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AIBU to think heatwave barbecue reactions are starting to feel a bit Covid?

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PatioDwellers · 15/08/2026 08:53

To think the bbq/fires in the heatwave responses have the air of Covid about them …

’my neighbour is having a bbq what should I do’, Ring 101, call the fire brigade, take photos, people will die!

tinfoil bbqs in the countryside, tossers and rightly banned.

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CruelsummerTS · 15/08/2026 18:25

Everybody thinks they’re the exception 🙄

SummerDive · 15/08/2026 18:31

Waytoohothot · 15/08/2026 18:01

You obviously dont live in a really hot area or next to trees and bush and grassland, its not just houses destroyed and people maybe killed but animals and insects and birds and foxes cats dogs, the wild fires in Greece kill animals and livestock.and displaced cats and dogs who were then rounded up after by a charity,

And those fires in Greece were started by? You common bbq at home? Nope

Nobody is arguing that we need to be very careful about fires. Nobody is arguing fur disposable BBQs.
But the PM has never said no one should have a bbq in their garden. Ther garden. Not next to grassland, bracken etc…. Their garden.

dontmalbeconme · 15/08/2026 18:32

CruelsummerTS · 15/08/2026 18:25

Everybody thinks they’re the exception 🙄

Not the exception. There is no rule restricting the use of garden BBQs. This is because, unlike a disposable BBQ, a reusable garden barbeque, especially a gas one, is not a high fire risk so there is no need to restrict their use.

Good Grief!

scalt · 15/08/2026 18:38

Natsku · 15/08/2026 09:19

I think its ridiculous that its taken this long to tell people not to have any kind of open fire/sparks in forest fire conditions. This is completely sensible and logical, nothing like some of the nonsensical covid restrictions the uk had. In my country we get these warnings every summer, people don't whinge about it, they follow them because they know how important they are. Yes its disappointing not to be able to have a bbq in my garden when its been to dry but that's a lot better than accidentally starting a wildfire that could cause a lot of damage and potentially deaths. If Brits need to be grassed on to begin with to understand the seriousness of this, then so be it. Eventually they'll get the message.

Therein lies the problem. Because the preaching and many of the roolz imposed by Saint Boris and his merry men in 2020 were so utterly nonsensical "masks are worse than useless, but they are compulsory when it suits us", and then Johnson proved that he knew that the roolz were rubbish by partying, some people will not take further government dictats seriously. I said it at the time: deliberately frightening the pants off the public was a very bad move, and would backfire later, and the government would have less moral high ground for a future emergency. I was told to shut up, put my mask back on, and stop murdering grannies.

And yes, the frustrated and unemployed Covid marshals are delighted to have something to moralise about.

Yes, fire is a very real risk, I do not doubt that, and I would be angry if I saw somebody starting a fire, and these "roolz" do not have devastating consequences, unlike the much-hallowed lockdowns, which caused massive and lasting damage, and still nobody will admit this. If infantilising and insulting is overdone, the message can be lost among the noise. We are being preached at from all sides, every day, with many things: don't use plastic straws, don't buy new to save the planet, do buy new to save the economy, don't flush the toilet, do flush the toilet, mind the gap, watch your speed...

It's interesting to note the similarities in the messaging with Covid, and the eclipse. In 1999, the papers were full of moralising pics of families wearing the eclipse glasses. In 2020, the papers were full of pics of people all masked up (and allegedly, Johnson's own behavioural squad showed him pictures of world leaders wearing masks, to persuade him to wear one, when he was reluctant). Similarly, the word "flocking", which implies disapproval.
1999: Millions will be "flocking" to Cornwall to see the eclipse. Don't go, you'll be stuck in the gridlock.
2020: Millions are "flocking" to the beaches, when they should be cowering at home, waiting for their guardian angel Boris de Gabriel Johnson to appear on the screen.

Schoolshirtshopping · 15/08/2026 18:51

dontmalbeconme · 15/08/2026 17:17

TBH, anyone with half a brain cell hasn't been using disposable BBQs or lighting campfires in this drought. Unlike responsibly used garden barbeques, these are very high fire risk activities.

