Worry about DD at uni who just called

[Raisingresiliantteens]

DD just started uni at Bristol. She just called but I only heard a noise and that was it. I am worried. Calling back but not answering

Wow.

There are some horrid people here. I’d have been worried too OP. I’m glad she’s safe. It wouldn’t have been wrong to call the uni if you’d be concerned either. No one should be hesitating about feeling embarrassed if they are concerned for a loved one’s safety.

Stop belittling the OP for caring about her child fgs! 🤦‍♀️ she doesn't know for sure it was a 'pocket dial'

Clearly you are one of those 'chuck them in deep water and let them sink of swim' types of parent, but it's (luckily) not a parenting style many of us subscribe to.

I would so the same OP, as you never know.

But you literally said in your earlier post that you DID call theuni
" I did call the university and they told me to keep trying her"

Were you lying then, or are you lying now?

So glad she is ok! But the post about the person who tried to call and was having a fit shows you can never be too careful.

Your her mum, and whilst grown, she is still the same child you checked in on every night to make sure she was ok as little girl, and I expect that habit is hard to break.
It's not quite the same for dads.
So don't feel bad.Sounds like you care deeply for her, and that loving protectiveness doesn't just switch off because she is older now.

I meant I didn’t call back after an hour, didn’t provide DD name or asked them to do a welfare check.

Thank you ❤️

So glad it was just a pocket dial. I would have been worried too

Exactly ❤️

Glad she’s safe and well , OP.

We never stop being Mums - our DD is 51 now , and I’d have been concerned if I’d had a phone call like you described.
Hope you can sleep in a bit this morning …. !

FFS, she clearly meant that she didn’t call them back after an hour to do a welfare check, which she’d mentioned in a previous post.

Im so glad shes ok! I would have absolutely spiralled and I am usually quite a reasonable person!

Some people on this app are dicks, imagine laying into a worried mum, calling her a liar. I cannot understand. Do better.

Oh , I well remember the first days off to Uni feeling.
I wouldn’t say it passes, but it definitely eases and your mind gets less inclined to jump to worst case scenarios.
As other pps have said, the trick is not to let them know just how much you are worried. And to remember, the mundane answer, ( bum dial, no signal, out of credit) are probably the most likely.
Hope you got at least some decent sleep!

Everyone having mobiles and in theory being contactable 24/7 adds a whole new level of (usually unnecessary but still concerning) worry when you can't get hold of people.

Fondly remember the queue at uni halls pay phone and the weekly 5 minute call home.

Same!

i agree, the mobiles make it worse