AIBU to ask why parents give deliberately unusual spellings of otherwise common names?

[Ihateasthma]

Why do parents give their DC names which sound normal but differently spelt to the normal way?

Maddyline for Madeleine
Febee for Pheobe
Pheo for Theo

You have shot yourselves in the foot from day one as you get angry, roll your eyes when others spell their names the normal way. If you gave DC the normal spelling- you wouldn’t react like this

Then when the DC are older they do the same thing and say “it’s spelt ….”

Sorry meant Neeve not nerve. That was auto correct which I didn't see until It was posted. Isn't there an Irish name that sounds like Neeve but spelled something like Niamh. That's incorrect I know but something like that, probably with accents, which I've no idea where they go. As for sharn which I think is spelled Sian. Always assumed it was Irish but saw on here that it's Welsh?

I think we all know there's a big difference between spelling a name according to your culture or nationality compared to 'yooneek' spellings by (in general) thick people. Whether or not it's acceptable to look down on people like that is a personal choice. I do.

We're a tri-lingual household and we took care to choose names for our daughters so that they wouldn't look or sound odd or stupid in other languages. A local name we love would have been pronounced completely differently in English and we couldn't live with my husband's family butchering such a pretty name (accidentally) so we didn't use it.

As far as not knowing goes as an excuse, well I don't think that's possible these days. The internet exists. Pretty easy to find out what is considered a standard or acceptable spelling and what is considered ridiculous. Anyone who goes on to choose a deliberately wacky spelling pretty much deserves the poo being thrown at them in my opinion.

Isn't there an Irish name that sounds like Neeve but spelled something like Niamh.
Niamh is pronounced Neeve.

And Sîan is Welsh - the correct spelling has a circumflex

I noticed that the father of one of the boys killed in Cleveland at the weekend is called Gye.

No, you’re right, Niamh is the correct spelling. It doesn’t have any accents. Some Irish people pronounce it Neeve, but the more correct Irish language pronunciation is Nee-uv; there’s a small second syllable though the emphasis is on the first syllable. I’m probably describing that badly, but you can hear it in the link below.
https://forvo.com/word/niamh/

I understand English names have different spellings and pronunciations according to the language/cultures e.g Timothy/Timothee/Natalie/Natalia etc but there's no culture that calls for 'Bethynie' for Bethany or Eefun or Ethan, unless its a culture of just generally being silly.

My grandma was supposed to be called Joanne, However, Her illiterate father registered her as Joan.

Just a few names I have seen this week alone

Jaxson
Taylah
Iysla

Thank you for that. I really appreciate you taking the time to send me the link with how to pronounce the name. I'm amazed that I spelled it correctly without googling it 👍🙂

I think that was a typo, but also when you have a non-rhotic accent, that R wouldn’t be pronounced. People with non-rhotic accents will often ‘ar’ to approximate long ‘ahh’ sound because words like park and dark in non-rhotic accents are pronounced pahhk and dahhk. And words like tuna and tuner are exactly the same pronunciation. For the same reason that poster used ‘sharn’ to approximate Sian.

the to bach goes on the a in Siân because it elongates the a to an ahh. if it went on the i it would make it See-an.

I’ve seen a baby boy called Ollyver, however his nickname is spelled Ollie (not Olly?!)

Sorry, yes I know that! I’m Welsh!

Ah sorry, i didn’t realise. Mae’n flin!

👍🏽

I knew a kid called Deen

Just wrong

I'm in the USA, where run-offs for the US Senate primaries (plus a Senate by-election) were held in a few states today. I couldn't help noticing some of the candidates' names as the results came in: Darline, Marcye, N'Kiyla. FWIW, Marcye lost to Everton, but Darline handily beat Ralph and N'Kiyla absolutely wiped the floor with Jim.

Thank you ♥️

DD has a Rae-Leigh in her year. No, really.

You started this post to sneer at people but have instead displayed your own ignorance. For a start you can't spell 'Phoebe' correctly yourself!!🙄
Next 'Pheo' is a name in its own right.

Febe is the usual spelling of 'Phoebe' in some countries!

Wrt Madeleine, which again has different spellings in different countries, I am guessing the parent is just making clear which pronunciation they want, ie an 'i' rather than an 'uh' sound in the middle and the final syllable to be sounded 'line' not 'lin' which doesn't sound like the daftest idea to me.

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Because they're thick and think it looks good!

Gift that keeps giving

The parents I know who have done this assumed a spelling from the way the word sounds, 'Shivorn' for 'Chevonne' or 'Sherry' for 'Cherie'. Or they have taken a spelling that someone else has used. I guess it's the way language evolves.