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Upper Middle Class not well travelled AIBU?

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Tabbytiger122 · 23/08/2026 22:23

There are some very wealthy folk we know & some I'm acquaintances with on fb from college. All seem to run off similar schedule for holidays... Christmas skiing in France/Switzerland (same place every year) Midterm said place again, summer is always spent somewhere in France ,Italy or Greece (but always the same town)
That's it never different countries... it seems to me they are not well travelled & that familiarity is more important than going somewhere new for the heck of it! Aibu?

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Calliopespa · 24/08/2026 15:42

PixellatedPixie · 24/08/2026 14:00

Well for me those aren’t box ticking, despite the language I used, as I have family in both the US and SA so I won’t ever have “finished” or “ticked off” visiting there.

Some people like spending their holiday money on high end hotels but I would rather spend it to travel further and have more experiences of different places.

I think this is about an attempt to shoot down a family you have envy towards OP.
Maybe you were not using it to mean "ticked the box" but a lot of people do use it that way - as if getting the insta shot there plus a T-shirt is somehow rounding them out as a person.

Dontlletmedownbruce · 28/08/2026 09:28

LumpkinPumpkin · 24/08/2026 10:36

I think it sounds lovely to enjoy somewhere so much that you keep returning.

I agree but you can only truly judge it if you've been to multiple places.

I have a friend whose family went to a resort when she was a teen. Same apartment block every year. When she started going on holiday with her BF that's where she went with him, different apartment in the same block. He had never been anywhere so was just happy to have a holiday. They have been together over 20 years now and bar a city break that's the only place they have been. Their honeymoon? Back to the same apartment. We decided to go on a mini break a few years ago and thew around lots of ideas but they kept pushing that we go to this resort and the rest of us refused, the plan was cancelled for covid anyhow and never happened again. I appreciate they enjoy it but the fear of new experiences or the blindness that other places could be equally nice makes them seem very narrow minded and I find it hard to respect to be honest.

PinkKimonos · 28/08/2026 09:56

SixtySomething · 24/08/2026 12:19

Please tell us more about the "subtle signifiers of wealth," I genuinely would like to know. Do you mean they are used by people deliberately to show how wealthy they are, or they are unconscious things to watch for in others?

It’s not to do with wealth, though, but social class signifiers. They’re not that mysterious — people discuss them on here all the time.

RuinartRuination · 28/08/2026 10:20

Tabbytiger122 · 23/08/2026 22:30

It's just a pattern I noticed. I hate returning to the same place twice..

Do they use the word summer as a verb? 😀

Tabbytiger122 · 28/08/2026 10:27

RuinartRuination · 28/08/2026 10:20

Do they use the word summer as a verb? 😀

As in "we Summer in..." & "we Winter in" 😉

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RuinartRuination · 28/08/2026 11:35

Tabbytiger122 · 28/08/2026 10:27

As in "we Summer in..." & "we Winter in" 😉

Or my favourite “Where are you summering? We are summering in Cap Ferrat”.
Mind you, this is common among the school mums who are all wonderful but many of whom would not have been out of place in a modern day “Rivals” so I’m speaking with affection really.

Helenbelena · 28/08/2026 17:04

PinkKimonos · 28/08/2026 09:56

It’s not to do with wealth, though, but social class signifiers. They’re not that mysterious — people discuss them on here all the time.

What are these ‘social class signifiers’ other than wealth and income?

Tabbytiger122 · 28/08/2026 20:47

Helenbelena · 28/08/2026 17:04

What are these ‘social class signifiers’ other than wealth and income?

Yes I agree, the op should elaborate further!

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