AIBU to think this driver was a massive dick?

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The other day I was driving from my town to the next town, along roads I know very well, stuck behind a man (maybe late 50s) in a convertible BMW who was pootling along at 40mph on a 60mph road. Conditions were clear, roads were dry, it was daylight. Having followed him for a few miles, I got to the one part of the road where you can safely overtake, so I did, in a safe and controlled way. It is a long, straight stretch of road, nothing dangerous in what I did.

Something switched in this dickhead’s brain, and he raced along the road to catch up with me, practically got in my boot he was so close, and repeatedly flashed his lights at me. He carried on tailgating me throughout the next town, literally inches from my bumper, following me every time I turned off, and sporadically flashing his lights. I was actually heading to McDonald’s with DD and I was actually a bit panicked at that point, wondering if he was going to follow me in there to kick off at me. I left it until the last second to indicate when I got to the Maccies roundabout, and kind of swerved off the roundabout hoping he wouldn’t have enough time to decide to follow me. Luckily he didn’t, but gave a long blast of his horn as he went around the roundabout.

It shook me up a bit. What the fuck was going on in his head? This may be relevant but I drive an Audi, which I haven’t had for long. Is there some kind of BMW/Audi rivalry that I don’t know about? Or was this bloke just a massive cock who likes to try and intimidate women?

Male BMW driver… that’s it.

I guess he just didn’t like being over taken by a woman, the conditions you describe don’t seem to make you unreasonable.

if it helps, I drive a nice car. I get a lot of men in shit cars making merges in turn very difficult, or making it so they zoom off before me at traffic lights. It’s very strange.

It’s not that it was a BMW, it’s that he was a dickhead behind the wheel of a car. I had a similar thing happen with a male Volvo estate (not an SUV) years ago. It was nerve wracking and I ended up going miles out of my way to get away from him.

i hope you are ok.

Just a nasty angry bastard who has to spend every day of his life stewing in his own bile. Forget about him, he is his own punishment.

What an utter dickhead. Tailgaters are the absolute worst. So dangerous

This is 100% a him problem. Massive ego on a misogynist would be my guess.

Was he particularly short? Either that or small cock.

I’d have reduced my speed down to 40 for the rest of the journey.

First post could well have nailed it 😂

I find this one the funniest. I had a Corsa do this at the lights yesterday and I was like, erm OK, off you fuck then!?

He was in his own world at 40 and disliked being shown up by you overtaking. Not that you did, obviously your safe overtake was perfectly fine, but insecure man child felt threatened. What a twat. Well done for keeping your cool and getting away.

Hard to tell when he was sitting town but I don’t think he was particularly tall!

Shortly after he caught up with me, we got into the next town, so I did drive slowly, partly because it was a 20mph zone and partly because he was in my boot.

You damaged his fragile male ego and he had to prove how he wouldn’t let a woman get the best of him.

To make it worse I had DD with me, ok she’s a teenager, not a tiny kid, but even so.

Do you have dashcams? I’d report him for bloody dangerous driving you had DD in the car and if anything happened where you had to break, he’d be going straight in to the back of you. Stupid man

I do think some people don't realise how slow they're going until you overtake so then they speed up but this guy seemed to take it personally.

I was on the motorway late at night in March, pretty much no other cars. Came up behind one doing 50 and overtook. He waited until I was just past him but not pulled back in to nip out to lane 3 and overtake and roar off. Then the exact same thing again 20 minutes later. Nutter.

I’m always like ‘that’s cool, you zoom ahead of me at the lights, I’ll stick to the 30 limit and watch you speed. It was never a race’

I’m hoping one day I’ll have the satisfaction off driving past them as they are being pulled over by the police 🤣

No sadly not, but maybe I should get some.

He may not have been unreasonable to be going at 40, as so many country roads do not support 60mph. He was clearly utterly unreasonable to follow you and intimidate you, and for that was an utter aggressive irrational arsehole.

I have had this several times over the years. One in particular put a pretend‘follow me’ sign up as if he was a cop then proceeded to brake in front of me again and again. Eventually I turned off really quickly like you. They’re just twats with small dicks!

I think you’re right.

It’s not uncommon for people to drive slowly on that road, particularly at this time of year when there’s tourists about, I think he was just out for a drive in his convertible on a nice summer’s day and was in no rush to get anywhere. Which is fine, but it’s also safe to go a fair bit faster than he was!

He was / is a dick.

I had one the other day. My local town is always gridlocked at rush hour, made worse by roadworks. There's a right turn where the only way you can get out is to edge out into any small gap. Everyone is crawling along and people tend to let out alternate cars. Massive gap opens up, bell end is still going around a mini roundabout when I pull out. He spots me slams his foot on the accelerator and drives towards me, dd screams because she thinks he's going to hit the back of my car, he is swearing and shaking his fist. I spot that he has a dash cam so I gave him a friendly wave and a smile for when he shows his footage of that bitch who cut him up to the police they can have a good laugh about what a cock he was.

The flashing, bumper hugging and beeping is intimidation and actually just shows they haven't read the Highway Code.

There’s no way the fucker would have done it if I was a bloke.

You should have used your squirters. Drivers of convertible cars will back off immediately if they get covered in screen wash. A colleague who drove a convertible Audi A4 mentioned this to me a long time ago and I can vouch for it.