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To be sick of politicians using 'fairness' as justification for tax rises?

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Itchthescratch · 21/07/2026 07:46

Fairness is completely subjective and I notice that this is often shorthand for giving more money to those that contribute the least.

Of course there will always be those that can't contribute much due to factors outside of their control, but we are kidding ourselves if we pretend that there aren't already lots of people that are scraping by doing the bare minimum (sometimes even less) and making completely irresponsible decisions knowing the state will ultimately insulate them from the consequences.

I personally know people that have had lots of children that they can't afford and can't parent properly simply because they wanted to. They are now on an incredible amount of money as the two child cap has been lifted. I know people that have stopped working because they weren't much better off than being on benefits and they couldn't be bothered with the hassle. I know young people that are already planning to stay on disability benefits their whole lives for mental health issues as they want to stay home and game.

Is it really 'fair' to charge the rest of us more to subsidise all of this?

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glitterpaperchain · 22/07/2026 10:04

Itchthescratch · 22/07/2026 05:54

I find it so odd that you want to challenge the concept of 'personal responsibility' as if it's some weird construct designed by the powerful to suppress the poor when in reality it liberates the poor. State dependency is bad for the individual and society and should be avoided wherever possible. You are literally putting yourself at the mercy of every electorate and every subsequent government decision. Encouragingly independence and self reliance is vital

I have literally just come from a thread where a young woman is making a profound life choice that could ultimately lead to a life of dependency on the state for herself and her future child. Many of us have faced similar crossroads before where we are conflicted between what we would ideally like to do and what is sensible and responsible. If we all opt for the latter approach then society ultimately breaks down. How many of us can take advantage of a safety net before it becomes overloaded and begins to snap under the weight of everybody?

'personal responsibility' as if it's some weird construct designed by the powerful to suppress the poor when in reality it liberates the poor.

I have to challenge this. Obviously in all areas of life there is personal responsibility, but using that as a reason for problems leads to fascism and it is ridiculous to say it liberates the poor when the system is against them.

A prime example is another thread yesterday about teenagers setting fire to a station. There were people on the thread saying that the causes were bad parenting and the teenagers just being little shits - both 'individual responsibility' that absolves the state of any responsibility.

This led to people suggesting we need to implement a licence to have children where you have to pass a test and be approved. This is literally eugenics which is a tool of fascism - saying that the government should have control of who can and can't have children.

Real freedom is freedom of choice, which is assisted by governments helping to remove obstacles of choice. I'd say a rise in instances like the fire etc are due to decades of underfunding services for both parents and youth, austerity, a terrible job and housing market, a general lack of prospects, support, and options.

If we continue to ignore the SYSTEMIC issues caused by the government and just place an emphasis on issues being caused by individual responsibility, this leads to people wanting the government to have more control over the individual, which leads to fascism.

ClarkeandNewman · 22/07/2026 10:04

GeneralPeter · 22/07/2026 10:03

No constructs need to be designed to “normalise inequality”.

Poverty and inequality are the natural states. The thing requiring explanation is how tremendously prosperous, healthy and safe humanity has become over the past two hundred years through to the present day.

That was done largely by invention, trade, science, capitalism, liberalism. It has led to what is probably the least exploitative elite class there has ever been.

Yes we should redistribute. That is part of the fruits of that prosperity. But some perspective also needed.

Gosh you're far into it aren't you?

Itchthescratch · 22/07/2026 10:07

ClarkeandNewman · 22/07/2026 09:55

Of course there is. Look at Taylor Gooby for a start, or academic research from the LSE*. Plenty of evidence out there on people's skewed perspectives and the way they're exploited by politicians and the media to manipulate public opinion and create damaging policy.

*The LSE found that people overestimate the levels of benefits given to some groups (families, older people) so they don't realise the amount of poverty caused by below subsistence level benefits and believe that the UK is overly generous.

No, that isn't the same as what I'm referencing which is studies that show how much the welfare state is abused. No large scale study has ever been undertaken on the abuse of PIP for example.

That LSE study proves that people frequently overestimate unemployment benefits but underestimate unemployment benefits for families with children and pensioners.

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GeneralPeter · 22/07/2026 10:07

ClarkeandNewman · 22/07/2026 10:04

Gosh you're far into it aren't you?

So which bit do you think is wrong?

Itchthescratch · 22/07/2026 10:11

ThingsAreNotWhatTheyWere · 22/07/2026 10:00

Well, I can only be amazed at the amount of knowledge you have about other people's circumstances - I neither know nor discuss my financial affairs with friends and family (well, a certain amount with family perhaps).
At least all this "discussion" about benefits online has taught be to be very cautious with who I trust and disclose personal information with.

