Refusing to allow neighbour use driveway for toddler bday party?

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I'm probably going to sound really mean but my NDN out of the blue asked me today if some of her guests would be able to park on my driveway in a few weeks for her child's 2nd birthday party.

We have a DC who is the same age but they have never played or interacted so we defo wouldn't expect an invite or want one either.

We are literally waiting for handover for our new home so it's not like our kids would ever play interact anyway when we move.

For back story we don't really get on, she's very nosey and always talking about people, been the perpetrator of anti social behaviour and the moans about other neighbours doing stuff.

I have tried to remain civil as they live next door to me but last time prior today I saw her 3 months ago and said hello but she was very reluctant to say it back but did say "hi" but could tell she didn't really want to speak so we have just ignored each other since.

They have quite a few issues with other neighbours so it's not just me.

But when she asked me when I declined straight away without even thinking about it and walked back into the house.

AIBU?

Well done 👍

If it doesnt inconvenience you then why not. Youre leaving soon anyway

Did you read the OP?

I think YABU, you won’t be there much longer why not leave on nice terms? Seems quite petty to say no.

I would have said no too. They cause issues and are not friendly yet expect you to do them a favour? Nope

right answer. You have clearly got the measure of them and if you’d said yes, they would do it again in the future without asking. Best not to create an expectation. Sorry, not sorry for all those of you who think that makes me mean.

Sounds like OP has been courteous and friendly but it was thrown back in her face. Perhaps it will make NDN reflect on her rude behaviour? Unlikely but will give OP some satisfaction.

Normally on these threads the op has said yes in the heat of the moment and wants to find a way to back track. Well done op, I think you did the right thing, if she had been a friendly, polite neighbour then she’d have got a different reply I’m sure.

Yes.

This is the first time on Mumsnet have I read that’s somebody had some balls to say “no”. There’s always posts about somebody kicking themselves for being a pushover. Well done, treat people as they treat you. You were not rude just direct.

Quite agree, you don't owe her anything. Can understand you feeling mean (as I would) but I daresay she hadn't had to brace herself and drum up the courage to ask, like the last time you saw her and she reluctantly then felt obliged to day Hi.
I like to treat people with respect and meet and greet them cheerfully, but some folks you need to treat them the same way as they did you. You've got the handle of her and you're moving on. Daresay you won't be thinking of this week's after you've moved!

Yes had she been nice and friendly I would have said yes but it's she has been awful.

A few times keeping us awake at night with loud music blasting when her DC have not been there, not very considerate at all.

I'm afraid I'd have said no and then quietly reminded her how unfriendly she'd been when I'd spoken to her.

Well done for saying no. You're leaving soon anyway so it's not the end of the world. However, I would be prepared that her guests will park all over the place possibly blocking you in if they are troublesome neighbours.

They will probably just park on it anyway

Well one of her visitors parked on our drive a month ago and I actually went out and got them to move their car, and if it happens again I will do the same thing.

They’re not on nice terms.

I would have said yes, as it could lead to a much more positive relationship with your NDN. Plus if you ever need some extra spaces, you can then ask her to return the favour.

Exactly, these people who think you should always cosy up to CF, rude, selfish neighbours no matter what do you wear a “kick me” sign on your back?

have you not RTFT? the OP is moving soon

YANBU - on the day of the party I'd park at the end of your drive to ensure her visitors don't use it without permission. Or block it with bins if you are going out.

I was expecting you to say she asked the morning of or night before, which might inconvenience you. A couple of weeks notice actually sounds thoughtful and civilized. You said no simply because you don’t like her, which has nothing to do with the 2 year old. You’ll be out of that house soon anyway, so it’s not like this is going to become a habit with her. It’s ONE day and she ASKED in advance, which is more than a lot of annoying neighbours do. You are being unreasonable and petty.

So what? Just because OP and neighbour aren’t mates doesn’t mean OP needs to be a difficult like that will prove anything but that she is as bad or worse than the neighbour. How childish.

I wouldn’t be doing favours for someone who’d treated me like the OP’s neighbour has treated her. I don’t get people who brown nose people who treat them badly, it’s just spineless.