AIBU to think my boyfriend’s comment was unnecessary?

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For dinner tonight we had a meal from the chip shop. We shared a bag of chips amongst other things. The portions are genuinely massive so there’s plenty for two people.

I didn’t want that many chips but I like the small, crispy chips. I said this to my boyfriend- that I really only like the ‘small and thin ones’ - he replied ‘don’t we all?’

I am very tall and well built. I am not massive but I’m certainly not thin. My BF’a ‘type’ is petite women. Obviously I do not fit his ideal.

i asked him what he meant by this and he said that he was talking about the chips. However not ten seconds before, he’d been saying that he wasn’t bothered and liked all of it. He acknowledged that he knew that what he said could be interpreted as him talking about women.

Aibu to think his comment was unnecessary and that there’s no need for him to say this to me?

He thinks that I am being unreasonable.

Does he actively remind you of this often, or is it comments that could be taken either way? Because on the face of it, it sounds like you're overreacting to a very common (albeit lame) joke, but if it's part of a pattern of him being unpleasant, then you should just ditch him.

In what other ways is he ‘constantly’ communicating to you that he has a ‘type’ (petite/thin6 and that you’re not it?

Don’t date a man who objectifies women and ‘negs’ you.

I don't always 100% say everything right myself and may have made jokes that didnt work i am human just like a man is why do men have to be more perfect than me?

But people will be treated the way they let and people can label this what they want but put up with crap you get crap

Either he has a shit sense of humour or he is doing a weird type of negging that an ex used to do. E.g. I’d had a bad night’s sleep, he walked into the kitchen and said “God, you’re such a mess”. When I questioned his rudeness, he claimed he was talking to the hob…

It chips away at your self esteem and makes you feel a bit crazy that you are always taking someone’s weird “jokes” so personally. Is this the first time he’s said something like this or have there been other times?

If this isn't a one off comment then it is not a joke . Don't let someone belittle you and knock you're confidence . You deserve to be loved by you're partner , not compared to other women. Sly jokes are not funny

Ah, he's one of those insecure men who prefer petite women. Ever asked yourself why?

Given the context that you’ve provided, yanbu to think this was not about chips. He’s a rude, entitled cunt to keep going on that you’re not his type. Is he yours? Maybe time to remind him that cheeky little twats with small dicks (or whatever else might be relevant to include here) are not exactly your type either.

Just be aware and if it happens again, you've got a negger, negging going on...his insecurities

Next time order sausage and chips. When he asks for the big fat long one…..

plausible deniability is the whole point of these snide throwaway comments

He just came out with a joke spontaneously,

Next time order a large saveloy … pick it up and say “if only everything was as impressive”

No, he meant want you think he meant! Nasty.

You should have found the biggest chip and ate it suggestively whilst announcing big is best..

Nasty of him. He knew exactly what he was saying.

Thanks everyone. He swears that he only meant the chips so I have to leave it because otherwise I’m going to look insane.

I will keep my eyes open though. Thanks for some of the comments - they’ve made me smile.

It does sound like he is making a dig at you. You are not stupid and you know what he means.

Can't say you're wrong there

You are NOT being unreasonable, that’s an awful comment to make.

I think this is a difference in your sense of humour. Personally I found it funny and would have found it funny if my DH had said it.
Hope you at least got the small and thin chips. I'd be perfect to share a bag of chips with, as I hate the crispy ones!

I always find it weird when someone knows what their OH’s type is. No good ever came from knowing that. I don’t think he was talking about the chips tbh (mainly because I think most people prefer the ones that aren’t scrappy) and I think you probs know that. You know you can get someone who is your type and you are theirs? And never ask them who they find attractive. Ignorance is bliss!

Not all men who like petite women are insecure. That’s a bit of a sweeping statement.

My BF’a ‘type’ is petite women. Obviously I do not fit his ideal
Genuine question...why are you with him if you know you're not his type? And why is he with you if you're not his type?

You understood what he was getting at. Trust your gut. You’re the one that heard how it it was said.

I don't know, it depends. This is the sort of dumb joke my dp and I would make to each other, in fact I probably would have got in first by saying something "I love small thin ones - luckily for you".