saturdayisthebestday · 19/09/2026 11:28

Is it an accident, no.
Is it an emergency, also no.

A&E for a brief headache after a wank?! I've heard it all now.

It is an emergency. I've sent these people up to ED for assessment before. They need a scan. Don't spread misinformation

Letterleaf · 19/09/2026 11:53

Whorulestheroost1 · 19/09/2026 11:48

This is the reason you should not ask on here. None of us have x-ray eyes and there will always be bad advice like this. Trust your gut or at least call the professionals on 111.

On another thread yesterday a woman pretended to be a medic and told someone not to go to A&E as she’d be wasting their time.

Turned out she was actually a cleaner. And the op did go to a&e and was immediately admitted and is still there.

lesson of the day? Never listen to these idiots

ThreadGuardDog · 19/09/2026 11:56

Saturdayisthebestday · 19/09/2026 11:28

Is it an accident, no.
Is it an emergency, also no.

A&E for a brief headache after a wank?! I've heard it all now.

Very dangerous ‘advice’. Orgasms can induce thunderclap headaches. They can be deadly. Even after they’ve dissipated because of the risk of haemorrhage. The advice is to always seek immediate medical advice.

HollyhocksandPeons · 19/09/2026 11:56

Emilesgran · 19/09/2026 11:52

Probably at LEAST as well-informed as Mumsnet on this subject TBF 😂

In fairness, we had a number of nurses, including A&E, and doctors commenting on here - will never forget a paediatric consultant on here who advised a distressed mum that she should give honey to the toddler who swallowed a round battery or suchlike - to prevent gullet burning. V.impressive.

Lilyloolock · 19/09/2026 11:56

Katigee410 · 19/09/2026 11:52

I've learned to never Google symptoms, only ever go on the NHS website.
Btw I've felt the earth move before never induced a headache !

NHS Scotland tells me to go to A&E if it's never happened before, but also that the dangerous ones tend to happen at the moment of orgasm whereas mine was a few seconds later. Currently on hold to 111.

OP posts:
SleeplessRoads · 19/09/2026 11:58

HollyhocksandPeons · 19/09/2026 11:38

111? Telephone operators medically untrained with a script? Maybe call a GP receptionist for triage as well?

Why are Google and Mumsnet more reliable than 111? Because that’s what OP is relying on at the moment to make her decision…

HollyhocksandPeons · 19/09/2026 12:00

SleeplessRoads · 19/09/2026 11:58

Why are Google and Mumsnet more reliable than 111? Because that’s what OP is relying on at the moment to make her decision…

111 are dangerously illiterate.

Chockachip · 19/09/2026 12:01

I have ‘ice pick’ headaches all the time and ignore them. I always assumed a ‘thunderclap’ headache was grasping at your head screaming type pain that wouldn’t dissipate a minute later?

GreenFootstool · 19/09/2026 12:02

HollyhocksandPeons · 19/09/2026 12:00

111 are dangerously illiterate.

But they are the gate keepers to the actual medically trained people. What's your alternative advice?

Marie324 · 19/09/2026 12:04

Lilyloolock · 19/09/2026 11:15

Not quite sure what the word 'thunderclap' means medically but it was a short, sharp pain in my head.

Sounds like an ice pick headache and not a thunderclap headache.

PrizedPickledPopcorn · 19/09/2026 12:04

SleeplessRoads · 19/09/2026 11:58

Why are Google and Mumsnet more reliable than 111? Because that’s what OP is relying on at the moment to make her decision…

Because in among randoms like me, there are people with knowledge. Yesterday a woman was persuaded against her will to go A&E and was put on a drip and kept in- lucky she didn’t leave it overnight let alone til the following afternoon as she’d planned.

Lilyloolock · 19/09/2026 12:04

Chockachip · 19/09/2026 12:01

I have ‘ice pick’ headaches all the time and ignore them. I always assumed a ‘thunderclap’ headache was grasping at your head screaming type pain that wouldn’t dissipate a minute later?

I have just googled the difference between icepick and thunderclap. I think mine was closer to icepick. It bloody hurt but it wasn't absolutely excruciating, I don't think... And it went as soon as it arrived.reallt, with no ill effects then or since.
It's hard to accurately describe burning terms of intensity and duration I suppose it was like an orgasm but feeling bad rather than nice!

