Licking dinner plates

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Recently my 8 year old has started licking her dinner plate when she's finished. Whilst I appreciate it when she says it's because it was delicious, I've told her not to do it as it's yucky and bad manners.
Dh thinks I'm being harsh on her for getting cross with her

Aibu to not want my child to think it's ok to lick plates after finishing their food?!

@Bez72

its really bad manners! No one wants to see that at the dinner table.

I know it's bad manners to lick a plate.

My children know it's bad manners to lick a plate.

Does that mean I've never done it in the privacy of my own home? Of course it doesn't.

@Bez72

do you actually know the meaning of the word ‘trauma’? I suspect not because you’re using it wrongly here.

How have she got to 8 and not been taught table manners yet ? Seriously ?!

Is she allowed to eat with her mouth open too . Grim.

two things here. No she should not be licking her plate but no you should not be getting cross with her. Surely there are other ways to deal with it without getting cross?

It doesn't look nice and doesn't create good habits

Tbh I just don't like it at home either, it seems gross. I'm pretty laid back, but don't like it

Many years ago I was invited to dinner with some very upper-middle class people. At the end they all licked their plates.
I asked if I was allowed to follow suit - yes!
I would normally use a piece of bread.

Plate licking is disgusting. I remember as a teen having a meal with my boyfriend‘s family (first time) and at the end they all started licking their plates. I was gobsmacked and the ick descended instantly. Do her a favour and teach her not to!

It's a very recent thing, just started doing it a couple of times and no idea why, I was shocked

Of course she shouldn’t be licking the plate, she’s not an animal!
If she was a boy some woman would be complaining about him in 30 years time about having no table manners.

I used to work with a woman then aged about 27 who did this. Her table manners in general were just about passable but then she'd pick up her plate, hold it to her face and slobber all over it, complete with licking noises - like a dog. Nobody wanted to be anywhere near her if there was an office social and a lot of colleagues would laugh behind her back. It was so sad because she was really nice. Your daughter doesn't want to be in that position does she. So tell your husband he's not doing her any favours at all and he's being stupid.

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She has been taught table manners, has always ate really well, it's a very recent thing as I said and no idea why

No, YANBU.

table manners are so important.

licking plates should not happen unless you are at home alone and walking an empty plate of something incredibly tasty to the sink

I have never felt the urge to lick my plate in my life? Is it even enjoyable?!

YANBU, it's gross, and horrible bad manners. Tell her to stop. Ewwww. 😖

I'd tell her it's fine at home, but not in other company. I don't really see the harm in showing her appreciation.

But then, my mother grew up in a famine, and she used to proudly lick her plate after dinner and tell us how grateful she was to have food, so I've always seen it as quite wholesome.

For God’s sake. ‘Trauma’, indeed 🙄

😂 Just when I thought I'd seen it all on here!

Traumuatising?! For an 8 year old to have her mum take her plate off her when she starts licking it?!

Behave!

But ARE manners (of all kinds) at home so different from those adhered to elsewhere?
If there is a clear contrast, it must be very hard to inculcate manners at all.
Parents teach by example, and basic table manners aren't a burden at home, surely.

ooooo yes.

We have dispensed with a table altogether and regard cutlery as 'a bit sissy'. We just squat on the floor or kneel down, lapping the food from a communal trough.

Some may think it a bit primative, but to us it's a nod to the past when our predecessors lived in caves. It works well at home but we are no longer welcome at any Toby Carvery. 😦

From a child, I have known at home manners and "restaurant manners" Its not unlike teaching children different (actually extra) manners when there are visitors.

but you'd fit right in at Spoons?

Yuk