Well they were delighted when the two child cap was lifted and weren't shy in letting everyone know how much they would be getting as a result. To be honest I would genuinely rather not know as it has utterly enraged me. Some people are oversharers. I also know two her kids have worms so there you go.

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ClarkeandNewman · 22/07/2026 10:13

Itchthescratch · 22/07/2026 10:07

No, that isn't the same as what I'm referencing which is studies that show how much the welfare state is abused. No large scale study has ever been undertaken on the abuse of PIP for example.

That LSE study proves that people frequently overestimate unemployment benefits but underestimate unemployment benefits for families with children and pensioners.

Ok time to make your mind up because whenever anyone addresses your point you claim you're talking about something else. Here it is, in brief.

You claimed evidence exists to prove that "people know other people that take advantage of the welfare state". It doesn't.

You claimed that there wasn't quality, peer reviewed research on people's attitudes towards benefits and whether those attitudes reflect the actual situation. There is. Loads.
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You need to be able to keep up and make your points clearly. It's an important skill to have, and avoids people getting so fed up with the shifting sands of your argument that they give up and go and have a cup of tea instead. Like I'm about to.

ClarkeandNewman · 22/07/2026 10:15

GeneralPeter · 22/07/2026 10:07

So which bit do you think is wrong?

Are you really doing this? Deliberately posting rubbish and slop and asking people to take apart that rubbish and slop point by point? Behave. See what I said about a cup of tea? I suggest you do the same.

GeneralPeter · 22/07/2026 10:19

ClarkeandNewman · 22/07/2026 10:15

Are you really doing this? Deliberately posting rubbish and slop and asking people to take apart that rubbish and slop point by point? Behave. See what I said about a cup of tea? I suggest you do the same.

All I see is a slightly conspiracist take from someone who folds when asked to clarify their view. It's all so tiresome, isn't it, being expected to take other people's views at face value and engage with them. The sheeple. Why don't they all just concede how wrong they are and how uniquely enlightened Clarke is.

Sartre · 22/07/2026 10:24

SadiraOfTyr · 21/07/2026 11:05

The issue is that higher rate tax payers are far more likely to have private health and dental plans. Their only contact with the NHS would be A+E, and possibly a GP for referrals (although many plans now include remote GP consultations).

I have work colleagues (many of them immigrants) who have had literally no contact with what we consider institutions: the NHS, state schools, council leisure centres and swimming pools, libraries, the list goes on. They have no experience of these and barely know they exist.

I’m a higher rate taxpayer. We have private health insurance through DH’s work but we’ve never used it because barely anything is actually covered under it. You still require the NHS for emergencies for example. We use the library frequently and DC are in state schools.

Itchthescratch · 22/07/2026 10:24

ClarkeandNewman · 22/07/2026 10:13

Ok time to make your mind up because whenever anyone addresses your point you claim you're talking about something else. Here it is, in brief.

You claimed evidence exists to prove that "people know other people that take advantage of the welfare state". It doesn't.

You claimed that there wasn't quality, peer reviewed research on people's attitudes towards benefits and whether those attitudes reflect the actual situation. There is. Loads.
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You need to be able to keep up and make your points clearly. It's an important skill to have, and avoids people getting so fed up with the shifting sands of your argument that they give up and go and have a cup of tea instead. Like I'm about to.

You need to work on your comprehension skills.

  1. I haven't actually stated that I had evidence that people know people that take advantage of the welfare system but plenty exists. For a starter, why is the results of the poll of this thread indicate that most people agree with the sentiment of my OP. If nobody had come across the type of people I referenced then there would be much more sceptivismLots of other polls have shown that people believe the rules are not strict enough and it's too easy to defraud the system.

https://yougov.com/en-gb/articles/50921-how-do-britons-feel-about-benefits-and-welfare-recipients
https://www.thetimes.com/uk/politics/article/majority-voters-benefits-payouts-too-easy-fraud-smq0p58tb

  1. I stated there wasn't a large scale peer revised study that focussed the true level of fraud for benefits like PIP. Someone else hijacked this to discuss attitudes towards benefits which is a completely different issue and there are loads of studies and polls on this including the ones I have linked.

How do Britons feel about benefits and welfare recipients?

