Parents selling car to my DS

[marvelousmarmaladian]

Trying to work out if IABU to think my parents should sell their car to my DS. He needs a car, they have a car. Both are unable to drive. It is basically rusting away at my sisters house. My DS made an offer. My sister tells me they are thinking about it. Which is weird as my DM doesn't know where she is and DF can't talk properly. What would you do?

He's entitled to say no, and you not understanding him doesnt mean he lacks capacity.

This thread is quite shocking in the jump to assume you can just ride roughshod over someones wishes and feelings

Even if, if, the pair of them lack capacity, it doesnt mean you simply ignore their wishes, thats not how it works, you still involve people in decision making and take their views into account

In this case, them not selling the car causes them no harm, no disadvantage to their life, its not an issue that someone needs to override them on (whereas medication, going into hospital, moving into a care home would be significant decisions to take).

Has anyone got power of attorney?

It might not help with this particular situation but may be needed later on.

We had a similar situation.

My Dad had all his marbles but neither he or my DM could drive due to ailments, eyesight, being bed bound etc. He knew he'd never drive again.

My daughter needed a car as did my DS. (He had 2) She asked about it and he decided to sell it - at market price. We said my DD had no money.

He then relented and gave them away.

I didn't feel guilty as.... both cars were well past their best and had had bumps with gate posts, post office vans etc.
Both his daughter and grand daughter had a real and immediate need.
He was rolling in it. Near 7 figure sum in bank.

This is clear financial abuse. Disgusting.

Thanks all. To answer a few questions, this car has had a lot of bumps too as my dad was not a good driver before he stopped driving. This is why it is affordable to my son. With no air con I don't think it will sell but DS is happy to leave my sister to it if they say no now. She is going to get it detailed and get the a/c fixed. Madness.
Oh and she has told me the way she is communicating with my dad is by writing down words and getting him to point at them. Words fail me, no pun intended.

Well it sounds like your sister is putting in a lot of effort and you just wanted a cheap car. Working out how to communicate in different ways is wonderful. How else would you want her to talk to him if he’s struggling to speak? Sounds like a rudimentary communication device. You seem pretty disengaged from it all which is sad.