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We yes, but in the Cairngorms those without half a brain cell can have their fires and bbqs (outside of private gardens) put out and get fined.

Bigreddog25 · 15/08/2026 18:52

Mixerfixer · 15/08/2026 08:56

How does it feel like covid? Nobody needs to have a BBQ, just wait until we've had some rain

Because this is exactly what people said about covid 'nobody needs to leave the house'

Grow upppp

MiGrayn · 15/08/2026 18:52

BurntBroccoli · 15/08/2026 17:23

Your neighbours don’t know that though? You will be making them anxious, plus the smoke is annoying when you have to have your windows open.

How do you know this? My neighbours had a barbecue today and it didn’t make me anxious at all.

Bigreddog25 · 15/08/2026 18:53

friedaklein · 15/08/2026 08:57

Bbqs are not essential.
Read the room.

You're just proving her point lol

Bigreddog25 · 15/08/2026 18:57

I was at a child's 3rd birthday party today at forest school. People were questioning whether they should have lit the candles on the birthday cake 🤣

TicklishMintDuck · 15/08/2026 19:40

Backedoffhackedoff · 15/08/2026 12:46

Yes which can happen in any country.

But obviously will be more common in a country that has high temperatures for much of the year. I feel like I’m explaining this to a low ability child.

mathanxiety · 15/08/2026 19:59

NC9000 · 15/08/2026 09:01

UK loves a good narc sesh. How can one be pious and self righteous today and which number shall I phone to demonstrate what a superior person I am by following the rules I invented?

Yes to this.

Also, the losing of all sense of perspective in hot weather.

CoffeeBotherer · 15/08/2026 20:01

The grass is so dry at the moment that a spark from a fire pit or BBQ could tear across a lawn in a minute. It could be just a 1/10,000 chance, but the point is that the one that sparks could be lethal, and even if there's no danger to life it's still going to tie up fire service resources. Some people will ignore it but if you can reduce the number of potentials then it's worth everyone being "inconvenienced" for a few weeks.

mathanxiety · 15/08/2026 20:05

Mapletree1985 · 15/08/2026 12:32

It can feel very upsetting, when we're all being asked to make a small short-term sacrifice for the general good, to see some people acting in a way that clearly conveys the message, "Screw everybody else, I do what I want and no one can stop me. Bugger the consequences."

I'm not going to call the police on my neighbours for having a barbecue, but their choice will tell me something about who they are.

Are your neighbours using a disposable BBQ in a back garden filled with dry old pine trees whose needles form a carpet on the ground?

If not, then your resentment is misplaced.

dontmalbeconme · 15/08/2026 20:13

CoffeeBotherer · 15/08/2026 20:01

The grass is so dry at the moment that a spark from a fire pit or BBQ could tear across a lawn in a minute. It could be just a 1/10,000 chance, but the point is that the one that sparks could be lethal, and even if there's no danger to life it's still going to tie up fire service resources. Some people will ignore it but if you can reduce the number of potentials then it's worth everyone being "inconvenienced" for a few weeks.

My gas BBQ doesn't spark. And it's on a stone patio, nowhere near anything flammable. Since it is neither a banned disposable BBQ, nor does it constitute a high fire risk, I will continue to safely and responsibly enjoy barbeques in my garden as long as the rain stays away.

There's more chance of you setting off a fire by charging your phone than there is of my attended, responsibly sited, safely used gas garden barbeque starting a fire.

SugarandMice · 15/08/2026 20:23

Can’t really tell if people are genuinely ignorant enough to believe a gas BBQ at home poses a real risk or they just love an opportunity to snitch on their neighbours or virtue signal that they are a very good and responsible citizen for not having a BBQ. Either way seems people have collectively lost their mind during this weather and are unable to think rationally. So yeah, similar to Covid I suppose. My neighbours are having a BBQ at the moment, would not even occur to me to judge them, report them or be concerned that our street is about to go up in flames but seems like I’m in the minority here.