While 48% of Britons feel that qualifications for benefits are not strict enough, few believe main recipients of welfare are receiving too much support

https://yougov.com/en-gb/articles/50921-how-do-britons-feel-about-benefits-and-welfare-recipients

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Paganpentacle · 22/07/2026 10:29

CurlewKate · 21/07/2026 07:58

I suppose it depends what sort of a society we want to live in.

One where the middle-ground are not totally rinsed.
We are absolutely not all paying our way.
Its an entitled expectation from certain demographics that someone else will pick up the tab.
Apparently Burnham may be asking people for 'a little bit more' .
But its always the same fucking people getting 'asked' isn't it??

Bewt · 22/07/2026 10:43

If the tax free allowance has remained the same for 6 years its already cost all those over it about 4k each assuming a 4% only increase and considering inflation is so much higher…
So a holiday, or car even!
Assuming you would pay 20%

I dont think a average 34k person could afford to live with the costs as they are even without housing costs.

Throwing money at UC and removing the cap doesnt help because many of the families do not work and dont intend to so just get more and more expensive.

I think i would put a suggested limit of number of x more a company can pay the top vs bottom employee. (Unless they own the company).

Companies should have to be sent a list of how much the lowest paid employee will have to claim from uc if they have / kids but work FT.

Assuming people need to pay minimum 12k year just for housing.

MaturingCheeseball · 22/07/2026 10:47

Dh has two nieces. One has never worked one day, has two dcs (no fathers involved - well, I suppose they were for two minutes!), a three-bed council house in a desirable commuter village, anxiety and a new motability car. She has plenty of time to do her own thing, walk her dogs, garden, meet friends etc.

Other niece went to university, got married, rents a 2-bed flat, pays childcare, has little free time and she and her dh live frugally to save up for a property in a meh area.

Who is the mug?

ClarkeandNewman · 22/07/2026 10:47

Itchthescratch · 22/07/2026 10:24

You need to work on your comprehension skills.

  1. I haven't actually stated that I had evidence that people know people that take advantage of the welfare system but plenty exists. For a starter, why is the results of the poll of this thread indicate that most people agree with the sentiment of my OP. If nobody had come across the type of people I referenced then there would be much more sceptivismLots of other polls have shown that people believe the rules are not strict enough and it's too easy to defraud the system.

https://yougov.com/en-gb/articles/50921-how-do-britons-feel-about-benefits-and-welfare-recipients
https://www.thetimes.com/uk/politics/article/majority-voters-benefits-payouts-too-easy-fraud-smq0p58tb

  1. I stated there wasn't a large scale peer revised study that focussed the true level of fraud for benefits like PIP. Someone else hijacked this to discuss attitudes towards benefits which is a completely different issue and there are loads of studies and polls on this including the ones I have linked.

You're at it again! Do you not realise that what you've said is there for everyone to read?

Tell you what, don't bother wasting my time replying directly to me any more unless you can (a) remember what you've already said and (b) answer sensibly and appropriately to the point being made.

TTFN.

Itchthescratch · 22/07/2026 10:54

Bewt · 22/07/2026 10:43

If the tax free allowance has remained the same for 6 years its already cost all those over it about 4k each assuming a 4% only increase and considering inflation is so much higher…
So a holiday, or car even!
Assuming you would pay 20%

I dont think a average 34k person could afford to live with the costs as they are even without housing costs.

Throwing money at UC and removing the cap doesnt help because many of the families do not work and dont intend to so just get more and more expensive.

I think i would put a suggested limit of number of x more a company can pay the top vs bottom employee. (Unless they own the company).

Companies should have to be sent a list of how much the lowest paid employee will have to claim from uc if they have / kids but work FT.

Assuming people need to pay minimum 12k year just for housing.

I suppose the counter argument to that is:

  1. We live in a global economy with a rapid rise in automation and AI. We are at risk of basically pricing out lots of jobs if we expect one FT NMW job to support a family with potentially multiple children. This could look like paying someone £40k plus in London to work in a cafe. It's obviously completely unrealistic and unsustainable. Nobody will buy our exports as they will be too expensive. Everyone will question if you need to hire a human or if it can be automated using AI for much cheaper.
  2. I think Child Maintenance is a huge issue and irresponsible parents being allowed to shirk most of the responsibility for their kids in terms of childcare and the associated sacrifices. This should be cracked down on much more.
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GeneralPeter · 22/07/2026 10:54

@ClarkeandNewman

Ah, found the post you referenced. You said:

You need to be able to keep up and make your points clearly. It's an important skill to have

So, can you? Do you have this skill?

Itchthescratch · 22/07/2026 10:54

ClarkeandNewman · 22/07/2026 10:47

You're at it again! Do you not realise that what you've said is there for everyone to read?

