Refusing to allow neighbour use driveway for toddler bday party?

[haloeeenbany]

I'm probably going to sound really mean but my NDN out of the blue asked me today if some of her guests would be able to park on my driveway in a few weeks for her child's 2nd birthday party.

We have a DC who is the same age but they have never played or interacted so we defo wouldn't expect an invite or want one either.

We are literally waiting for handover for our new home so it's not like our kids would ever play interact anyway when we move.

For back story we don't really get on, she's very nosey and always talking about people, been the perpetrator of anti social behaviour and the moans about other neighbours doing stuff.

I have tried to remain civil as they live next door to me but last time prior today I saw her 3 months ago and said hello but she was very reluctant to say it back but did say "hi" but could tell she didn't really want to speak so we have just ignored each other since.

They have quite a few issues with other neighbours so it's not just me.

But when she asked me when I declined straight away without even thinking about it and walked back into the house.

AIBU?

This is the petty I aspire to be!

I’d probably have rolled over for an easier life knowing I was leaving, but then, on the other hand, if I were leaving, I’d go all out ‘ScarFace’ style lol

On the day of the party make sure your driveway is inaccessible to her guests. Actually if I was really petty I’d park over it so they can’t block you in either 😄

Make sure you block your own driveway the night before the party. They will park there anyway if you don't, and it will cement in her mind that you really do think she's a cunt.

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I once had neighbours like that - rude, entitled and constantly criticising me for ‘bringing down the tone of the street.’ I had better qualifications from better institutions than they had, admittedly I had never mentioned them as they did to me at every opportunity. When they wanted anything, they asked me to do it when it was really inconvenient and intrusive, like looking after their pets and even their DC. They got short shrift on that last one. I told them to engage a childminder!
What a happy day when they dragged themselves off to a ‘better area with a nice schooll’. Zero regrets about being unhelpful. All the people who have moved into their old house have been delightful.

Well done. If someone isn’t nice to you, then don’t be nice to them back. I’m over this ‘being the bigger person’ crap.
The bigger person is always the mug.
good for you, you won’t be seeing her anymore soon so no need to give her any more headspace.
The cheek of HER to ask this when she has been rude to you.

Just enjoy it. This is one of those little moments that can give a person pleasure.
She perhaps shouldn't have been a shit neighbour!

Good work, OP. Continue to stand your ground.

I'd like to add potential property damage (and insurance matters) to your list of Reasons To Say No. What if the buddies are as CF-ish as the NDN? What if they damage your garden or fence while parking there? You're about to hand over your home to new owners; you'll want it looking good, with no insurance claims pending.

The time when I said hello to her to keep things civil.
She saw me as I got out the car and put her head down and when I said "Hi are you OK?" she paused for half a minute and then replied "Hi".

When she asked me yesterday she came out of the house and was like "Hiya you all right?"

I simply just said "Hello" and then she said " It's Tommy's (not real name) birthday in a few weeks, can't believe he is 2 already, just got his bed up today".

"We were wondering if our guests would be able to park on the drive? It's on the 27th"

I just said "No sorry" and got my bags and walked in my house.

I was just shocked at her cheek.

I did feel bad as her child hasn't done anything wrong but it's the principle.

Good for you. How cheeky

Ugh, what a two faced user, the bare faced cheek of the woman

Saying “yes” might have made things nicer.

Have you asked them to turn their music down, or just seethed with resentment?

Entitlement would be doing it without asking. She asked.

Then why ask AIBU?

I had no idea how many people were this pissy about their neighbours until I got on Mumsnet. It’s astonishing.

So there!

Doing it without asking is trespassing. Asking when you have a poor relationship is entitlement.

It will be an inconvenience- because if you allow it once then it will asked again. When new neighbours turn up it will be “old neighbours allowed it “ the sense of entitlement among CFers is immense.

If you have the space, why not? Sometimes it's really easy to do something nice for someone that makes their life a bit easier, and it's no skin off your nose really. I wouldn't care if she's a bit snotty sometimes (as long as she's not a neighbour from hell!). I personally just aim to be a nice person and hope it rubs off 🙂

No, it’s being a mature adult.

To be honest, I absolutely hate her guts and do not want to be doing her any favours, I hate her.

You probably should have led with that @haloeeenbany

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God some of you, I do wonder.
Good on op for saying no, it’s a case of you reap what you sow. Some of you need to learn this.

Wtf is with all these posters falling over themselves to state how they'd help somebody who'd shown them nothing but disrespect.

Be the bigger person mug.

Setting boundaries with toxic people isn't immature; it’s called self-respect

Have you declared this neighbour dispute when selling your house?