To add teacher on social media?

[CocoBean22]

DD finished school last week and the teacher she had is moving to Australia to live and teach there.
DD has become very fond of the teacher and would like to keep in touch and is sad that she is leaving the school and moving away.

Is it acceptable to add teacher on social media to stay in touch now that the teacher has left the school and moved to the other side of the world?
Or is it still not appropriate?

Definitely not. It would be unprofessional even though she's no longer at the school.
Also, and I mean this kindly, I would imagine that she wants to keep her personal and professional life separate. She may have really enjoyed teaching your DD but that doesn't mean she wants to interact with her outside of school.

No. Leave the teacher alone. Teaching is her job, not her social or private life.

Your DD is just one of hundreds of children the teacher will have taught/will teach. To put it brutally, she may have been an important person in your DD's life but your DD will not have been an important person in her life.

Your DD can learn that life is full of sad partings, but the important thing is to hold on to the happy memories and move on to the next stage of her life.

Our Code of Conduct says "Workers must not accept or propose contact, nor engage in any conversation with pupils on any personal social networking sites and should be circumspect in personal network contact
with former pupils, particularly those under the age of 18."

As I said, not forbidden, but a fairly strong steer that it's not advised.

No.

I'm happy to accept requests from ex pupils once they are over 18 and no longer in school.

If they want to keep in touch to let me know how they are doing at uni or in work then that's fine.

But no under 18s at all.

I would tell your dd to wait 10 years before attempting contact. Eg when she is an adult. Not appropriate at the age she is now.

Reminds me of the parent who gave the teacher a framed picture of their child as a leaving present.

Omg 🤣🤣🤣

You're absolutely barmy to even consider this. No. Just no.

@noblegiraffe oh that's Ace
What would you say on recieving such a mementoe..I'd have loved to have been a fly on the wall to hear that one.

I think it would be wholly inappropriate and the teacher would be unlikely to accept it anyway.

Your DD needs to realise that, nice and kind as I am sure this teacher is, their relationship is purely professional.

I’m friends with three of my former teachers on Facebook but it was after I left school when I added them (two of whom I knew through other circles). I left about 10 years ago.

No. Don’t be weird.

No… the teacher is very unlikely to want you/DD following what she gets up to in Australia. Just leave her as a happy memory!

Why would you think the teacher would want this?

No. Sorry. Highly frown upon if not disciplinary issue. Even having you on her social media and communicating with your DD that way is problematic

No , I think you are right in seeing the care you gave her child but she also gave the same to many others, life moves on, your child will learn this lesson in time .

Sorry she have your child

Why do you think the teacher will want to stay in touch with you?

Obviously she meant a lot to you and your daughter and perhaps during the short time she taught your DD, she may have meant a lot to her too.

But that's it for them. Every single year it's 30 kids in and 30 kids out - it's all part of the job they do.

Personal to you and your DD but really not so much for them.

DC1 (now 24) js friends on social media and in real life with 2 of their teachers. The friendship started after they started uni.

Nope

Sorry but no. I have been in position of a parent of a former pupil asking to add me and it was awkward we were not friends and I am already careful with what I post without having to take former pupils seeing my posts into account

No. Also an 11 year old shouldn’t have social media!

If you read my comment below she hasn’t it would be through mine.

Nope! that’s over stepping

Absolutely not. It's completely odd and strange.