Tell you what, don't bother wasting my time replying directly to me any more unless you can (a) remember what you've already said and (b) answer sensibly and appropriately to the point being made.

TTFN.

Quote me then. I challenge you. Find the exact statements that prove what you're suggesting. It should be easy if you're right.

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Shatenoeuf · 22/07/2026 10:56

Im sure i'll get flamed for saying it but

Lower earners in the uk actually dont pay enough tax & social security contribution, compared to most other developed countries.

Our personal allowances encourage people to get used to earning a part time wage & paying very little tax. Then it can feel hard to progress to higher incomes where you lose more in tax.

In most other countries, social contributions (equivalent to NI) are higher and start from "the first euro".

In the uk a huge slice of the workforce contribute very little in tax & NI.

The government cant invest to grow the economy unless more money can be raised

Itchthescratch · 22/07/2026 10:56

MaturingCheeseball · 22/07/2026 10:47

Dh has two nieces. One has never worked one day, has two dcs (no fathers involved - well, I suppose they were for two minutes!), a three-bed council house in a desirable commuter village, anxiety and a new motability car. She has plenty of time to do her own thing, walk her dogs, garden, meet friends etc.

Other niece went to university, got married, rents a 2-bed flat, pays childcare, has little free time and she and her dh live frugally to save up for a property in a meh area.

Who is the mug?

Oh shush now. I'm sure you have imagined your nieces or completely exaggerated their circumstances. Where is your definitive proof that they exist?

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ClarkeandNewman · 22/07/2026 10:56

Itchthescratch · 22/07/2026 10:54

Quote me then. I challenge you. Find the exact statements that prove what you're suggesting. It should be easy if you're right.

I'm saying your argument changes any time someone refutes it. It's all there in the thread.

Remember what I said about not wasting my time?

Itchthescratch · 22/07/2026 11:01

ClarkeandNewman · 22/07/2026 10:56

I'm saying your argument changes any time someone refutes it. It's all there in the thread.

Remember what I said about not wasting my time?

No, you have made a few very specific accusations that should be easy to prove. Here's one:

You claimed that there wasn't quality, peer reviewed research on people's attitudes towards benefits and whether those attitudes reflect the actual situation. There is. Loads

So find the post where I claim this. You won't be able to because I never did. You have constructed your own straw man arguments and ignored what I've actually written and then suggested I've forgotten my own arguments.

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ClarkeandNewman · 22/07/2026 11:18

Itchthescratch · 22/07/2026 11:01

No, you have made a few very specific accusations that should be easy to prove. Here's one:

You claimed that there wasn't quality, peer reviewed research on people's attitudes towards benefits and whether those attitudes reflect the actual situation. There is. Loads

So find the post where I claim this. You won't be able to because I never did. You have constructed your own straw man arguments and ignored what I've actually written and then suggested I've forgotten my own arguments.

No, you haven't forgotten your own arguments. You rely on the hope that other people will have forgotten what you've said.

This is getting beyond tedious now. I won't be answering you regarding your poor form on this thread any more so feel free to have the final say. Bonus points if you insinuate I'm condescending or don't know what I'm talking about.

Itchthescratch · 22/07/2026 11:21

ClarkeandNewman · 22/07/2026 11:18

No, you haven't forgotten your own arguments. You rely on the hope that other people will have forgotten what you've said.

This is getting beyond tedious now. I won't be answering you regarding your poor form on this thread any more so feel free to have the final say. Bonus points if you insinuate I'm condescending or don't know what I'm talking about.

Thought so. I don't really need to insinuate anything. People can draw their own conclusions

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SadiraOfTyr · 22/07/2026 11:28

Sartre · 22/07/2026 10:24

I’m a higher rate taxpayer. We have private health insurance through DH’s work but we’ve never used it because barely anything is actually covered under it. You still require the NHS for emergencies for example. We use the library frequently and DC are in state schools.

Same here. But we have to accept that a lot of high earners, especially if they are expats/immigrants, simply don’t use these services and don’t see why they should pay for them. I’ve had these conversations with work colleagues and it can be infuriating.

BIossomtoes · 22/07/2026 12:23

SadiraOfTyr · 22/07/2026 11:28

Same here. But we have to accept that a lot of high earners, especially if they are expats/immigrants, simply don’t use these services and don’t see why they should pay for them. I’ve had these conversations with work colleagues and it can be infuriating.

What do they use if their house catches fire or they’re burgled? What do they drive their cars on?

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