Why can't I just find some pants?!?!

[Knickerbockermisery]

After a long, painstaking and expensive search I have finally found some knickers I was happy with. The right type of fabric for my preference, the right style and they fit! don't squish me in on the waist band, don't have my little belly fat sticking out at the bottom. Don't give me a wedgy. And only £22 for a pack of four (Victoria's Secret from Next).

Alas, my joy was short lived. After one day, I am back to the never ending drawing board of finding pants I can wear. All the above reasons stand, they're perfect on paper - BUT - feminine items will not stick to them! Not even a bit. It's so weird. I like to wear a daily pad, just to feel hygienic through the day in case of small leaks (thanks kids), but they will not stick to my new pants at all. OK, I thought, I'll just hold the pad in place in while I pull them up and then they'll just stay there. WRONG. Not only did they not stay there, the otherwise super comfy pants somehow turned the back half of my pad into some sort of bum floss which I was then constantly trying to unwedge. And when I went to the toilet and lowered them, the pad was nowhere to be seen. Oh wait, there it is dropped out onto the floor (thankfully not in the toilet bowl!).

There's absolutely no way I'm chancing that with with a sanitary towel when I get my period.

(btw, I did think maybe after a wash they'd stick better. Made no difference)

So that's another £22 down the toilet (pun intended) and I have to consider the perfect pants just don't exist.

Is it just me that finds buying basic every day pants so bloody hard!

It's a strange material a lot of suppliers are using. Also a lot of tights/leggings are shiny. I've given up and gone over to Asda cotton knickers.

It's actually the shiny kind of ones I like. I find cotton underwear horribly irritating and kind of itchy.

Weirdly I did not thin these new ones were the shiny type, certainly not as much as others. I don't think I've encountered this issue before.

I can't help but agree about holy grail pants.

I like a full brief to go over my section scar.
Can I get them in nice, feminine designs at a reasonable price point. Rarely.
Giant plain cotton affairs or 'jazzy' floral ditsy print in pastels.

I feel your pain OP.

Asda or Sainsbury’s. Only ones I’ll buy now. They are Bridget Jones knickers but I don’t give a stuff and I have told DH if he wants me to wear attractive sexy knickers he has to too.

comfort is all now.

Are they made of modal fabric? I find those sort like to creep up into my bum crack.

I spent a lot of money and many years trying to find the exact right knickers for me and eventually found my perfect ones in Sainsbury's, of all places. But only the plain sort- the minute they add a tiny scrap of lace on the legs, they start creeping up again.

M&S high rise shorts with the lace bit at the top. Comfy and look good.

£12 for 5.

https://www.marksandspencer.com/5-pack-cotton-lycra-lace-midi-knickers/p/clp60437473?color=BLACK#intid=pid_pg1pip48g2r14c2

Seriously, the most comfortable knickers I have ever worn are these Mei Yating knickers from Temu of all places. They have a cotton gusset. Different colours and pack sizes available.

https://share.temu.com/o38QP3uDZMB

Try oddballs they are very comfortable.

I actually follow a woman online who looks at how poorly clothes are made one of the things she points out is gusset width apparently most companies make them far to small now.

I found Oddballs ladies boxers great with jeans, but they somehow still manage to bunch up /roll up when I'm wearing a dress (with chub run shorts) or looser trousers. The briefs weren't much better.
I'm currently swearing by Boody bamboo knickers, though haven't yet had to try them with a pad as I don't get regular periods.

https://direct.asda.com/george/lingerie/knickers/black-lace-panel-supersoft-full-brief-knickers-3-pack/GEM1452608

These are really nice and soft fabric. I recommend these knickers

Yep, this style from M&S are my go-to. Anything else just rides up, falls down or whatever!

Might have a look at some of those suggested. I detest the feeling of any kind of additional fabric, like the lace detailing at the top. I've tried many and I just can't stand it.

Maybe just the shape of my body but the shorts style don't work for me unless I'm wearing tight clothing. I bought some from M&S, but if I'm wearing loose trousers or a dress they just end up dropping down. A smaller size would be too tight.

I prefer bikini style but most of them do come with some edging detail which is a no no.

It's a bit infuriating that you have to buy a whole pack, which you of course can not try on. The amount of opened packs of pants I have that will never get worn is ridiculous. I did find a charity that would take obviously unworn underwear.

The VS ones I bought from Next were a bit of a risk, because you couldn't open the packet before buying as the security sticker was over the opening and the sizes were simply labelled S, M, L, with no actual sizing guide on the pack so I was so happy when I took a punt and thought I'd won.

I don't like cotton too. Also hate lace embellishments. These Tesco ones are great. No VPL and they don't dig in to you. I prefer the floral designs they have in store though.

https://www.tesco.com/shop/en-GB/clothing/products/317391195?srsltid=AfmBOookk0yIkai-PWoJ8f0F98QXmXcAKW6HGaxZuKpY_bb-OSM4dM91

They made their own on sewing bee a couple of weeks ago, from old t shirts. They looked comfy

For pads, try the washable ones as they don’t stick to the gusset, but use poppers to hold them in place.

Ordered these from Amazon recently after trying lots of others, they are perfect

amzn.eu/d/0diASsIo

Wirapa. Ugly but great for wide gussets and pads

A lady shouldn't have to choose whether to dress to the left or the right
Clutches pearls

I've used cloth pads for years, and it is getting hard to have enough gusset so they stay in position and don't do a log roll by mid-morning despite favouring a fuller cut at the waist and bum.

I had the same issue with Step One pants, which I also think might be the kind of thing you are looking for. Two washes and everything that should stick, does!

Any M&S knickers I've tried recently have a really narrow gusset which isn't comfortable with any type of pad because the sticky bit is wider and sticks to parts of you it shouldn't be in contact with which can be painful.

Free wax removal! 😂

Fair enough tho. I am still using a couple year old M&S pants, so I will check out new gusset as was just thinking I need some new ones.. Ta for heads up.

I had such a hard time finding new pants last year, I must’ve spent about £200 overall! I settled on boxers which I never would’ve imagined but it made me realise that basically all other knickers give me constant wedgies. The boxers are great, thin fabric and no VPL, only downside is I can’t use pads with wings. I tried Step One but the sizing is weird, the fabric is thick and there is a seam right across my delicate foof

I think I'd try the light period pants. I have a similar ahem, fear of leakage and honestly, the light period pants from (yep) Primark are absolutely brilliant for me. I don't even know I'm wearing them. Just a thought.

have you tried Boody? Best pants ever (and PJs and bras to be honest). Lovely soft material. Wide gusset. Lots of style options.

These Wirapa are the knickers I always reach for. Wash well, very comfy, and don't look completely horrific.

amzn.eu/d/0eIVQJqt

Agree. I wear the nvpl ones for the gym as I have the fear when I’m running and lifting weights!

£10 for a pack of 2.