Friends mocking my engagement :(

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My fiance proposed to me this week after 3 years together, just a day after our 3 year anniversary!

He had planned to propose in his home country when we visited a few months back but it was very busy seeing all this family (his mum is British before any comments about wanting a UK visa!).

We had a stressful time coming back and I had been prepping for a new job interview. He came home from work around 9, told me to put some shoes on as he wanted to show me something…

He drove me to a road and got out and said “this is the first place I ever said I loved you” and then proposed, with a gorgeous delicate ring!

I was on cloud 9, so happy. I always told him I didn’t like big proposals and I’d been embarrassed if someone saw, so this felt perfect and quite romantic.

Saw my best friends today. Both of them were saying how cheap it was, how it was thoughtless and that they’d be sick if they were proposed to in their pyjamas (like I was), and that he could have done something more romantic. They were laughing about it as well.

It’s made me really really sad. Aibu to think that the proposal was quite thoughtful… the first place he said “I love you” is quite sweet?

And they they all ganged up and agreed that this was a crap proposal? All of them?

Anyway, you only see them 2x a year… just cut out those two visits. Shouldn’t impact your life

Sounds like you were really happy until your jealous bitter "friends" gave their opinion.
It costs over £100 a head at most weddings, luckily you found out early who not to invite!

They arnt your best friends. They happen to be kids of your mums friends.

Time to move on

"I always told him I didn’t like big proposals"

Best to make your proposal requirements clear early in a relationship! :-)

I proposed to my husband with my hands in the washing up, him doing the drying. He remembers it as him proposing to me! After 19 years it hardly matters now.

You’re not marrying your bitchy friends, you’re marrying him. If it was meaningful for you both, then that’s all that matters.

"They arnt your best friends. They happen to be kids of your mums friends."

Who are only your Mum's friends because their kids were your school friends!

But nice try!

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Please do not invite them to your wedding.

Start distancing yourself now with very late replies to texts, backing out of plans because "something has come up" or "I'm so tired".

Never explain what you have been up to, just a vague, "Busy as usual. Will catch up soon." But "soon" never comes. Then stop replying at all. Trust me. Those "friends" will take digs at every choice you make for your wedding and honeymoon. They won't let you feel good about anything.

Meanwhile plan a lovely intimate wedding with only your closest. Your fiancé sounds very sweet to propose where he remembered saying, I love you, for the first time. 💕

It sounds like a genuine and heart felt proposal and you felt on cloud 9. Much better than some tacky thing for Instagram. I can’t believe they would criticise it - this doesn’t make sense! How horrible. Just enjoy x

I’d rather no friends than ones like them.
My DH proposed to me next to a field of curious cows, with a ring he’d secretly saved for for years, on my lunch break from work as he couldn’t wait. They sound shallow AF, and frankly, jealous. Put ‘em in the bin: your fella is a keeper x

Congratulations . I think that’s a very romantic proposal

Even if they felt that way, they shouldn’t be telling you! This is about you and one of your happiest moments and milestones! It’s not their proposal, so they don’t have to like it. And it was nasty of them to laugh, that’s just insult to injury.
The proposal suited you, it was considerate because he remembered the spot he said something meaningful. A lot of men don’t pay attention to those small details, so I’d consider you lucky!
I think it was a very sweet proposal. A proposal doesn’t need to cost anything, it was thoughtful and sentimental.
You need to re-think this friendship, as I don’t consider their behaviour as something true friends would do. Congratulations on your engagement.

I agree. I can't imagine anyone dissing someone's engagement ring or proposal. It seems unbelievable.

Congratulations
It is thoughtful,, it certainly is more special given the time and past
I think it is scatty behaviour from friends.
Who are they to judge

Congratulations on your engagement. It's a lovely genuine heartfelt proposal and meaningful. A proposal should not have to fit with some Instagram ideal. Best wishes to you both.

Congratulations, that sounds really thoughtful. I'm not a big fan of public declarations. Sorry your friends are dicks - I've recently realised my friends have behaved like dicks too, I know I should walk away from them but I keep making excuses but I no longer trust them with anything personal.

Your proposal is wonderful, I had a lovely romantic one too and cherish it.

Those people are not friends, that response is a very clear indication of jealousy. It’s a very immature reaction too, that have a lot to work on.

My first ever post after decades of lurking!! I can only echo what others have said. PLEASE do not let your so called friends ruin this for you. He sounds wonderful xx

So much nicer than all the performative proposals you see on Instagram. Congratulations!

It's your proposal, a very personal thing and it made you really happy. It still should. Your fiance knows you well and sounds lovely. Your friends sound like twits.

Congratulations. It sounds lovely 😍.

Sounds like a lovely proposal!…and that you need some new friends!

Don't ask them to be bridesmaids.

Such a thoughtful proposal, I love it!
I suspect your friends are jealous, try not to let them get to you.
Congratulations 🎉

That sounds like a beautiful proposal! So thoughtful and romantic.

My DH proposed to me in the kitchen and it was perfect!

I think your friends might be jealous.

Congratulations to you and your fiancé!