To not want to spend my staycation watching tv

[Thosecandlesdontmatch]

All the family is off for three weeks together. It’s the most we’ve ever been off. We are going away for a couple of nights an hour away at the end of the holiday.
We live in a tourist area with lots to do.
We’ve had some mornings at the beach and at some attractions, but we seem to be having lots of days just at home.
Dh goes on his computer and Dc play or watch tv, but I feel that we’re wasting our time together and it wasn’t how I imagined it.
I would love to at least go out every morning, maybe relax in the afternoon, then some nights out locally or back to the beach.
Dh seems happy and says he just wants to relax

Would you be happy with having whole days inside?

As a family?

This is me, too.

Some of us are just homebodies, or introverts, and we are not interested in going out, unless it’s something really special, like for me, that would be an art exhibition or a birthday meal in a restaurant. Even then, I don’t like to be out for long and look forward to coming back home! 😆

My friend is the total opposite, hardly ever in, always off seeing places, doing stuff.

I totally get your wish to do more but am not sure why your wish trumps the wishes of your family members?

I wouldn't be happy with having whole days inside - why not leave them to rot and pack yourself a picnic lunch and go to the beach, go walking, do some of the local attractions.

Maybe if you are of out they might want to come to for fear of missing out

Would you be happy with having whole days inside?

God yes. I hate this for ed "you've got to be out doing stuff all the time" attitude some people seem to have. I work hard in a full time job, love day trips and holidays to but nothing wrong to me relaxing about the house, watching TV reading books etc. I feel chilled and love my own company to.

Exactly. I pay a lot for my house, why wouldn't I want to at least spend a decent amount of time there?

We are also a family that loves being at home. We live in London though, and we always do stuff at the weekends or planned things with their friends.
I sometimes think people are so focused on doing things that you don’t realise that you never just have time at home. Time to relax, be selfish on how you spend it, or do absolutely nothing at all.

When the kids were that age and we had time like this we did an every other day schedule. One day at home mooching, next day out and about, even if just a picnic at the park and a long walk in the woods (‘cause £££). If we’re out everyday it exhausts me and the kids get kind of bored (I think more likely tired and over stimulated, but it comes out as not being interested in whatever we’re doing). Because everyone knew they could mooch the next day, we all seemed to be more prepared to do a little extra when we were out and about - stay late, take a detour for one person’s sake, have a go at something outside our comfort zone, etc.

On mooch days we’d often watch a movie, play computer games together or drag out a board game (and some sunny days I would sit in the garden with a bottle glass of wine and a book) so still some family time and I didn’t see them as wasted.

Mix it up a bit you dont all have to be joined at the hip for 3 weeks thats what causes issues I think.
You go out every morning if you want to the others may follow now and again.

Absolutely couldn’t spend three weeks in front of the TV, but equally, no pleasure in fighting with the tourists and their cars at our local beaches and attractions so probably would have much smaller chunks of time off. But then we don’t do lounging around, too much to achieve around the place, and we don’t really do holidays, just odd weekends or short breaks, so don’t really understand the attraction of “family time” if I’m honest, seems a bit forced. I’d let them be and find something to do if it were me.

I love to get out and do stuff but I find people exhausting when they are the sort who absolutely have to follow an itinerary at all times. Scheduling time for relaxing is not relaxing.

This.

Three weeks is quite a long time to want to be doing stuff each day in the morning and evening. It’s even harder when you’re at home with all your home comforts I’d imagine. Maybe agree to go out for dinner a couple of times a week and get it booked. Then maybe a couple of activities a week too - beach or some other activity available in your town. Alternate the days you do this if they aren’t interested in doing multiple things each day. Also could do some stuff together at home to spend time together like watching a film, doing a barbecue, play a game etc.

I agree about "mixing it up". With a three week break I might have some active family days and some mooching in between, or decide on one week of activities and the rest is mooching.

And on mooching days I'd invite the others but go out by myself if I wanted to go out and no-one else did.

What I wouldn't tolerate - I'm not saying this is happening! - is everyone else mooching around having a lovely relaxing time at home and expecting me to do the cooking and cleaning because we're not going out.

It sounds like lockdown! I always got my kids out somewhere every day, even if just to the local playground, swimming or the supermarket.

I am have been off this week and we've been to the pool four times, and to the beach once.

No way I'd sit watching TV on my precious time off!!!