MildlyMoist · 15/08/2026 20:24

Bigreddog25 · 15/08/2026 18:57

I was at a child's 3rd birthday party today at forest school. People were questioning whether they should have lit the candles on the birthday cake 🤣

What did they use to light them? A still-hot match, discarded on the ground, could easily cause a fire under current conditions. People just don’t think anything through properly.

Backedoffhackedoff · 15/08/2026 20:26

TicklishMintDuck · 15/08/2026 19:40

But obviously will be more common in a country that has high temperatures for much of the year. I feel like I’m explaining this to a low ability child.

I suppose I’d feel like that if I was making stuff up too.

MildlyMoist · 15/08/2026 20:26

SugarandMice · 15/08/2026 20:23

Can’t really tell if people are genuinely ignorant enough to believe a gas BBQ at home poses a real risk or they just love an opportunity to snitch on their neighbours or virtue signal that they are a very good and responsible citizen for not having a BBQ. Either way seems people have collectively lost their mind during this weather and are unable to think rationally. So yeah, similar to Covid I suppose. My neighbours are having a BBQ at the moment, would not even occur to me to judge them, report them or be concerned that our street is about to go up in flames but seems like I’m in the minority here.

Given that last year my neighbours managed to set fire to vegetation about 4 feet above their gas barbecue under normal weather conditions, I have much less certainty than you about this situation.

scalt · 15/08/2026 20:33

In 2020, someone on Mumsnet said that you mustn’t travel, because your car tyres churn up the virus and spread it around. Seriously, someone did say this!

Now for the mumsnet dilemma of the year: are we allowed to use a hose to put out a fire?

Dilau23 · 15/08/2026 20:35

SummerDive · 15/08/2026 18:31

And those fires in Greece were started by? You common bbq at home? Nope

Nobody is arguing that we need to be very careful about fires. Nobody is arguing fur disposable BBQs.
But the PM has never said no one should have a bbq in their garden. Ther garden. Not next to grassland, bracken etc…. Their garden.

Sometimes they are started by at home bbqs in greece and the incorrect disposal of hot coals afterwards. We’ve just come back from Greece and our villa had very specific instructions on the use of the built in brick bbq with warnings about stray embers, disposal of coals etc. It really is down to the user. While it is possible to have a safe bbq, unfortunately not everyone is a diligent in not leaving it unattended etc

BuildbyNumbere · 15/08/2026 21:41

ErlingHaalandsManBun · 15/08/2026 12:24

The alert is necessary so that people actually realise how bloody serious this. Not everyone watches the news or goes on social media to understand what a mess it is out there. Hopefully the alert reaches the masses and makes them stop and think.

And yes, there are still bellends out there not taking it seriously and lighting bloody BBQ's and doing what the hell they please.

I’m asking you personally … if everyone is a bellend for having a bbq in this weather why did you need to read the alert before deciding not to have one? Surely you already knew not to!!

TigTails · 15/08/2026 22:21

TicklishMintDuck · 15/08/2026 19:40

But obviously will be more common in a country that has high temperatures for much of the year. I feel like I’m explaining this to a low ability child.

“Explaining this to a low ability child” 🤭

This is the funniest burn. 😂

SunwaysSystems · 15/08/2026 22:45

TigTails · 15/08/2026 22:21

“Explaining this to a low ability child” 🤭

This is the funniest burn. 😂

No burns allowed!
Haven't you seen the government warnings?

BlueMum16 · 15/08/2026 23:00

Rpop · 15/08/2026 16:46

Let’s hope you don’t have one single stray ember that gets wafted up before you can do anything about it.

I assume you don’t live in area with dry grass and brittle plants.

Safe to say BBQ went without a hitch. No stray embers. No grass on fire and no need for a bucket of water.

We're northwest so probably cooler than most on here. We had the smoke from the Manchester fires weeks ago and they are still dampening them now 4 weeks later. So yes there's dry grass and brittle plants. But I'm not stupid or careless.