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Friends promised a BBQ and delivered an Iceland beige buffet!

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Bbqdisaster · 23/08/2026 19:32

As above really, myself, DH and 3 DC went to our friends’ house yesterday on the promise of some drinks in the garden and a BBQ.

They said they were having issues with their BBQ so would do an ‘indoor BBQ’. This consisted of beige food from Iceland!!

AIBU to find this a woeful alternative?

OP posts:
werentme · 24/08/2026 12:25

mybeautifulemeraldparure · 24/08/2026 12:15

I can't think how buying Charlie Bingham Ready Meals is a statement of culinary superiority.

But they weren't Charlie Bigham meals, they were ready meals from the local farm shop, so much posher, obvs!

I actually had some CB salmon en croutes recently, I enjoyed them, all that lush puff pastry and creamy sauce 😋

AlwaysExtraHot · 24/08/2026 12:26

Needmorelego · 24/08/2026 12:23

Well it could have been but this is to do with the snobbish attitude that Iceland food is "all frozen crap".

I still don't get what you mean, sorry. I agree she's being a snob about Iceland, but my question was that you seem to be saying a buffet isn't/can't be frozen food.

Needmorelego · 24/08/2026 12:37

AlwaysExtraHot · 24/08/2026 12:26

I still don't get what you mean, sorry. I agree she's being a snob about Iceland, but my question was that you seem to be saying a buffet isn't/can't be frozen food.

To be honest though this time of year Iceland don't sell a lot of frozen buffet food. They tend to have a bigger range for the Christmas season.
It would more likely be fresh buffet food this time of year.
Well....we don't know. The OP was too busy being a snob so who knows what food it was.

mybeautifulemeraldparure · 24/08/2026 12:47

werentme · 24/08/2026 12:25

But they weren't Charlie Bigham meals, they were ready meals from the local farm shop, so much posher, obvs!

I actually had some CB salmon en croutes recently, I enjoyed them, all that lush puff pastry and creamy sauce 😋

I thought she said Charlie Bingham, bought from the farm shop?
My son loves those, but they're still ready meals!

Pointynoseowner · 24/08/2026 12:47

lavendersweetly · 23/08/2026 19:40

Wow, yes, YABU. So unreasonable it's actually quite baffling.
You sound so ungrateful and rude, honestly. Why have you posted this 😂

Your friends invited you into their home out of their kindness of their hearts because they wanted to spend time with you and your children, I hardly think the food or where they purchased it from should matter at all. How would you feel if you invited your friends to your home, only to see this nonsense posted online a few hours later?
Who cares how the food was cooked?
What an awful friend.

This nailed it.

Littlemisssunshinexo · 24/08/2026 12:55

What an ungrateful bratt. She provided for you and the end of the day. What a mate you are pfft.

menopause59 · 24/08/2026 13:14

Saturday night, an Iceland buffet a few gins and strictly on the TV is a perfect evening for me roll on september 😀

DraigCymraeg · 24/08/2026 13:26

MasterBeth · 23/08/2026 19:46

If they offered a beige Iceland buffet as an alternative, they were probably planning on a beige Iceland BBQ to begin with, so no harm done.

But it's disingenuous of people to pretend that you are unreasonable to be disappointed. An afternoon with friends and good food is nicer than an afternoon with friends and bad food.

It's not rude or mean or unreasonable to notice this.

It's bloody rude to go on a public forum and slate them.
Some people use the word friend far too loosely.
The OP is NOT a friend.

Cherrysoup · 24/08/2026 13:28

I think the company is more important than the food. My bil did sardines last time we were there, I can’t be doing with fiddly bones, I’d rather beige Iceland food!

On Saturday, we did chicken breast kebabs, char grilled veg, good quality sausages, hallloumi, slow cooked ribs. We had strawberries, raspberries, blueberries, barbecued pineapple and Cornish clotted cream ice cream then a cheese platter.

Hanksness · 24/08/2026 13:32

Needmorelego · 24/08/2026 09:24

Do you actually know what Iceland sell?
They have "premium" pizzas too 😂😂

Fair enough, I actually have never eaten the food.
I presumed it to be ultra processed food.
I wouldn't touch McDonald's either, but my children do.

Needmorelego · 24/08/2026 13:36

Hanksness · 24/08/2026 13:32

Fair enough, I actually have never eaten the food.
I presumed it to be ultra processed food.
I wouldn't touch McDonald's either, but my children do.

They sell food exactly the same as in any other supermarket.
They sell fresh and frozen.
Why would you assume it's all ultra processed food?

Humanswarm · 24/08/2026 13:57

Does anyone think the OP would have noticed had the BBQ gone ahead, that the meat was indeed frozen, from Iceland?

