Is the dog invited?

[DoggyAuntie]

My husband's brother and his wife are coming to stay with us this weekend, on their way back home from their holiday further north. All good. They live in a big house with a garden whereas we live in a smaller house with a back yard but we can cope for a couple of days.

This afternoon, I looked at my sister-in-law's Instagram. She has posted photos of herself and her husband on holiday - with her dog!

I have not invited the dog. The dog had not been mentioned. I do not want the dog in my house.

My husband has said it's just one of those things. I feel they are being insufferably rude to expect me to welcome the dog into my home without even asking.

Am I being unreasonable?

By name, obviously.

So are you going to do anything about it like maybe Cali them to mention you weren't expecting the dog or just be argumentative on here? Sheesh

I noticed this too. Strange to refer to yourself as an auntie of someone that isn't a family member...

You can compromise and say that you have new carpets so you'd like the dog to stay in the kitchen. That is both understandable and not unreasonable, but maybe soften the sharpness of your tone when saying it.....

If they have a dog then I would have expected they had the dog with them on holiday in this country

Quite strange if you are so against dogs that you didn’t even consider the dog would be with them

What have you got against dogs.

They are members of the family or are you one of those who makes distinctions between true blood relatives and those that married into a family.

If you invited someone’s family over and there is mum, dad, 2 children they had together and an older child from a first marriage, would you exclude the older child because they weren’t family and you specified family

This. So obvious. OP wants to complain about “dog people” but can’t be bothered to to even talk with the people who have a dog. Just wants to be cranky and judgey.

Yes, dogs did go to pubs in the 80s. That's why I mentioned shops, cafes, and holidays, not pubs.

That sounds like a terrible boarding kennels, how sad for you dog.

It's also sad that your dog was able to get out of the house after you left and put itself in danger running down the road for a mile. 😢 The fact it was able to get out sounds dangerous and negligent - it could have been killed or caused an accident.

I love dogs - they're funny, clever, cuddly, and offer companionship. Some people, however, not so much.

It's quite obvious that OP has changed to this username for this thread, the name is tongue-in-cheek.

For a woman who doesn’t like dogs, OP sure sounds like a b*tch.

Cock lodger

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Best post of the thread!

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Wow…

And they didn’t think you’d mind the dog. I agree with a previous poster, don’t you people ever TALK to each other?

I know loads of people who get a sitter for their dog or put it in kennels if they're going on holidays in the same country! Certainly for hotel or city breaks that’s what they do.

Big difference between inviting Bil and his dw to your home when they are in their own home environment and you ask them not to bring ddog and inviting Bil and his dw to your home when they travelling home from their holiday with their ddog and your home is on the way back

They can organise a trusted sitter for ddog if they were in their own home.

But asking for them to organise a place they trust during peak holiday season somewhere in the vicinity of your home when they have made no secret that their ddog was with them on holiday is definitely unreasonable.

They will probably not bother visiting again and will drive passed you and go straight home
And they won’t bother visiting you for quite some time when they know they aren’t all welcome.

Buy or borrow a dog crate. Set in under a shady tree with a water bowl. Your guests will have dog food and blanket etc.
You are fine to say no dogs in the house.

You might be happy to set it up in laundry.
You might factor in having some meals and snacks as picnics in the garden or a nearby park - just to include dog as part of their family.

I adore dogs (home isn’t home without one in my opinion) but I would never take mine to someone’s house & I’m never too happy if people bring their dogs to mine.

Be super honest with them: ‘Hi guys, hope you’re having a great holiday. I saw your pics on Instagram & it made me realise you have the dog with you. I hadn’t considered you’d be bringing him. As much as I want to see you, I’m now on edge about the dog (sorry). I’m uncomfortable having him in the house but at the same time I really want you to stay and don’t want to come across as being uptight and unwelcoming. What were your plans with him?’

Yes we know, we never left her after that, lived in a nonexsitant village last bus was 17.40 she had 3 acres to potter only on the road as she followed us. She loved that car we had to leave the boot open as that was where she slept in the day it was a vomit orange Volvo. I agree about people.

I'm really surprised at the number of posters who' would assume a dog was coming too, especially to a non-dog household where it had never come before. I don't have a dog and none of my dog-having friends have ever just turned up with them, nor do they generally go on holiday with their dog. One dog friend brought their dog to dinner when I offered as it meant they could stay at mine longer, and even after that they didnt ever just assume the invitation was extended again.

OP @DoggyAuntie I would feel the same as you and suck it up to avoid awkwardness while inwardly seething! I think i would mention that I hadn't reaslised the dog was coming as I would want them to know, but I would not want to be a cow about it either.

Plot twist.
BIL and his wife arrive without the dog.
However they DO have the England Womens Rugby Team all squashed in the back seat of the car with them.

Well do they typically holiday with the England Women’s Rugby Team?

If a family member asked me to stay on my way back from holiday I doubt it would cross my mind to ask if they meant the dog too- because it is well known across the family that my dog comes with me on holiday. Friends I stop in on I’d check as some may not know- but surely you know what type of holidays they do?

That's fairly tactful

Look at you casually defusing the thread troll in one fell swoop! 👏

This! I’d get your DH to message and say he’s seen the social media post & is checking that they’re not bringing the dog! If they say they are, then he needs to tell them that the dog cannot be accommodated!