AIBU to ask why parents give deliberately unusual spellings of otherwise common names?

[Ihateasthma]

Why do parents give their DC names which sound normal but differently spelt to the normal way?

Maddyline for Madeleine
Febee for Pheobe
Pheo for Theo

You have shot yourselves in the foot from day one as you get angry, roll your eyes when others spell their names the normal way. If you gave DC the normal spelling- you wouldn’t react like this

Then when the DC are older they do the same thing and say “it’s spelt ….”

I know right. It's almost like it's made up.

Like 'Eefun.' 🙄 SUUUURE someone has a child called EEFUN!

FGS some of these posts! Are we meant to believe that some people give their child such ludicrous names? No-one calls their child any of these names.

Well someone has posted there were 3 Pheos so someone is calling their child that.

I don't know where they got that from but I still don't believe it. And even so, 3 - ever?? And as I said, I still don't believe it.

Eefun is 100% made up though.

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I've posted this on previous name threads, but the new trend in the area where I work is the middle name "Bleu"

I have 4 children on my caseload born in the last 12 months with this as a hyphenated middle name, all spelt in the same way (and yes, 2 of them are called Navey)

I met a Jaymz and an Amber-lynne who has thought was called Anne Boleyn.

I'm a GP so hear everything.

I see a lot of baby names in my line of work. Mostly from low SE areas.

Obviously I'm not posting examples, but you wouldn't believe me if I did. Some of them are that outrageous. And it's not an uncommon thing either, I'd see one OMG name every few days. Sometimes a whole family of them.

My favourite type are the double whammy of awful name and awful spelling. Like Sayba or Huntah (I made those up but you get the gist).

@Ihateasthma
I've always lived in a working class area and my children attend the local state schools
I found that the parents who did this were the sort trying to be classy in a chavvy way and on hearing a name they liked they then went further because they couldn't spell properly but it made their offspring distinctive anyways

Efun is an accepted spelling of Evan in Welsh, so a mispelling of that is possible.

Sometimes, parents who are having their babies removed give them very distinctive names and very distinctive spellings of names, in the hope their children may be easier to track down via SM.

I once had three Siobhans in the same class, not one of them spelt correctly and they once got into a fight because each thought her name was correct so I took great delight in telling them they were all wrong!

It 100% isn’t I’m afraid.

Some people use “F” instead of “TH”. Ethan’s Dad also said Fank you instead of thank you, free instead of three and firsty instead of thirsty.

She now knows that MN also has a lot of pedants trying to maintain a semblance of good grammar!

In fairness, some were insisted abbreviations.

Amellia (Mel)
Amelia
Emelia
Amylia
Amelia (Amy)

Yep. I once knew a Shinade.

This is how my friend ended up as Debra. Her dad got to the registrar's office and realised he didn't know how to spell Deborah, so he just adlibbed 😁

I transcribe old church registers for a genealogy website and I often encounter Lily, Lilly and well as Lilian ans Lilian, so not really so trendy! On very old registers it's sometimes the case that a name can be written differently on the same registration, some of the ones I deal with go back to days when not everyone could write or spell, they may never have had to write their name.

This. We had a student whose name ended in é, which means that you accentuate the e, however, his pronunciation was with a silent e. It would be the equivalent of naming your boy Stevé and being upset that the teachers needed explaining that it was pronounced Steve. For the love of God, do yourself (and your child) a favour, and learn how accents work before fucking about with them.

Sharlot is my current favourite.

Tell me about it.

My DD's best school friend is still her best friend
To be fair, the name isnt bad.
But the oiriginal spelling wasnt either.

I had a Blu Kirton in my first class as a teacher.

Because they are thick and cant spell?

That reminds me of a woman I worked with called Eilidh who got very aggressive if anyone "mispronounced" it as Ay-lay. She pronounced it Elday, and said it was her granny's name and that she had been a fluent Gaelic speaker so knew best, and insisted that everyone who speaks Gaelic knows that Elday is right and Aylay is wrong.

She just wouldn't accept that her way was unusual, and used to tell other Eilidhs they were saying their own names wrong. It was all rather embarrassing.

I had a Blu Kirton in my first class.
Also had twins called Shania and Twain ( spelt correctly miraculously).
I also taught a Tia Maria and my best friend went to school with a boy called Russell Sprout.
Many,many adults are idiots.

I remember reading about a cviiilyn. As in c8lyn.

Haven't read all the responses but as an adopter, I know that some parents, where the children were on a child protection order shortly after birth , would give their children very unusual spellings so it would be easier to trace them on social media etc if they were removed and adopted.