MyLittleNest · 24/08/2026 14:02

YABU for being so bothered by this that you had to post about it. It's a night out with friends. It's one night of disappointing food.

werentme · 24/08/2026 14:39

mybeautifulemeraldparure · 24/08/2026 12:47

I thought she said Charlie Bingham, bought from the farm shop?
My son loves those, but they're still ready meals!

I think she meant similar to Charlie Bigham meals:

"Fortunately we had some emergency meals stocked from our local farm shop (think along the lines of Charlie Bigham meals you can get in some of the supermarkets)."

Still ready meals, just from the Farm shop - probably like Booths ready meal, which are also lush 😋

Bluedenimdoglover · 24/08/2026 15:07

Poor you. Another first world problem ....

mybeautifulemeraldparure · 24/08/2026 15:59

werentme · 24/08/2026 14:39

I think she meant similar to Charlie Bigham meals:

"Fortunately we had some emergency meals stocked from our local farm shop (think along the lines of Charlie Bigham meals you can get in some of the supermarkets)."

Still ready meals, just from the Farm shop - probably like Booths ready meal, which are also lush 😋

Oh I see! No stranger to ready meals though!

cinquanta · 24/08/2026 16:58

mybeautifulemeraldparure · 24/08/2026 15:59

Oh I see! No stranger to ready meals though!

Nothing wrong with ready meals.

We have ready meals in the freezer. DH makes them from scratch.

Cherrytree86 · 24/08/2026 17:17

Hanksness · 24/08/2026 08:37

I'm with you OP, but I actually cannot imagine anyone serving up such food.

If I was under pressure buy good quality sausages, burgers, doing a quick simple marinade for chicken breasts, buying nice bread, rolls, store bought coleslaw and throw together a couple of nice salads and steam salad potatoes.
That definitely wouldn't take more than a couple of hours.

I wouldn't eat the food you were offered and I doubt my children would either.
Some premium quality Lidl/Aldi store bought pizzas would go down better.

@Hanksness

lol I bet your kids would

Hardware252525252525 · 24/08/2026 17:22

cinquanta · 24/08/2026 16:58

Nothing wrong with ready meals.

We have ready meals in the freezer. DH makes them from scratch.

That’s not a ready meal then. A ready meal is a meal bought from a shop. Yours are just meals, frozen.

werentme · 24/08/2026 17:45

cinquanta · 24/08/2026 16:58

Nothing wrong with ready meals.

We have ready meals in the freezer. DH makes them from scratch.

I think @mybeautifulemeraldparure was making the point that for all her food snobbery, the OP also resorts to ready meals, as lots of others do.

likelysuspect · 24/08/2026 17:52

Needmorelego · 24/08/2026 10:15

Based on products I have bought from Iceland over the years....
Sausage rolls
Cheese rolls
Pork pies
Mini sausages
"Nice" bread
Dips
Chutneys
Veggies
Assorted cheeses
"Continental" meats (ie salami etc)
Coleslaw
Pasta salads
Crisps
Cakes

Basically normal buffet food.
Non of which is frozen.

Yes, nice. But whats wrong with frozen food anyway?

Why would it be a problem if it was frozen?

likelysuspect · 24/08/2026 17:56

Shaynac · 24/08/2026 11:18

I’m actually finding this quite nostalgic. I’ve suddenly got a craving for a Sara Lee frozen Black Forest gateau, like my Gran used to serve up every other Sunday. Do they still do them?

Funny enough I dont know why but I was thinking about the milky coffee my mum used to make me in the 70s, it was hot milk in the pan (no microwaves) with mellow birds and sugar. Nice. Good for children I believe..

daisychain01 · 24/08/2026 18:01

Bbqdisaster · 23/08/2026 20:22

I highly doubt it. One, possibly both of them are in jobs paying six figures.

They're probably so busy doing their Very Very Important Jobz they CBA to get off their hamster wheel and make sure their guests had good quality scran. Preposterous! Couldn't they have ordered from Waitrose on their 6 figure salaries?

Hernameisdeborah · 24/08/2026 18:04

If someone is kind and generous enough to entertain you and provide food then to moan seems incredibly rude and ungrateful. They clearly had the original intention to do a ‘proper’ BBQ and I doubt they were deliberately trying to piss you off. To make this amount of fuss over it seems ridiculous.

Needmorelego · 24/08/2026 18:05

likelysuspect · 24/08/2026 17:52

Yes, nice. But whats wrong with frozen food anyway?

Why would it be a problem if it was frozen?

It wouldn't.
It just seems to be a dreadful horror if it's from Iceland.
According to the OP anyway 😂😂😂