OP posts:
Saturdayisthebestday · 19/09/2026 12:05

TremendousFlatulence · 19/09/2026 11:51

Ah - you're the person who advocated putting Viakal on an abcess aren't you? Recognise the tone.
Is it that you just can't resist these threads?

Eh? What the chuff are you on about?! NHS is on its knees with people like the OP clogging it up unnecessarily. Perhaps read my other posts and see I am not the tin foil hat wearer you think I am.

TheSmellOfSea · 19/09/2026 12:06

I've had this before. Gp sent me for mri. They take it seriously. Nothing found. Sounded the same as yours.

1coconut2coconut3coconut4 · 19/09/2026 12:06

I am intrigued to hear the answer. Crossing my fingers all is well. As PPs say doesn't sound like a thunderclap headache from tour description.

Chockachip · 19/09/2026 12:06

Lilyloolock · 19/09/2026 12:04

I have just googled the difference between icepick and thunderclap. I think mine was closer to icepick. It bloody hurt but it wasn't absolutely excruciating, I don't think... And it went as soon as it arrived.reallt, with no ill effects then or since.
It's hard to accurately describe burning terms of intensity and duration I suppose it was like an orgasm but feeling bad rather than nice!

You know your body best. I think if you’re worried keep on with the 111 pathway. Hopefully it was a one off and nothing serious.

ThreadGuardDog · 19/09/2026 12:07

Saturdayisthebestday · 19/09/2026 12:05

Eh? What the chuff are you on about?! NHS is on its knees with people like the OP clogging it up unnecessarily. Perhaps read my other posts and see I am not the tin foil hat wearer you think I am.

You may not be a tinfoil hat wearer but you clearly don’t know anything about thunderclap headaches if you think OP is a time waster.

Saturdayisthebestday · 19/09/2026 12:07

Musicaltheatremum · 19/09/2026 11:53

It is an emergency. I've sent these people up to ED for assessment before. They need a scan. Don't spread misinformation

Not spreading misinformation, simply stating my opinion. The fact that the OP herself admitted to feeling fine now was encouraging. I will stand corrected if the hospital says otherwise.

Chockachip · 19/09/2026 12:08

Saturdayisthebestday · 19/09/2026 12:05

Eh? What the chuff are you on about?! NHS is on its knees with people like the OP clogging it up unnecessarily. Perhaps read my other posts and see I am not the tin foil hat wearer you think I am.

This is irresponsible. What if you’re wrong? I think OP should decide, it’s her body. Don’t make her feel like she’s responsible for the state of the nhs.

HollyhocksandPeons · 19/09/2026 12:10

GreenFootstool · 19/09/2026 12:02

But they are the gate keepers to the actual medically trained people. What's your alternative advice?

Honestly? If it is a cold, it is a cold. Stay home, if will clear in 7 days if you don't seek medical advice and in a week if you see your GP. Same with other minor stuff.

However, any serious thing, and you know if it is serious, you know something is seriously wrong - like this thunderclap headache, or sudden onset of breathlessness or squeezing chest tightness - 'I am about to die' - you should not waste your time on your GP to google symptoms, you should immediately to to A&E, immediately. If they don't dispatch an ambulance for you, having wasted precious time with telephone questions of 'is she breathing now? was she breathing before? when did she stop breathing? (btw. this is how the wife of the amazing fertility doctor Lord Winston's wife died - Lord Winston accuses 999 call handler of wasting time as wife lay dying in his arms | UK News | Sky News) then get a taxi, and get yourself to A&E. You don't want to be another 'lessons learnt' case.

Negroany · 19/09/2026 12:10

Are you on any other medication?

I used to get this, in the same circumstances, when I was using a particular suppository for my fissures. It is actually a noted potential side effect, but the doctor took me off the suppositories anyway and gave me something else.

Lilyloolock · 19/09/2026 12:11

ForMerryPinkCat · 19/09/2026 12:09

Mine is definitely an icepick if this is true. Phew .

OP posts:
Saturdayisthebestday · 19/09/2026 12:11

Chockachip · 19/09/2026 12:08

This is irresponsible. What if you’re wrong? I think OP should decide, it’s her body. Don’t make her feel like she’s responsible for the state of the nhs.

How can an opinion of a poster be irresponsible?! Get a grip. OP can do as she wishes. This is a forum for people's opinions and I gave mine.

mbonfield · 19/09/2026 12:11

Pharmacist would be better than 111. Hope that you are OK.